What is the "delay" with hc

Anjou:
My fiancé wants to do a rapid gain before our wedding in October. He really had no health issues from his 50lb gain over a few weeks last fall he told me last night (which was confirmed by his annual checkup, but the wheezing and heavy breathing he did made me afraid af for him at the time he was drinking over a quart of cream a day)and seems to really becoming more of a gainer again(but with healthy food like nuts and whole grains) since I went on Wegoy after we got engaged in April and am really getting thin for the first in my life. And since we are both really getting turned on by the contrast, I might ok a rapid summer weight gain with heavy cream


Some advice from a feeder that's been there before more than once.

Make sure he's eating healthy overall.
Make sure he's getting exercise.
Treat this like a marathon and not a sprint. Take regular gaining breaks.

The most intense weight gain session I've done was a constant stuffing session for a month straight. He got fatter fast, but it was hard on his body. Rapid weight gain sessions work best is short spurts.
2 years

Fitting room experiences

RoundRosy:
Had to buy a top today that I tore when trying on….. This only happened once before when I was like 14. Woman working the area said something to me like I should keep the top for when I lose a few pounds. And had a smirky smile as she said that. I quickly left and dropped the top in a collection bin. Then got McDonald’s in the way home…..


Wow. That was so rude of her. Hardly something anyone in customer service should be saying to a customer.

I'm sorry you went through that.
2 years

Feedism dirty talk?

S3ndh3lp:
What constitutes dirty talk to you in this fetish?


Teasing my partner about his weight and/or appetite

Comparing my smaller, fitter body to his much bigger 400+ one

Pointing out all of the changes I made to his body

Talking about our fantasies and how I plan to make them reality
2 years

At what point does a bbw becomes a ssbbw?


Munchies:
There's actually a lot more body diversity in male and female bodies. I'm not sure why so many people thing that men only gain one way or women only gain another when there's so much evidence to the contrary.

For example, I knew this guy at work that had the most exaggerated pear shape I ever saw. From his torso up, he looked like he was in the low 200s. But he looked twice as big from the ass down.

Curiousv:
"There are more right-handed people than left handed ones."
"No, you are wrong! There is so much evidence to the contrary! For example, I know this guy who is left-handed."


What an odd way to say you have poor reading comprehension and don't go outside.

But that's okay. I can explain better for you.

Nycfa:
I wasn’t saying that it’s an absolute but, as a generic observation, the female body generally seems to distribute gains more randomly than male bodies.

This is the crux of the disagreement.

Generally, men gain weight in their bellies while women gain weight in their hips, thighs, and butts. However, this isn't always the case. There are a number of contributing factors as to why someone gains a specific way: genetics, hormone levels, health conditions, diet, etc.

Nycfa simply stated that fat women tend to have body diversity and fat men do not. I disagreed with him on that statement. I know that you're not into men, but if you scroll through the bhm side of the feedist community (or look at fat men in general) you'll see that this is the case.

But we are going off topic. This thread is all about determining the line between bbws and ssbbws.
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What is the "delay" with hc

Anjou:
My fiancé can really handle the cream, and he can pack on easy 12lbs a week consuming it

ILuvChubbyChix:
12?!

Are you sure that's not fluid/water retention?

Can I also guess this means he probably works 100% remote?

Munchies:
Based on my interaction with a previous feedee, it's possible. However, you have to go balls to the walls hard to achieve that. We're talking an excess of 10k calories a day. We were horny and dumb.

It's not sustainable, and it can mess up your internals. I do not recommend it.

Anjou:
I am sure a fair amount was water. But yes he was hitting around 10,000 kcal a day when he was working from home.
And no it is not healthy, hence not done anymore. Ngl though…watching him gain that fast was the hottest thing I have ever witnessed.

Munchies:
Oh yeah, it was super hot. I'm into extreme weight gain, so seeing him blow up like mad was really arousing.

However, he was reckless with this health, and that's one of the many reasons he's no longer my feedee.

Nofbar:
How much and fast did he gain? What happened to make this stop?

Munchies:
In half a year, he'd gained about 100 lbs. He got obsessed with heavy cream shakes. He'd consume about 10k of the stuff daily at the bare minimum.

The problem is that he stopped eating solid foods. Everything was about getting as fat as fast as possible. And in his mind, drinking his calories made more sense than eating.

There was a noticeable behavior shift as well. When we first met, he was this funny, thoughtful nerd with many interests. He was doing well in life overall. But about two or three months into being like this, he left all his responsibilities to the wayside.

His cognitive skills nose-dived. He was making a lot of dumb decisions, and we got into a lot of arguments. If I had enough sense, I'd have dumped him at this time. But I felt responsible, so I stayed.

Unfortunately, he started pulling away from me and ignoring my requests for medical updates. I wanted to make sure he stayed relatively healthy. He wanted to keep getting fat. And I also suspect there was an element of shame too. Kept going on about how he didn't deserve me.

Eventually, I had to make peace that this was going nowhere good and ended the relationship. I don't know if he actually stopped.

DMVGrower:
Wow that is concerning, sort of sounds like he got caught up in the whole thing. I mean 100 lbs in half a year is astronomical.


Yeah, but what can you do?

Stuff like this is why I do what I do so much in this community.
2 years

What is the "delay" with hc


Munchies:
You made a mistake when you shortened my response. You attributed my words to someone else.


Nofbar:
Whoops! Fixed.

👍
2 years

Should we educate ourselves when it comes to a fetish?

Fattenssbbws:
I agree with your sentiments. I maintained an athletic build for years and always encouraged the women I was with to gain weight but I never really understood what they were going through. I decided at the beginning of last year that I was going to put on some weight just to see what it was like.

Originally it was going to be a one month gain. I weighed 165 at the time. Next thing I know, I'm going to my yearly physical at the beginning of September and I weighed 206. I lost some weight just by reforming to my normal eating habits and by December 2022 I was down to 195. I decided to start gaining again and I'm currently 207 but would like to hit at least 215 by the time I go in for my next physical at the beginning of September. I've noticed certain things I used to take for granted like tying my shoes is hard to do now. I do like the white stretch marks that I now have on my thighs, hips, and butt that were never there before but I'm disappointed I don't have any on my belly since that is what shows the greatest gain. I don't know how to get them because I've already gained rapidly. Also, my belly has softened from my original gain when it was much firmer but I'd like for my tummy to be more flabby and jelly-like if anyone has any suggestions on that.

I feel like I have a lot more empathy now though for BBWs than I had before my own gain.


I've spoken to a lot of (mostly female or AFAsmiley feedees. They mostly agree that fat feeder or mutual gainers tend to be far more empathetic than feeders that have always been thin or in shape.

This isn't to say thin/fit feeders can't be empathetic. But if you haven't experienced something, you owe it to yourself and your feedee to get educated. Most of the resources are free and require little to no prior experience to get started.
2 years

What is the "delay" with hc

Nofbar:
How much and fast did he gain? What happened to make this stop?

Munchies:
In half a year, he'd gained about 100 lbs. He got obsessed with heavy cream shakes. He'd consume about 10k of the stuff daily at the bare minimum.

The problem is that he stopped eating solid foods. Everything was about getting as fat as fast as possible. And in his mind, drinking his calories made more sense than eating.

There was a noticeable behavior shift as well. When we first met, he was this funny, thoughtful nerd with many interests. He was doing well in life overall. But about two or three months into being like this, he left all his responsibilities to the wayside.

His cognitive skills nose-dived. He was making a lot of dumb decisions, and we got into a lot of arguments. If I had enough sense, I'd have dumped him at this time. But I felt responsible, so I stayed.

Unfortunately, he started pulling away from me and ignoring my requests for medical updates. I wanted to make sure he stayed relatively healthy. He wanted to keep getting fat. And I also suspect there was an element of shame too. Kept going on about how he didn't deserve me.

Eventually, I had to make peace that this was going nowhere good and ended the relationship. I don't know if he actually stopped.

Anjou:
Mine did not stop eating healthy foods; but he was becoming addicted to seeing the rapid gains cream can bring.
I think for a gainer heavy cream can act like a body building steroid. The gains can come so fast and easy that it creates a body image issues.
But a 100lbs in six months is crazy


It was terrifying. I worried about him that I couldn't get off without feeling extremely guilty. He'd tell me not to worry - that he was taking care of himself. But I didn't trust or believe him.

I love extreme weight gain, but my limit is the health and/or comfort of my feedee. If I don't know how their health or comfort is being impacted, I can't enjoy it.

I'm grateful for my current feedee. We're on the same page about most things and communicate well. I never have to worry about him getting sick or dropping dead on me because we nip the problems in the bud. We're actually on a gaining hiatus, and he's losing weight for now.
2 years

Should we educate ourselves when it comes to a fetish?

Raboot The Admirer:
It's good to read a post like this. I'll be honest, this community scares me sometimes, and part of the reasons why are those people that seem unable to draw a line, unaware of the extent of the consequences all of this can have.
Reading health advice from someone (into feedism) that knows what they are talking about is also super helpful.


I notice a lot of feedists avoid anything involving health like the plague. There's this level of shame, so they avoid thinking about it and focus on the fun bits.

I get where they're coming from, but it's not a good idea. That's like your doctor prescribing you medication without checking your medical history. It's super dangerous and it can mess you up in a big way.

Feedism is taboo. It challenges many social norms in a major way. So if you've committed to feedism in some way, you have to challenge your internalized isms - particularly fatphobia. And if you can't do that, you'll end up hurting yourself and/or others.
2 years

What is the "delay" with hc

I want to make it abundantly clear that I understand eating well won't cure depression - especially chronic depression. It helps, but it's not a cure.

I am only referring to how malnutrition impacts mental health.
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