Eat butter

Softy90:
Can my stomach withstand 1 kg of butter, 250 grams of powdered sugar and cocoa mixed together or does it make me sick?

Heterosexualmalegainer:
You'll have to try is and see what happens. Everyone absorbs nutrients differently.

Happy gaining!


Hun, this is basically a chocolate-flavored laxative. There's nothing to bind the oil. Nothing to aid absorption. In fact, the sugar will make it worse than just the butter and cocoa alone. It will go straight through them.
2 years

Handling upset stomach

Finickyfeedee:
I feel very frustrated because I want to start gaining again, but every time I eat even a little more than normal, I have been getting horribly sick to my stomach and unable to eat much of anything the next day - sometimes without even hitting my calorie maintenance requirement on the day I was trying to stuff because I get sick. This has always been a little bit of a problem for me but usually not so severe, and now it’s become unmanageable. I don’t have any specific food intolerances that could be causing it but I do have IBS, and what’s especially been triggering it is fat or protein - even in very small amounts, like a couple slices of lunch meat or a glass of milk, which has made it not only difficult to gain but also extremely difficult to keep a balanced diet or even live my life since I’m always sick in the bathroom. Has anyone else struggled with this? What did you do to make it stop? The only thing that seems to help calm my stomach down temporarily is heavily restricting how much I eat down to almost starvation levels, and that not only makes gaining impossible but is also extremely unhealthy and risks causing me a relapse in my eating disorder, so I wish I had a different solution.

Munchies:
Have you sought medical attention?

Finickyfeedee:
Yeah, I have - 4 different doctors, actually, over a period of several years. Every time they’ve done a bunch of tests, not found anything, and then said something along the lines of “I don’t know, I guess it’s just IBS.” It’s flaring up worse than usual recently, but it’s been an ongoing issue for most of my life and even this level of flareup isn’t unprecedented.


Even if it is just IBS, couldn't get to get help managing the symptoms.
2 years

Is my girlfriend a secret feeder

Jacen1008:
She is always encouraging me to eat more. It's definitely shown up on me and she has been playfully pinching or poking my stomach and sides lately.


Not necessarily. For some people, feeding people is a love language. Also, she might be playfully teasing you. The best thing to do is ask her. Communication is key.
2 years

Teaching normies to be feedees

AskDrFeeder:
I've heard this story many times. A person has no interest in feedism but is persuaded to try it by their feeder. They gain some and by their partner's reaction realize how erotic feedism can be. It starts to turn them on, and before you know it they appreciate gaining on its own merits. They'll want to continue even if they break up with their partner.

Has this happened to you? Can you add any details? (I've heard of this happening many times but no one seems to be able to describe it very well. )


Why feedees and not feedists?

I digress.

Can't teach someone to participate in a kink they don't want to participate in. And if they do, there's no guarantee they'll participate in it the way you want them to.

All you can do it kink negotiations. Maybe they'll be into it. Maybe they won't maybe they will decide they prefer to be feeders, mutual gainers, or fat admires than feedees.

Open, honest communication is sexy. It can be a little scary, but you owe it to yourself and your partner to try.
2 years

Handling upset stomach

Finickyfeedee:
I feel very frustrated because I want to start gaining again, but every time I eat even a little more than normal, I have been getting horribly sick to my stomach and unable to eat much of anything the next day - sometimes without even hitting my calorie maintenance requirement on the day I was trying to stuff because I get sick. This has always been a little bit of a problem for me but usually not so severe, and now it’s become unmanageable. I don’t have any specific food intolerances that could be causing it but I do have IBS, and what’s especially been triggering it is fat or protein - even in very small amounts, like a couple slices of lunch meat or a glass of milk, which has made it not only difficult to gain but also extremely difficult to keep a balanced diet or even live my life since I’m always sick in the bathroom. Has anyone else struggled with this? What did you do to make it stop? The only thing that seems to help calm my stomach down temporarily is heavily restricting how much I eat down to almost starvation levels, and that not only makes gaining impossible but is also extremely unhealthy and risks causing me a relapse in my eating disorder, so I wish I had a different solution.


Have you sought medical attention?
2 years

I want to be fat, but i dont want to be fat...

Jolene:
But then i still have this small issue of wanting to just let go and balloon out- i dont want to be immobile, but i want to be huge- i want to eat what i want, when i want. I want to never have to feel hungry, which is my next issue- i can eat and eat until i can barely breath, but i dont feel full- i learned a long time ago how to tell if i was full or not, but that feeling of satiety is non existent for me- its a constant struggle to not overeat at every meal- and i hate seeing food go to waste- and so i find myself finishing my plate, and then my wifes, or whatever is left in the pan before i realize im overeating again.
Then i struggle to stand up to go lay down because im so full and i hate myself for being so heavy. Then i make to my bed, where i get undressed, and i see and feel my huge body as i lay down and get comfortable, and suddenly im back to wanting to be huge again. Bottom line- im a mess. Maybe i should try hypnosis...


Therapy in general may be helpful. At the very least self-reflection is needed. Ideally, feedism should feel like freedom. It shouldn't feel like misery. Find out why you feel compelled to stuff yourself so much. Once you figure out the root of your problem, it's easier to deal with things.
2 years

To fat to date

Morbidly A Beast:
Yes, but I am almost gonna guarantee most fat guys would find more enjoyment from a hot Philly cheesesteak than sex, all I’m sayin

DollyXXDimples:
*dresses up as a Philly cheesesteak*

Ah, thats much better.

P.S. Not to braaag but... I know a very dreamy fat guy who would enjoy eating a Philly Cheesesteak while having sex with me.


2 years

To fat to date

Morbidly A Beast:
Yes, but I am almost gonna guarantee most fat guys would find more enjoyment from a hot Philly cheesesteak than sex, all I’m sayin smiley


*Looks at my fat partner*

I sure do hope not. I don't think I'd recover if he'd rather have a hot Philly instead of sex with me.
2 years

To fat to date

Munchies:
I agree with everything except for the last statement. That one is a matter of personal taste. Some people like it or love it. And others are ambivalent or hate it.

That said, to OP, it's a good idea to figure out if you want sex because you enjoy it or because you're if you want sex because you feel you're supposed to want it.

Morbidly A Beast:
While it’s true it’s a matter of personal taste i would say it’s not worth basing your entire value as a human person on having/getting or receiving/ able to have sex. Because it is a bit meh, tbh.


Yeah, basing your entire value around sex is unwise. But the second part about sex being meh is something I don't think we'll ever agree on. On account of your libido being low and mine being extremely high (typically need it at least once a day, but some days more).
2 years

When you decided to start gaining…

Sanderson1018:
What were the first steps you all took? I’ve made the decision to put on 10-15 lbs and see how I enjoy it. I’ve been into this fetish for so long but never considered gaining until recently. I’d like to see how it feels and looks on myself.

How did you all go about it? All in? Baby steps? I’m curious to hear all of your stories. I hope they can ease my nerves and help me find more confidence in this.

Munchies:
Trigger warning for toxic/abusive parenting and borderline ED


I started my gaining journey for two reason: spite and body dysmorphia.

I've been underweight during my childhood due to illness. It was hell. But what made it worse is that my mother would project her insecurities on me and try to make myself stay that was.

For context, I was 115 lbs and 5'6".

I tried to gain once. I put on 2 lbs and was finally in the healthy weight range. My mother flipped out on me and started talking a lot of craziness. She'd say things like I was fat and going to kill myself or that since we have "Asian bones" I couldn't go off of the BMI to say I was underweight.

To this day, I have no idea where she got the Asian bones thing. We are not Asian. We are mixed with some things, but we are predominately black. I asked her about it years later, but she doesn't remember due to head injuries she sustained later. I digress.

I lost the weight (it was muscle) to get her off my back, but I hated it. So one day, I decided to take control of my life and do what I want.

I was hard. Not only did my body work against me for years, my mother would hurl all kinds of abuse at me to make me lose the weight. Ironically, I'd look at myself and see a woman who was too thin instead of the bloated cow my mother insisted I was.

I've stopped gaining now that I am finally happy with what I see in the mirror. I'm no longer cold all the time, I can find clothes that fit, I don't get sick as much as I used to, and I'm far more confident these days.

Sanderson1018:
I’m really happy for you. That was a very emotional read and it wasn’t what I anticipating when I asked, but I appreciate you telling me. Learning about everyone’s experiences is so valuable and yours is an important reminder that everyone’s journeys are different and unique, not always in the happiest of ways. I’m glad you’ve come out so strong and happy in the end, and I hope that continues for you long into the future.


I appreciate that.

I will say there are a lot of users on this site that used some aspect of feedism as a form of healing. They may or may not post on this thread, but I've seen their stories in the forums before. You should browse the forums. Lotta good stuff on here.
2 years