BigBoyBravery:
Had anyone on here thought about being in a thruple type relationship? If so, how do you imagine it??

I love contrast so I've always pictured myself with a big broad meaty body builder type dude that clearly doesn't skip leg day and a toned calorie counting cutie gf with a booty. 🥰

All three of us striving for totally different bodies and lustfully intoxicated by each others differences.

Munchies:
The key to writing a good sex scene: vanilla or otherwise, is transporting the reader into the scene. Not as if they are spectators but rather active participants.

Here are some articles that helped me when I started writing sex scenes ages ago:

dianagabaldon.com/2012/07/how-to-write-sex-scenes/

dianagabaldon.com/2012/07/how-to-write-sex-scenes/

dianagabaldon.com/2012/07/how-to-write-sex-scenes/

Another important element of a good sex scene is character design and the choreography. Just as artists and animators have references or act out certain scenes, writers can do the same. It brings cohesion to your work and can make some aspects of writing easier.

I see many stories here that describe characters in ways that don't make any sense. For example, a writer might describe a woman as "fat and busty" when she is 5'6", 130 lbs, and a B cup. That will ruin the immersion for anyone who knows what such a woman would look like.

I found this site ages ago, and it really helps figure things out:

dianagabaldon.com/2012/07/how-to-write-sex-scenes/

You can select a gender, height, and weight to find tons of matches. Just flick through the photos until you find the body shape you're looking at.

In terms of scene choreography, there are many different techniques. You can act things out alone, with a partner, or make rough sketches. Hell, even crude stick figures will do. Don't be afraid to make notes or reread previous scenes so you can keep relevant details in mind.

Letters And Numbers:
Those links are all great and well worth reading for any authors out there!

Bigfatjeebus:
Thank you so much for this information!!!!! Honestly this is what I have been looking for for so long.

In regards to your question, losing weight puts me into a deep depressive spiral and completely shuts off any sexual desire and really messes with how my body generally feels (it feels...gross ) when I lose weight.

I essentially have the opposite reaction as to when a civilian feels when they gain weight.

I've talked with numerous therapists over the years about this and it really isn't meeting criteria at all for BDD or any other mental health disorder. While I do have mental health issues, they are the typical ones most people experience (anxiety and ADHD).

So it puts me in a very tough spot if I had to lose for physical well being. So I'm trying to maximize how I can stay or gain at this weight. Don't get me wrong...I absolutely love the size I am now...and if I had to cash out and remain this size I'd be totally happy. But gaining to my goal weight has always been a dream of mine before I die.

MickRidem:
Like you, and for my own many reasons, weight loss puts me in a depressive spiral as well. I recently got the "high blood sugar" alert and I'm trying to cope.

BoysRCute:
Saw my doctor and a specialist. I’m insulin resistant and getting that gross dark dry skin. I have to lose weight. I wanna lose it while I’m still in my 30s so I can find a partner who is attractive still in their 20s. I’m 38. No more getting off on weight gain. I fear that if I wait too long then young 20s won’t be interested in me and generally I don’t find 30s and up attractive because they look too old and adult. So this weight loss has to be done quickly.

Spike
Your post has a lot of red flags. The doctor thing is fine but the "I only like young attractive partners and need to look hot for them" maybe isnt the way to go?

People like personalities.

MickRidem:
This past year I broke my knee, and have dealt with major stress with my parents. (With a recent confrontation in April and panic attack level) With those things, from last Aug to Dec, I gained about 10lbs. Not much, right?

The combo of no workouts/zero cardio and stress, means that weight gain came at a "perfect storm" time. My blood sugar is high, my blood pressure is high. And I'm really mad. I had previously been gaining slowly, muscle and fat - exactly what I want, for 3-4 years. Health was 5 stars.

I DO NOT want to lose weight, I am *finally*, in my late 40s, sooo happy with my larger body.

I'm able to walk with 2-3 mins of a "light jog" on the knee. Not enough, so I'm taking up heavy bag work/boxing. I'm back at the gym doing my regular workouts. Stupid knee. Parental stress remains and I plan on seeing them far less or not at all if it gets worse. (I do go to a therapist.)

I'm swapping out for low glycemic foods, making more efforts to drink more water, back to daily exercise, etc... Next blood sugar blood test is in two months, and checking BP regularly. I want to stay healthy. 👍

But... I was hoping to gain MORE. 🐖 I'm trying to see this as a reset, but I'm struggling. This seems so unfair. I was in "perfect" health, and I'm finally loving my body, and I get blammo-ed.

Munchies:
Nuts, high fat fish (e.g. salmon), avocados

Basically any food that's naturally high in fat. It will take longer to gain, but it won't spike her blood sugar. You can get nuts and avocados for cheap - not too sure about the salmon.

As a side note, I'm also a type II diabetic. I find that cinnamon is good for stabilizing blood sugar. If she can't eat enough to make an impact naturally, there are OTC supplements that you can get at your local Wal-Mart.

There are a lot of natural remedies for managing diabetes. She shouldn't stop taking her medicine, but it can help get it under control.

MickRidem:
Having just discovered high blood sugar and BP (I also posted about this in the Health post) I could use a little info, too, that the doc wouldn't provide. 🤣

I *don't* want to lose weight. From what I've read so far, I guess overeating/stuffings are out? I'm swapping in low glycemic foods when I can, and no dessert. 🥺 Avocados gross me out, but nuts I can do. What about 18% cream and cheese? Is pasta okay? Is a LOT of pasta okay? LOL! I've been putting cinnamon in my coffee and on toast, any other places I can add it in?

I do weightlifting, but I don't want to fully "recomp" (trade fat for muscle) as I want both. 🏋‍♂️🐖😁 Any tips would be appreciated.

Angy523:
Update: We went to the mall last week and he tried some jeans, the size he thought he wears...he could barely button them.

Also, we were walking in the park today and at some point he just told me he should start exercising again because he started to sweat just because of walking.

Meanwhile, he really use his belly to put me in the mood. He asks me to touch it, to play with it, during sex sometimes he even tells me that his belly is mine to do whatever I want to with it.

Spekbil 123:
Reality and fiction.
First the legal issue. The play by the Swedish playwright Lars Noren was played by university students at the Belgian university of Gent in 1981. It was and is under Belgian law completely legal, as it was in Sweden and as it was in Holland. You are legally a minor until you reach the age of 16 years there.
And it still is as a work of art. The example was ment to show that in fiction a convincing way of telling the story is important. Noren made his point in the dialogue between the two actors.

It is not about me or my partners sexual preferences in real life. There is the difference between doing something and writing about something. Writing about vanilla tends to be boring as writing about certain variants of BDSM can be.
The only thing i want is helping people to write better stories that others can enjoy.
Nothing more and nothing less.

Munchies:
I notice a lot of feedees and gainers on this site don't want to gain unless they have someone to gain for. I get why. Having someone to love and support you through your changes is lovely.

Unfortunately, changing your body to please someone else never ends well. It's nice to have someone who loves they way you look, but ultimately, you should only do it for your own happiness.

DMVGrower:
That is a good point. For me and maybe others it is more like, it is something I want, to gain that is. But I also want a relationship and this state of mind is not a common one. I mean I am sure it is more common than one thinks but feederism/gaining is certainly rare. So it is sort of like a bet hedge in a way, like sure I can start gaining and keep going and maybe never find someone because of the majority of people being disgusted with my size. Or I can keep the weight down and find someone who isn't into it and just sort of store the fetish in the back of my mind forever.

So that brings us to finding someone into it, now I already want to gain, and now I found someone who also wants me to gain? Jackpot!