Can I borrow them, please? I need some carrying around. And I know they could do it, since they carry you.

I really really do understand that some people can't be seen by colleagues, but then I don't think face pics are safe, regardless of press or not.

Some of us have to be brave and do what we can. I would not like students to find me, so I don't have face pics here. But I have and will continue to allow photos of me to appear in places where I think few students are likely to turn up.

But if I'm honest, I would like to be braver than I am. It's a work in progress.

A very sympathetic piece on us, with several FF folks quoted and referred to in the story:

www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/mar/18/women-obese-donna-simpson-gainers

Amatrix, go try 'em. I really like 'em. Think of hot polenta before it solidifies, and that's kinda close. Sort of.

And you can have 'em sweet or savoury. The mushroom recipe looks great!

I agree with the posters who say experiment. I'm not as fat as some women here, but I have had partners who were small enough to make it difficult. The pillow idea helps, sometimes side positions work better even than missionary. If I remember correctly, there's some good advice in Hanne Blank's *Big, Big Love* that might be worth looking at.

I'm going to go out on a limb here. One lover I had was so small that he didn't even want to try, and he was right. He was happy to play with toys, though, and we had LOTS of fun without penetrative sex. It's worth remembering there are other things, both to do and to be penetrated by. Just sayin'.