Mukbang content: yay/nay?

Urchie:
Most mukbangs are just people eating, cutting the footage, spitting it out, and repeating. That or vomiting it up. If they're actually eating it all I say yay but otherwise nay


Not overly fond of mukbangs because eating noises, but I love the ones that actually gorge themselves silly and get fat.
3 months

How did you overcome your fears and concerns? advice for new feedee

CrazyCoconut:
Hi All.

When you first decided to start gaining and getting huge, how did you overcome your fears and concerns about getting huge? I'm just starting my gaining journey, hoping to become bedbound and spend the rest of my days eating. I'm struggling with completely letting go due to fears of being so huge, the obvious health issues that come with it, how family and friends and coworkers react to my increasing size. I'm also by myself so I have fears of becoming immobile alone.

How did you overcome those fears when you first started actively gaining? Especially as you got bigger?


Something to keep in mind is planning and reasonable goal setting. You also need to make peace with life happening.

If you're afraid of getting immobile alone, then you need to do two things. The first is figure out how fat are you comfortable getting by yourself. The second is finding a feeder that is enthusiastically supportive and will be your life partner.

Some fears and concerns are worth ignoring like people judging you for gaining weight. However, logistical concerns should be taken seriously and addressed.
3 months

Skin remedies

Bigwideland:
If you have folds for belly appron my experience is to not have clothes that get between skin folds. You will likely get rubbing and irritation. I wear pants over my belly
I wash will antibacterial soap, use antifugal creams weekly. Dry folds with a hair dryer. Keeps most issues in control. As the leg shafing it seems to be at a certain weight your legs rub now bigger they roll on each other more than slide. However I recall using fleximul tape to help.

Munchies:
What does the tape do? Are you using as a barrier? Is this like boob tape where you kinda ... pin things out of the way?

Bigwideland:
The tape is a skin friendly tape it's helped as the friction was tape of pants not skin on pants. This tape is also used under sports taped as a irrigation barrier.


Learning things!
3 months

Losing weight to gain weight?

Voluptuouslover:
My wife recently lost weight I believe on some diet drug. She dropped around 15 pounds I would guess. Which at her height of 5’ 3” really shows up as quite a loss in my eyes.

I am really hoping she gains it back pretty quickly with this thought process on this link.

Does anyone know typical time frame the weight can creep back up eating normally again?


Hey man. Support your wife's choices. If she wants to lose weight, then be a man and stop waiting for her to regain it.

Love your wife in all her forms. Love her no matter what she weighs. Waiting for her to regain is not loving her. That is you being selfish and putting your wants over her bodily autonomy.

Be a better husband.
3 months

A matter of perspective…

Pudgymars:
I wasn't alive then, so I can't say with certainty, but I've read about how historically fatness has been treated.....I guess it is going up, but very fat people have always existed, at much more than 190lbs, and been a part of art and culture. Before health insurance and BMI in the states especially, fatphobia existed, but nothing like what we see now, as I understand it (by medicalizing & classifying it as a disease as opposed to bodily variation).
My guess for the 1970s would be either a. the author does not understand the weights at which people are commonly seen as "very fat" (which is still a problem now. I see fics online treating 300 as if it were 500-600 lbs) ,or b. doesn't understand the measurements well, maybe he was more accustomed to metric? Also, in the 90s in the states, BMI was shifted to categorize even less people as "normal" weights- many became classified as "overweight" or "obese" literally overnight, so 190lbs would probably, at least medically, considered even less fat in the 70s.
While perhaps much less common, I just don't buy that very fat people were so exceedingly rare unless you go back in to a time, place, and group where starvation is commonplace (and even then, you will have outliers in a large enough group if any of them are not actively starving, because fatness is partially just genetics).
If you look at the visual art made across history and cultures, fat and very fat people are represented throughout. (There is also a racial element to this- fatness became associated as a negative characteristic alongside being associated as a black characteristic specifically. sabrina strings' "fearing the black body" talks about this development in detail. really interesting read especially in light of how all forms of fat sexuality are seen as deviant/inherently kinky.)
(Also also, while not a problem, I think 5'5 as very short is a little funny- I'm 5'4 and have met tons of people shorter than me, so I usually don't consider myself all that short. But I guess it just depends on the people you're around unless you're looking statistically, and it's not a bad thing, just perspective.)


I'm impressed you know about the anti-black roots of modern fat phobia. Not many people know that fatness was more accepted in western culture until it was tired to racist stereotypes about black people.
3 months

A matter of perspective…

Dr Tim:
So, the other day I was rereading ‘The English Assassin’ by Michael Moorcock. I haven’t read it in about thirty years so wanted to see how it had fared. Anyway, that’s by the by, what struck me was a brief passage where two of the characters, who are both supposed to be quite to very fat, end up in bed together. They are described as having a combined weight of 380 lbs. I did something of a double take when I read this as this doesn’t seem to me to be particularly heavy for one person, let alone two!

I guess what it made me realise is that back in the 70s, when the book was written, the percentage of fat people out there was probably a lot lower. Also, what people considered to be very overweight was a lot different to where it is now. Even from my first time visiting FF way back in the mists of time when it was VERY pink (iykyk!), people showing themselves off at 380+ lbs was relatively rare.

I guess where I’m going with this is probably something a lot of folk have realised over the years is that my perspective of what I consider to be big/fat has changed over the years. What at one point was a rarity now seems quite ordinary. Not very interesting, I know, but I just wanted to share,


That's crazy.

A combined weight of 380 would make both parties about 190. There's no mention of their heights, but most fictional men during this time would have been about 6 feet. That gives each man a BMI of 25.8 - merely overweight. And on the low end of overweight at that.

You would have to be pretty short - 5'5" approximately - before you enter class 1 obesity. So it then begs the question of what the author considers very fat.
3 months

Skin remedies

Bigwideland:
If you have folds for belly appron my experience is to not have clothes that get between skin folds. You will likely get rubbing and irritation. I wear pants over my belly
I wash will antibacterial soap, use antifugal creams weekly. Dry folds with a hair dryer. Keeps most issues in control. As the leg shafing it seems to be at a certain weight your legs rub now bigger they roll on each other more than slide. However I recall using fleximul tape to help.


What does the tape do? Are you using as a barrier? Is this like boob tape where you kinda ... pin things out of the way?
3 months

Transformation fetish

Enas:
After a quick look at muscle transformation artwork... Im still a bit troubled. But at this point, im more troubled with the articulation, which can be a phylosophical thing more than anything. I have one example i can give. I certainly have a sexual interest towards muscular women. The articulation problem comes here. Is it fair to label that interest per se as a fetish? There are some reasons i would avoid doing that. The interest in muscular women is there because i have this fantasy of being in the hands of someone so powerful i could not resist, etc. Which means its not necesary that i like muscular women on their own, a muscular figure on a partner, for me, serves into making the sub/dom dynamic more real, or more extreme, or whatever, right? So, shouldn't maybe the sub/dom thing be labeled as a fetish by itself, instead?

Then of course there are all sorts of arrangements. For example one could say that both are fetishes. Someone could even say that they both are just one fetish and the articulation is bad because in it, they are seperated when they shouldn't.

All that kind of makes it hard for me at least to answer a question of "is X thing a fetish"? (Which is similar to "Is X fetish a thing?"smiley

Uhm, maybe its a bit easier to just think of all this as a big box with everything about sexuality, and the criteria for if a thing can be included in it would be "Something that alters how you'd wanna have sex"?

Edit: I hate it when some characters turn into an emoji... FF please change that... 🫠

Munchies:
Lord have mercy.

Enas, it's not that deep. If you like muscular women, but you don't feel like it's a fetish or a kink, then it's not.

Enas:
The thing is what i described is going to be a problem when i need to articulate my fetishes to some hypothetical partner. I could describe just the fantasies, but that has its own problems.


There is more to sexuality than fetishes. If the shoe doesn't fit, don't put it on.
3 months

Friends/ family/ coworkers commenting on weight gain

MarkSeanDavis17:
I'm petty AF with family members who tease me more than once. One off comment? Sure whatever, ha ha. Come at me again and I'm asking you about whether this 3rd marriage of yours is really "the one." Hell, I'll go after someone for being a shitty parent. That shuts them up real fast.


Oh to be a fly on the wall in that moment.
3 months

Friends/ family/ coworkers commenting on weight gain

ObeseCleopatra:
It's a daily thing lmao


Never underestimate the power of setting and establishing boundaries. It's what I had to do with my mother who used to do the same thing to me. It can be scary at first. But eventually the get with the program.

I get being concerned about health and quality of life, but there are ways you can go about doing that while also being respectful.
3 months