Angy523:
Sometimes I think my bf is in denial. For instance, today he wanted to buy a t-shirt. He is one size bigger than he used to be, but he still tries the old size first when he wants to buy clothes. But today he didn't only took the old size to try, he also asked me if he should try one size smaller (before he put the t-shirt on so he didn't know how it will fit). I was shoked. After trying it, his old size was clearly too small, so a size smaller wouldn't fit him for sure. Even the t-shirt his current size was a little tight so I didn't understand why he asked me if he should try a smaller size than his old size.

And no, he doesn't think he lost weight or smth like this. He actually told me yesterday that he think his belly got bigger and he asked me if I think the same.

Angy523:
We went to vacation for those days. I'm wondering how much he will gain until we get back home. I can tell we're both eating more since I feel full all the time and he's eating much more than me.

Munchies:
Sounds like you two are loving life. Do you still mind gaining weight too? Or have you grown indifferent?

Angy523:
I don't mind gaining a little during vacation if I'll lose it after. But I still don't feel good about getting fatter.

ForeverFFA:
Does anyone else experience the issue where they repeatedly form intense romantic bonds with people who just aren't their type sexually? If so, how do you deal? The problem isn't about being ashamed of finding fat people attractive, but that it would feel terrible to dismiss someone who is amazing to me in almost every other way except that one.

Munchies:
It's not that hard. Don't be shallow and find things about them you find attractive.

ForeverFFA:
Fair. But my issue isn't the will to find other things about them attractive: my fetish is frustratingly hard-wired, to the point where I struggle to get in the mood from anything else. It's been a conversation that I've mostly avoided in past relationships like that out of awkwardness (and not wanting anyone to feel like they had to change for me), so I just went along with things I didn't enjoy.

ForeverFFA:
Does anyone else experience the issue where they repeatedly form intense romantic bonds with people who just aren't their type sexually? If so, how do you deal? The problem isn't about being ashamed of finding fat people attractive, but that it would feel terrible to dismiss someone who is amazing to me in almost every other way except that one.

Krayjay:
Have you thought about trying to bring him into your fetish? Find a way to make it erotic for him too? Maybe something simple like chocolates during sex, getting excited when he grabs your softer spots ect

Gettingbigger:
I just hit 300 pounds after being 268 in March. My new partner wants me to continue gaining but I’d like to adjust to my new size.

How long should I ask for?

Miachu:
just want to say a big thank you to everyone for the kind words and support

Me and my boyfriend have decided to give each other some space to reflect on how wee feel ect. I'm taking it in my stride and aren't going to get myself down about it

Angy523:
We went to vacation for those days. I'm wondering how much he will gain until we get back home. I can tell we're both eating more since I feel full all the time and he's eating much more than me.

Johnxyz:
I'm not really understanding the reactions here. If we think it is OK to have a preference for a larger figure, why is not OK to have a preference for a smaller figure? It sounds like the boyfriend did not know how fat was fat. Or maybe he just changed his mind. In any case, it would appear that the two are no longer compatible, and it is time to move on. He thinks she will change and lose weight. She thinks he should change and accept it. Thinking someone will change, is probably the biggest killer of relationships.

Ifmusicbe3:
Someone getting fatter in theory is different from someone getting fatter in real life - especially if it’s accompanied by differences in behavior, habits, etc (as is often the case, especially with large amounts of deliberate gaining). He probably expected this to stop earlier, or to be different somehow, or he didn’t realize how he’d feel until it happened.

You are not a bad person for having your desires. He is also not a bad person for having his reactions. If you plan on continuing to gain, and he is not on board, it’s best to amicably part (irreconcilable differences) than to drag it out.

MarieTrans:
I would argue he is being a bad person for saying hurtful things to her just for her personal desires for her own body