What happened?

I'm also shocked about the turn this took. I had an extremely mild take, too. Hardly controversial.

Do you realize how childish you are being right now? You are taking things out on a person who wrote several paragraphs validating your situation. The only I disagreed with you about is comparing your experiences to transphobia.

You need to take 5 minutes to cool your head and realize that not everyone who disagrees with you on something is against you.

If you don't want to read what I wrote, that's fine. But you don't get to make assumptions about me based on your incomplete perceptions.

No. The first few sentences were about why you shouldn't compare your situation to transphobia. The rest of my message was about why you are experiencing what you are experiencing and what you can do about it.

Why are you making judgements about my opinions without even reading my opinions? Don't you realize you are doing the very thing you say you hate being done to you?

Yeah. Still doesn't mean you have to snipe at a fellow feeder.

I also want you to understand that feeding someone has a different level of significance to different people. On the low end, feeding someone is just a fun thing to do. It's all no strings attached, and everyone has a good time. On the other end, feeding is a sacred bond that should only happen with someone important to you.

None of these approaches are wrong. It just comes down to what's right for you.

Wow. Okay.

Look, while I know you are just posting to blow off some understandable steam, there are a sizable chunk of people on this site that will co-opt this thread to say some of the most messed up things about women. I see it happen all the time.

So I, a woman who is also a feeder and has been on this site longer than you have, am trying to nip certain things in the bud before they start.

And if you read what I wrote, you will see that I didn't invalidate anything you said. I was even empathetic. I simply provided more context to certain experiences to keep the thread on topic and discourage certain people from dumping on women.

Didn't read what? What I said or something else? A lack of antecedents makes it confusing to know what you mean.

Little bit of an apples and oranges situation. Transphobia is a big deal - lots of life ruining or life ending situations they gotta deal with. What you are going through is an inconvenience.

Being a male feeder on FF comes with its own struggles. You will get a lot of messages from women and people pretending to be women trying to take advantage of you.

You will need to be careful because the bulk of these people are scammers. They are looking for a gullible mark. It's best not to engage or take anything to heart. If you do fall for a scam, please let the site admin know. They take this stuff very seriously.

I also want you to understand that your experiences as a male feeder are going to be very, very different than a female or trans (FF only has a catchall transgender or no gender category) feeder. The most you'll typically deal with is scammers, entitled people, and the occasional horny guy who refuses to read. The other groups will be treated based on their gender first and their fetish second. And that's assuming the other person will even consider them as a feeder.

I will say that if you want a more peaceful experience, switch your designation from feeder to fat admirer. Fewer people will message you.

You may ask "Why is it that I have to deal with this at all?" Simply put, patriarchy. Men are expected to provide and take care of women. So, it makes you prime targets for scammers and entitled people. It's not fair, but that's simply how society is.

And it works. I've heard tales of many desperate, lonely men who throw will eagerly pay money to anyone who asks to be fed. They are insecure in their masculinity. As such, they will do anything that makes them feel like a man - even if it hurts them.

Honestly, I think we should let OP speak for herself. She can say what her own desires are. We shouldn't put our own views onto her - weight loss or weight gain.

If she responds to this thread, that's fine. We shouldn't push her in one direction or another. That's for her to decide. If she doesn't reply to this thread, that's also fine. It's not our business unless she makes it our business.