I often dreamt of what it would feel like to ever be that fat but it is more fantasy than reality because once you hit four hundred pounds that is where you really start to feel that I am fatter than I realize. Two flights of steps actually makes gets you exhausted and steep hills are too much. I am good with trying to get near MY SIX HUNDRED LIFE ........
5 years
For me, it was looking at television and seeing when sitcoms would have characters who got fat which morphed into me loving fatter women and they teaching me that I needed to see fat philosophically and I later had a mentor who taught me how he approached this lifestyle.
5 years
I used to feel ashamed because I was always a good cook and I enjoyed bigger females and then that germinated to me being a feeder which made me more mindful and thoughtful but over time that morphed into me being more of a feedee. It is just a change in your mindset. Most of us have an ego and we care too much what folks that don't support our preference thinks about us. My obstacle was overcoming what I thought folks were thinking about me and it was an older feedee named Jada who told me that: "if you liked your fat then who cares what anyone thinks because most of the time we think folks are watching us when they don't really care and they don't !" And she was right. The fatter I became no one paid me any attention and there is freedom in that. Some of us in this fetish do it because it is exciting to have likes outside of the norm but for me it is about a self actualization. I wanted to see how fat could I become and I evaluate it every thirty to sixty pounds and if it becomes too much of a burden then I will stop until then I want to have the experience of waddling and having a gut that hits the top of my legs as I try to walk and it is liberating to realize no one but you cares about it anyway.
5 years
John Smith:
Yes and not. From my experience as a feeder, the receiving side of Feederism comstitutes alone a much broader bracket of innate, shared or odd philosophical onsets. Some feedees are craving for attention: others for validation, self-expiation out of an act of social or political rebellion, to indulge into some form of "situationship" from which they wouldn't otherwise engage or commit further if there have not such common fixation, to ever release and tame out their libido while involving within a repressive (often ultrareligious or medieval-minded) social environment that tend to shame sexually-freed single women out of wedlock and the list goes on and on.
Sometimes, we are not even dealing with actual proper feedees but either all-round foodies what I may define as "latent or semi-latent potentials" who may been triggered by a lenient erotic purpose from one romantic or ludic interest.
Well said and spot on....
5 years
NeverSayWhen:
Those interested in the erotic aspects of gaining often have a built in dopamine response to eating calorie rich meals and getting bigger. The gaining turns them on and when they're turned on, they're inspired to gain more.
Gluttony and freedom to eat what you want is directly linked to the erotic pleasures of feederism. I don't know if you can parse them out like that, as they are all part of the same equation, aren't they?
I think what holds most gainers and feedees back is the social pressures and the health concerns of gaining too much weight. They're nervous that the sexual pleasure won't outweigh the social stigma.
THIS is how I am completely...
5 years
LilRascl:
Yes, given the way you describe your feelings towards it, it’s possible this fetish will always have a place in your mind. The way I looked at it, back when I was on the road to getting over my anxiety about that, (you are not alone in this), was this:
If you’re after a monogamous/traditional type LTR, you neither need nor want *everyone* to be a viable partner - just one, maybe more throughout a lifetime. This kink/fetish/whatever you want to call it, gives us an opportunity to really whittle down our prospective dating pools. True, this also often acts as a downside. But in my experience it’s nowhere near as disheartening than trying to find FA’s on normal dating apps.
Your other option is to choose not to acknowledge your fetish, and practice ignoring it by living a romantically and sexually more vanilla lifestyle. Plenty of people are closet feedists; I was though all my relationships before I decided to give gaining a go. Personally I thought both then and now (over 150lbs later!), that to live like that is a waste of a life. Not just because of the kind of relationships I’ve gotten to have since, either. I’ve been living my best life this whole time, single or otherwise.
Hope this helps 😊
Well said and spot on
5 years
First you must admit that this fetish is something that registers with you and that it gives off a dopamine and serotonin boost just like it does us but it doesn't have to take over everything within your life but I do think that one has to go through the obsession stage to be able to harness it because for some of it is the essence of who we are. I have always dreamt of myself as obese and an older female whom I dated showed me the psychedelic aspect of gaining and I confirmed for a job and after my best friend died it showed me that I could not go on without being what I once was but I didn't want to go over board. My limit will always be five hundred but when I feel like losing then I do and when I feel like gaining then I do but I harness it an it took practice but I never let the obsession take over because I have that same trait to completely let go like immobile folks do but I can be immobile. I can have a hanging gut and waddle but immobile is too much for me. As far as the relationship aspect, I would say either date within the community or date cultures who would appreciate it because that is what I did and I only date women who enjoy fat men....
5 years
The only one that I have tried was maca root and it has plenty of benefits which differ between women and men but the one bonus is that it boosts your appetite and it works
5 years
The fatter both men and women become they take on the same shape the fatter they get and the fatter a male gets his testosterone starts to wane and estrogen levels rise. When I hit 400, my body was more sensitive than normal because one has to get used to the fat because it makes your feel like you are on another body so I had to get used to jiggling and my gut and chest moving as I waddled because one doesn't walk at that weight and I just felt flabby....
5 years
I would say take it slow with her then you can sort of tell her the philosophy of the fetish because the fetish is uniquely different for each person.
5 years
