Blimp Bizkit:
So for context: Me and my GF has been together for more than a year now. We both love each other very much and are happy together She is a bit on the heavy side as well but does not desire to gain weight and is not a part of the feederism community. She is atm trying to loose weight which I respect, as I know she is not feeling comfortable with being very big.

She is pansexual and I know she loves me for who I am and I know she really does not mind my extra weight at all (She has even stated it herself quite clearly on it).

She practically knows everything about me, but she does not know that I want to actively gain weight and become fatter.

I know deep inside that she would be okay with it, as long as it does not go too far of course, but I am also a bit anxious on how to bring it up or talk to her openly about it more. I know she loves me for me, and has even said "if you gain weight, there is just more to love".

I dont want to toss her straight into the feederism world, but just start slowly with "I want to gain weight and I like being fat" and take things as it comes.

I just dont really know how to say it or bring it up really, I just feel anxious over it as I have never really told anyone (outside the feederism community) about what I really want and I guess im just building up the courage to bring it up to talk about it with her.

I think my big fear is that she will become afraid that I will become far too fat and put myself at a health risk, with me saying I want to get fatter. I know she is respectful of peoples choices and their own bodies, but I know she would put her foot down if she feels like something can be potentially dangerous.

Sweetpapi:
Thanks for answers! Now I know that it was a silly question 🙄😊 I don't have extremely fast metabolism, I used to be fatter and ate a lot less than now... But some time ago, I lost weight very quickly (not even intentionally!) and I did not expect that gaining weight again will be such a tedious work! 😉 if anyone else has any opinions, I'll be glad to hear from you! ❤️
Greets from Poland

Fatchance:
Wait, based on what you just wrote you need to get some blood work done. That sounds like a hyperactive thyroid and that can cause lots of other issues besides not being able to gain weight!

Sweetpapi:
Thanks!
I suspected it, because I have acne since couple years and no external medicaments helps. But I didn't know it could have an effect on metabolism as well!
I'll do blood tests immediately and let you know!

Sophie115486:
weight gain should not be exacerbated during pregnancy even though tantalizing, many complications can be bad for mother and baby.

Morbidly A Beast:
Do you mean like gyno or just fat where pectoral muscles would be?

English Feeder:
Given up with the links.
Your find them on YouTube if you're interested folks.

Voluptuouslover:
This is exactly correct in my case.

My wife has always gained the most weight during the times I have cooked for us and co tiny ally stocked the freezer and pantry with all her favorite desserts and snacks. Out of now where I developed a sweet tooth and desire for snacking along with her and grew a huge gut. Typically she would start to watch her weight or diet after gaining 20+ lbs. but every time I gained along with her from meals and snacking she just kept going right along with me.

I lived the mutual gaining and apparently she did to, or possibly it just made her feel secure knowing that her 40+ lb. Gain was not only matched by me but I overshot hers by 20 lbs. we were both fat & happy and eating partners.

If you want your man to get nice and fat, you may pack on a lot of lbs. at the same time by becoming eating buddies, always snacking and eating huge meals together all the time. You will be surprised by how much more he will eat in a sitting along with continual eating, never really seeming to get full.

My wife used to barely finish her plate then complaining she was so stuffed and couldn’t eat another bite. From this she now multiple plates I served her along with directly eating a pint of Ben n Jerry’s for desert and once she was finished with that an ice cream bar followed by Oreo cookies & chocolates until she went to bed. Once you get their appetite big gaining is super easy…… it your appetite will increase like this as well.

Angy523:
Well, I still hope I won't gain too much. I'm 177lbs already...he's only 185lbs, but I hope he'll be 200lbs until the end of the year. I am going to the gym so this should help, my big problem is we have snacks all around the house and I can't resist while he's missing (he's going to work 8hrs a day) so I end up eating more than him.

Munchies:

Hey, no shame in that. Baby steps. Rome wasn't built in a day.

Coincidentally, this is the same advice about increasing your boyfriend's capacity. Gotta work up to it. In many ways, stuffing is like training for a sporting event.

You already know your boyfriend's capacity. My advice is stuff him to the point he's comfortable stuffed and go slightly beyond it. Over time, you'll notice it will take more food to get him to that point.

Feel free to increase the intensity later, but for now, this should suffice.

Afterwards, be sure to give him belly rubs. It helps with digestion as well as getting any trapped air out. You may even find he's willing to eat a bit more after a good belly rubbing session.

Angy523:
We don't do that yet, I just let him eat how much he wants to and when he feels he wants to. He decides how much he eats. I take it easy, I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable. He just got used with the belly rubs and belly play. Lately he didn't eat that much, but the good part is he didn't start to go to the gym either. I take it slow, I know he didn't feel comfortable when he was fatter in the past, he doesn't even like to see those pictures. So I let him gain slowly (I'm hoping for a nice gaining in december with the holydays, but I'll see what's happening) and maybe he'll get comfortable with the extra weight. I hoped he will gain faster since he started so good, but I'll see what happens

ILuvChubbyChix:
Sometimes, while walking around, I notice this and have been for awhile. So far, it hasn't been that big of a deal and it's not that extreme, but I know this is only ever going to get worse. I guess it's just one of those things that comes with no thigh gap. I just know it'll be even worse if and when I develop negative thigh gap (where if you keep your legs straight, it's difficult or impossible to place your feet side by side.

This thigh rub action only seems to occur at the top 1/2 of the thigh, or top 1/4 of the inseam length, which makes sense since that's where the thighs are thickest.

The TMI warning section:

I've also noticed it this often seems to collide with my "junk" which is occasionally annoying, so I probably want to think about "support" for that too.

End of TMI section.



So far, I've been using boxer shorts. I suppose briefs might offer better support, though that'd do nothing for slight thigh rub.

The possibly obvious answer might be to consider using boxer briefs. I had tried that before a long time ago, but I had a problem of it stretching out too much, possibly because of the wrong material.

So then I wonder.. could some materials be more resilient from getting stretched out of shape than others? Could being stretched out of shape be the cause of it being too tight? But if too loose or properly sized, would it still offer the same support?

Guess I'm not sure what to get. For obvious reasons, I can't try before I buy. But I would hate to buy something that ends up being nearly useless. So what I'm hoping for, is a possible starting point? Or if there's other solutions I haven't thought of.

Not really sure where I'm going with this, but I can't help but think there's a better way, somehow.