Change in sex-drive

FAMGM:
So, since 27 January 2023 I have put on 72 lbs. I have noticed a significant change in my sex drive through this process.

First, let me explain the method.

This very rapid growth is the result of regaining. I have basically eaten as much as possible at every opportunity, I’m averaging 9,000-10,000 cal per day.

I have also largely abstained from orgasm during that period. I have masturbated to orgasm probably 3 times since 27 January, and not once in the last fortnight.

This is a notable change. For most of my adult life I have been content with one orgasm per day. Sex with another person has come in on top of that — my basic needs have been stable.

I have essentially been using the pent-up horniness to drive more gorging. It has worked very, very well, and at first, I was overeating whilst extremely erect, often whilst edging without permitting release.

As time has gone on, though, my erections have become less frequent, though I am still highly aroused, and I’m losing interest in my cock as a source of pleasure.

Today, for instance, after a 3,000 cal breakfast, a 2,000 cal top up breakfast, a 2,500 cal lunch, and then a 3,000 cal second lunch, I looked down at my semi-erect cock, and thought, “I could masturbate… or I could have a short nap and eat more”. I chose the latter.

In short, I’m finding profound sexual gratification in overfeeding myself stupid amounts of food, and in fattening up rapidly — gratification that is more satisfying than the “normal” method.

Does anyone have any experience in this sort of shift in sex-drive?

Munchies:
Having spoken to a lot of men on this site, it's fairly normal around here. Even more so if you are rapidly gaining weight and are over stuffing yourself every day. Plus, it seems you're inadvertantly training your brain to see food as a source of sexual pleasure over orgasms.

I will say be careful. The longest time I've stuffed my partner was a month. During that time, he'd eat around 10k calories or more. Gained about 20 lbs and had some indigestion to go along with it. Poor guy barely ate the first few days after we stopped

The body needs a break to rest and recover. You can inadvertently mess up your internals from constantly eating and stretching your body to the max every day.

FAMGM:
Yes. A rest is due soon.

I attempted a pause this week, but got carried away. 🫢


I recommend the step-down method. This works best with my partner when we've gone balls-to-the-walls insane with stuffing him.

The first week, you shouldn't stuff yourself. Only eat until you are comfortable full. Then, for the next few weeks, go easy on the snacks and reign in your portion sizes. Nothing drastic. Just a gentle tapering. You'll still gain weight during this time, but your body will have a chance to recover.

Also, if you aren't doing it already, make sure you take care of your knees.
2 years

Change in sex-drive

FAMGM:
So, since 27 January 2023 I have put on 72 lbs. I have noticed a significant change in my sex drive through this process.

First, let me explain the method.

This very rapid growth is the result of regaining. I have basically eaten as much as possible at every opportunity, I’m averaging 9,000-10,000 cal per day.

I have also largely abstained from orgasm during that period. I have masturbated to orgasm probably 3 times since 27 January, and not once in the last fortnight.

This is a notable change. For most of my adult life I have been content with one orgasm per day. Sex with another person has come in on top of that — my basic needs have been stable.

I have essentially been using the pent-up horniness to drive more gorging. It has worked very, very well, and at first, I was overeating whilst extremely erect, often whilst edging without permitting release.

As time has gone on, though, my erections have become less frequent, though I am still highly aroused, and I’m losing interest in my cock as a source of pleasure.

Today, for instance, after a 3,000 cal breakfast, a 2,000 cal top up breakfast, a 2,500 cal lunch, and then a 3,000 cal second lunch, I looked down at my semi-erect cock, and thought, “I could masturbate… or I could have a short nap and eat more”. I chose the latter.

In short, I’m finding profound sexual gratification in overfeeding myself stupid amounts of food, and in fattening up rapidly — gratification that is more satisfying than the “normal” method.

Does anyone have any experience in this sort of shift in sex-drive?


Having spoken to a lot of men on this site, it's fairly normal around here. Even more so if you are rapidly gaining weight and are over stuffing yourself every day. Plus, it seems you're inadvertantly training your brain to see food as a source of sexual pleasure over orgasms.

I will say be careful. The longest time I've stuffed my partner was a month. During that time, he'd eat around 10k calories or more. Gained about 20 lbs and had some indigestion to go along with it. Poor guy barely ate the first few days after we stopped

The body needs a break to rest and recover. You can inadvertently mess up your internals from constantly eating and stretching your body to the max every day.
2 years

Legally qualifying for disability

Nofbar:
I've been told that any application for disability will be denied at first. You'll need to repeatedly apply and/or get an attorney to help.


Sorta. About 70% of all initial applications are rejected every year. Some medical conditions are all but guaranteed automatic approval. But with numbers like these, it's best to get an attorney if you can afford it.

For the purposes of this discussion, obesity and obesity related complications would be an uphill battle. And buy the time OP's girlfriend is ready to apply, the laws may get stricter.

Feel free to get this article out to get a bit more in depth information:

www.disability-benefits-help.org/blog/top-5-reasons-why-social-security-disability-claims-are-denied
2 years

Legally qualifying for disability

Miachu:
So getting to fat to work (like immobility) can get classed as a disability?

Thats wild if true


Eh, sorta. Being obese isn't enough to qualify for disability. It would have to contribute to other medical conditions that greatly limit your ability to function. The questioning is very invasive and it's not unusual for the government to reject the request.
2 years

Loving your body in public

Casual Gainer:
Update to my previous post.

So for the last couple of days I've been continuing to no longer suck my gut in after decades of doing so.

As before I've still yet to hear any comments.

But today I faced what I think was the ultimate challenge.....family.

In the end neither my parents nor my brothers seemed to notice or they didn't care, including the one who I especially thought would be the one to say something, in fact he joked about how I would be able to eat an entire Large pizza by myself (which of course I did).

Tl;dr: Nobody seems to care and I'm just going to continue being myself.


You will find that most people do not care about what you look like. Doesn't even matter what you look like. Most people won't give you a second glance. It's liberating to think about.
2 years

Legally qualifying for disability

Canderson206:
Hi folks,

My girlfriend and I are discussing goals for her long-term weight gain. She's willing to meet my needs up to a certain point, but she's a bit unsure about how legal disability might work if she becomes too fat to do most jobs. Its not the financial aspect we're wondering about, it's the legal aspect. She has a large amount of student loans, and as I understand it, she can be legally absolved of those if she goes on permanent disability.

Does anyone here have experience with qualifying for long-term disability once they reach a certain weight? Could you shed some light on how that worked for you?

If my gf could qualify as permanently disabled and get out from under her student loans by growing extremely fat, she'd be much more willing to do it. (Which I think is totally understandable).

Thanks in advance for any input.


Getting on disability isn't glamorous - especially since you are American. There are long wait times for approval, they ask some pretty dehumanizing questions, and there are a lot of loopholes you'll have to jump through. And they are subject to change as well.

You must also have less than a certain amount in assets and income. It's not uncommon for a case worker to make you sell off your possessions (can't be to a relative) so you can qualify. And once you're on it? Next to impossible to get off of it.

There's no shame in getting on disability, but the whole process to get on it is truly awful. So keep that in mind.
2 years

My wife wants to gain for me

HappyBigBelly:
Wow, I’m overjoyed for you just reading this :-) Pics as she gains, please!


Little weird to ask a person to post pictures of his wife for others to lust over.

Not that it matters. Home boy deleted.
2 years

What to tell friends and family when they comment on your weight/gain?

FatDave:
How observant. Expect me to get even fatter too. Simply put, fast food tastes too fucking good, and I'm way too fucking hungry to diet.


If you're gaining weight the fast food route, you gott supplement it with some healthy foods and maybe a multi-vitamin. You'll deprive yourself of important nutrients otherwise.

Plus, more calories are more calories.
2 years

What to tell friends and family when they comment on your weight/gain?

Ditzy:
Just be honest and tell them stop if they always comment about your weight.
Generally good friends won't say anything to purposely hurt you but may mention you have gained a few pounds.
I don't understand why people these days won't stand up for themselves.
You don't tell other people how to live or they have to be slim do you?
Of course you don't.
Sure I had people tell me I was getting fat I just didn't acknowledge their comments.

Munchies:
From what I can tell, it's always been like this. You got some people who have no problem stand up for themselves. You got some who struggle. That being said, most people online struggle with direct confrontation. So that's why is seems that people these days don't stand up for themselves.

J8o8h8n:
Yeah, I tend to fall into the camp of wanting to be everyone's friend/a people pleaser so that probably plays into me trying to avoid conflict/confrontation.


It's an impossible challenge. What makes one person happy will upset someone else. And you'll just be miserable the whole time.
2 years

I denied myself my sexuality all my life

I used to be thin too. Hated it. Now I'm thick. Enjoy that much more.
2 years