Hmmmm ... don't like that, beastie.

I have my own traumas. For example, I have abandonment issues. When my feedee and I first met, I had so much anxiety over him leaving me for whatever reason even though he always made me a priority. Even still, I made sure that it was *never* his problem.

Heck, he didn't even *know* about my abandonment issues until we'd been together for a couple of months.

My issues were never his problem. We talked about them. He helped me through them. But I went out of my way to make sure I didn't take my issues out on him.

Ah. This explains things.

I'd check the shake recipe thread in the food forum for options. Intend to use this link for gainer shake recipes:

fatboydiet.tumblr.com/GainerShakes

Some use heavy cream. Some don't. Have fun!

You should check him out. Really cool guy. Been around for decades, so there's lots of lore.

He's dating (and in some runs marries) Triplicate Girl. As the name implies, she can split herself into three people.

They even have kids at some point. Imagine their bedroom shenanigans.

This is not healthy relationship behavior. What's he gonna do if you didn't have a fat kink and still put on weight? Nah, this is toxic behavior from him if he's projecting his insecurities onto you.

Reminds me of my mother, a little bit. She and I look a lot alike. As such, she often projected her insecurities onto me even if we had different circumstances. For example, when I was 5'6" and 115 lbs, my mom - then 5'9" and 160 ~ 170 lbs - openly envied my size. When I put on 5 lbs (of muscle no less) and went from underweight to the low end of normal - she went insane and said it was better for me to be 115.

Of course, that's your husband, not your mom. Can't handle things the same way.

If you guys haven't done so, you two need to have a heart to heart. Tell him that you want to gain - that it makes you happy. You understand he doesn't like it, but the way he projects his insecurities onto you makes you feel miserable.

Does he do this with anything else? Or is it just this one thing?)

*clears throat*

Bouncing Boy from DC's Legion of Superheros.

Belly stuffing and weight gain a two different fetishes. They often coincide, but not always. There are people on this very site who love to stuff but hate to gain or love to gain, but hate to stuff.

Super common, really.

If you feel that guilty, get some healthy items along with your usual stuff. Not a whole lot of it - just enough for him. If he eats it, great. You now have a system where you can be a pig without it effective him. If he doesn't it eat, you can sleep well knowing that it's his choice.

There's no shame in taking it slow. And it's okay to give him an out.

If he feels like it's his choice to get fatter, and you love the choice he's making, he'll feel more confident with time.

The thing with plastic surgery is that you shouldn't go to just *any* surgeon. There can be a lot of complications if you aren't wise about it. Botched surgeries are no joke. You can be disfigured, have complications, or even die on the operating room table. BBLs are some of the most dangerous surgeries out there.

If you can't find a reputable surgeon to do it do NOT, and I repeat DO NOT, do to just anyone who is willing to take a stab at it.

I am not against plastic surgery. I think that it is something that anyone should be able to get without shame or judgement. But it isn't without risks and shouldn't be taken lightly.