I've definitely started to get a little bit of a belly and thicker thighs, which was kinda surprised as not currently trying to gain on purpose!
2 years
Etiola:
Getting fat is very easy once you're fat. Stopping the process is the hard part! I'm trying to lose weight and the best I can do is maintain... and even with that I don't have much success.
For me the moment I was like "eh, I wouldn't mind if I got fat again after losing like 100lb", I put on 30lb within three months by accident despite all attempts to stop. Some of the new clothes I bought after losing weight are starting to kinda get a bit tight on me and I kinda love it.
2 years
Miachu:
Thank you for your insight on this
But FYI I'm actually a woman haha
Haha, sorry! It just, kinda read a bit weird on my end!
Munchies:
It's the equity vs equality debate. A lot of people say they want equality, but what they really want it equity.
Equity takes into consideration people's differences and acts accordingly.
For example, equality is giving people the same bike regardless of the rider's size, shape, or phyical ability. Equity is giving everyone a bike, but adjusting the bike to their needs.
There's a lot of intersectionality you need to take into account when it comes to being fat in public. Age, gender, disability status, sexuality, race, income levels, and other variables impact how people treat you in public. Calling fat women "plus-sized" is an attempt to reclaim dignity that the world at large wants to strip away.
It is, but it's also sometimes "plus-size" is framing clothing as "oh, you're overweight" when I kinda would have preferred just a number? Especially when I was a bit lighter I was still considered a plus-size despite being kinda maybe average-ish weight? I also could kinda grumble about how sizes tends to be a bit weird at times, like how I wanted to get a 38A bra and, well, most places treat 38s as closer to Ds than As so I paid a bit more.
I dunno, grumble grumble.
2 years
Miachu:
The same can be the same in the media, with plus size women being called empowering
But larger men, don't get anything like that also
What's the deal with this?
"Plus size" women are being called empowering because they are kinda conveying the notion larger women can just exist and be happy irrespective of what others think of their appearance. Larger men can already do this, guys being overweight is more normalised than it is for women where for them they kinda deal with a lot of ugly stuff for even being 10lb or 20lb heavier.
Like, I really kinda don't mean to be a total bummer about weight on a fat appreciation website, but, it's so strange to hear a guy envy how overweight women are treated by a society rigged with male gaze in mind. Especially as not every overweight person likes to be reminded they are overweight or finds their weight attractive, which is totally really each their own. Genuinely not really an attack, but just, odd to hear it even here.
2 years
EIIe:
I have mixed feelings about this aspect of gaining. I’ve always been fit and active, so the physical limitations are very much a mind fuck still…
But it’s the sharpest reminder that I’m fat fat now, I’m not that little fit thing anymore… obese…. Technically morbidly obese… the far girl that breaks chairs and may not fit in an airplane seat much longer… the super flexible girl who can’t just easily clip her toenails anymore since her fat belly is in the way… so all those little things add up to do a psychological number on me that makes me a needy wet mess.
Weirdly, outside of enjoying the softening, getting bigger and flabbier, the physical limitations part really kinda make me aware of just how fat I am. I love just struggling as my belly gets in the way loads.
2 years
Being a previous gainer switched to FA/feeder for trans reasons was super hard for me, and so in the end switched to mutual gainer. Being around fat people with bodies I adore kinda is a constant coax for me to join them, but, my experiences are definitely not always the case!
2 years
Kinda all over, but I do love having a fat face with a double chin and a big bum.
2 years
I accidentally lost A LOT of weight recently (245lb to 168l
, so, it's actually really nice to get to experience what it's like to be remotely thin for a while as I've always been sort of chubby. So when I'm starting to put the weight back on (currently 185l
, I'm noticing changes I never got to experience the first time around and really enjoying it.
2 years
I kinda suspect if you're asking here, you kinda know what answer you want to hear. Which I think is important to think about, as at the end of the day gaining, helping someone else gain or being just fat is kinda a personal choice? If that's what you want, well, why not do it?
It's like I've been mentally bouncing between gaining/feeder or not, and realising I was trans made me realise part of my enjoyment of the scene was genuinely linked to my own dysphoria. That said, I find myself back to wanting to gain and/or help someone else gain, sooo, while it was a part of my own transness it seems independent enough that I'm getting back into it. Which, for me, no reason not to do it, haha.
I think it is down to kinda assessing why you want to do it and why you want to curb the desires, but like milkshake said: To at least some degree it seems pretty hardcoded.
2 years
Lowest I've been is 168lb, but kinda already accidentally up to 182lb so far.
2 years
