the journey is an incredible experience! even though i have had moments of stress, panic and doubt along the way, i still think it is amazing to have experienced this. enjoy your journey!

definitely, somewhere around 350 it became a very different experience.... getting up from chairs, climbing stairs - these went from feeling like work to feeling near impossible, lol.

and i think i already had a fupa by the time i was 350... but yeah, it really started to expand a lot between 350-400 lbs.... when you combine that with the reach issues i mentioned, it uh creates new challenges, lol

i was 150-165 lbs and going to the gym for most of my adult life. when i stopped that and started gaining, by 190 lbs i was already noticing the effect! even just while bending over to put on my shoes, lol!

one of the reasons i kept gaining after hitting 300 lbs was that, it didn't seem like such a big deal. after getting used to being over 200, 300 seemed bigger but not a lot different. but i noticed by the time i was 350 lbs i *really* started to notice. it really impacted the distance i could walk, for some reason i passed a point where my endurance really suffered a lot.

now standing is chore, but at my current size the way i notice my size the most is in how my reach has grown more limited. not being able to reach parts of your own body is a strange realization. my belly forces me to sit away from most desks and tables. and i can't reach the higher shelves in the kitchen because i can't get close enough, with the counter pressing into me.

i think this is good advice. i went cold turkey off of exercising when i started to gain, and now - several years later and a few hundred pounds heavier - i am really struggling to get back into it. but one of the other side effects of starting to exercise again has been that i sleep much more soundly!

when it happened it was like unintentional bondage, in a way... and that feeling of helplessness combined with the power and dominance my partner held over me in that moment... it was very, very hot!

this kind of submissiveness has been the most surprising change for me, coming from gaining weight - and whether it is traditional bondage, or this kind of helplessness, the power dynamic is a big change for me (compared to when i was fit and thin), and just thinking about it is arousing to me now.

i've never truly wanted to be immobile, but the fantasy is a very arousing one for me, under the right conditions.

early this year emily and i were on a weekend away, and i got a tiny glimpse of immobility... we had a romantic dinner out and we back at the place we'd rented. we shed our clothes and started to make out, and she said she wanted to feed me. i happened to sit on a reclining chair (the lazy boy style), and when she climbed up on me, the chair felt back into recline mode.

she fed me and teased me, and eventually when she was out of food she climbed off me. she summoned me to join her in bed. i tried to push the seat forward, but i couldn't get it to move. i was wedged in pretty tight between the arms, too so i couldn't shift my butt very much either, especially with the weight of my stuffed belly resting on my lap. i asked her for help, for her to help push the chair back into a seated position so i could squeeze out of it. as soon as she realized the position i was in, her eyes lit up.

that was the most realistic immobility play we ever had - i was really trapped by my own bulk. and it was really, really hot, as she teased me and had her way with me, and even forced me to eat some more!

so this has popped up in my fantasies from time to time since.

i had no challenges maintaining my average-sized weight for *decades* eating moderately, and i had no interest or desire in gaining weight myself,,,

what changed things for me was an ex-girlfriend who was a foodee. spending time with her, eating so many meals together every day, seeking out new foods and flavours constantly - it rubbed off on me. part of it was just her enthusiasm, the joy she got from it and sharing that with me. "here, try this with a little bit of that! isn't it fantastic?" her enthusiasm was infectious.

over the course of our first year together, her influence really "reprogrammed" me, and i can feel it to this day. my current partner loves to try new foods, but not as much as i do. now i am the foodee in the relationship.

i've been in the community for a long time, and for most of that time (decades) i was thin and a fat admirer and feeder. in the last several years i've gained weight and embraced life as a foodie and occasionally a feedee.

i think getting fat opened up new experiences within the space of this fetish - i think the most significant is how i went from being more of a dom to a sub. it's been a different experience, for sure.

on the other hand, i don't think it's any better or worse than my experience back when i was a dominant feeder with larger partners.

i think it has more to do with who you are, and who you are with, and the dynamic it creates around you both.

gorging yourself with delicious, decadent food is way, way more fun than working out at the gym though, so i highly recommend trying it.

that's funny, the chair they got for me at work to support my greater weight was no wider either... seems funny that those two things wouldn't go hand in hand? eventually i got one without arms.

i think so... but there's an interesting nuance to your question. i initially went from thin to fat just through normal (if perhaps more frequent) enjoyment of good food and drink, and by reducing (or eliminating, maybe) my exercise routine.

i achieved a "high grade of obesity" during the pandemic, eating more and exercising even less (which i wouldn't have thought possible), mostly out of boredom. i wouldn't consider that an eating disorder, though.

your question caught my attention because a distant family member recently asked me if i had an eating disorder - to which i quickly answered "no." but in thinking about it since, and reflecting on comments from "normies" about my eating habits... by pursuing this lifestyle, have i developed an eating disorder?

i am not sure. i see my doctor in a month, and he may tell me. i was supposed to lose 20 lbs by that visit, but i am up 25 lbs... soooo..... we'll see how that goes!