nah man! it's hard to fatten up like this

I totally get that! Happens to me all the time too, shirts sneak up and suddenly my belly’s on full display without me even noticing. It’s funny how people react before you even realize what’s going on. Just part of the charm of having a soft belly, I guess!

Really enjoyed your post. I can relate to a lot of what you said, watching your body slowly change is such a satisfying mix of physical and emotional. I’m also on my own gaining journey, aiming for bigger numbers while enjoying every stage. Like you, I dream of having someone who loves cooking and feeding me, and for a short time I actually had someone like that who really managed to blow me up nicely. I hope to reach 100 kg, but the real goal? At least 200, and that’s where I’d stop. Your mindset about loving yourself now while still pushing forward is inspiring.

From what I’ve noticed here, contrast seems to be more common, especially in the BBW and SSBBW scene. The classic setup of a feedee woman with a feeder, whether man or woman, really plays into that visual and power difference, and a lot of the content is built around it. Mutual gaining is less common, but it has a loyal following of couples or partners growing together and sharing the experience, which can feel more intimate and equal. Personally, I’ve always been drawn to mutual gaining because I’m on my own journey of gaining weight, and I enjoy the idea of sharing that process with someone else. But I can definitely see the appeal of contrast too, and both have their own unique charm.

That’s actually really cool. I love how unique and personal kinks can be. For me, mine definitely ties into my fat kink too. What really turns me on is the feeling of my clothes getting tighter and tighter as i eat morels and more and as I gain, to the point where they’re straining and I can barely move in them. It’s not just the look of it, but the sensation of fabric pressing into my growing body that drives me wild.

Until recently with my feeder has kept stuffing me silly with huge meals and sneaking in feeding whenever she could, so I knew I’m going to outgrow everything even faster. But now I am alone again


Anyways, there’s something about being forced to expand beyond what my body or clothes can handle that just hits me in the deepest way. It’s equal parts exciting, humiliating, and addictive, and I wouldn’t change it for anything.

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I can definitely relate to what you’re saying. For me, gaining has been both exciting and a big shift in mindset. When I was thinner, I often felt like I didn’t quite “fit” in my own skin, like I was always restricting myself and worrying about how I looked. Once I started gaining, it felt incredibly freeing not to fight that anymore, just letting myself eat, indulge, and embrace the softness as it grew.

I’ve started to notice clothes getting tighter and my body changing, and instead of feeling anxious, I’ve learned to really enjoy it. There’s something deeply satisfying about leaning into the process and realizing I actually love my bigger body more than my old skinny frame.

Of course, it’s not for everyone, but for me it’s been an empowering journey. And with my feeder encouraging me and spoiling me with big meals, it’s become both a physical and emotional experience that I don’t regret at all.

I totally get you, that’s honestly one of the hottest parts for me too. I’m really getting into gaining myself, and I’ve started to notice my clothes getting tighter around my growing body. Feeling my shirts stretch and my waistband dig in is such a turn-on.

And with the way things are going with my feeder, who keeps stuffing me with huge meals and feeding me whenever she can, I know I’m about to outgrow everything really fast. Pretty soon I’ll be bursting out of all my clothes just like you

Hi,
It's clear that both of you care deeply for one another, not just in terms of desire but also well-being. Navigating a kink like feederism alongside real medical concerns is no small task, and it’s completely understandable to feel conflicted.

so... Yes, it is possible to gain weight in a way that minimizes negative health markers like high cholesterol or blood pressure, but it becomes significantly more difficult when certain underlying health issues are present - especially thyroid dysfunction, already-elevated cholesterol, and obesity.

When a doctor prescribes a restricted diet and medication, especially in a young woman like your girlfriend, it's not just a formality. These are early warning signs that the body is under strain, and ignoring them can lead to serious complications down the road.

Some thoughts and suggestions:
Feederism doesn’t always have to mean unchecked weight gain. Many couples in the community focus on Stuffing sessions without permanent weight gain, Fantasy roleplay and verbal feeding “Soft gain” or fluctuating weight goals within a safe range, Control dynamics that mimic the kink without requiring actual dangerous eating habits

This might be a time to shift from actual weight gain to simulated or psychological aspects of the kink. It can still be fulfilling, creative, and hot - while preserving health.

Work with the doctors, not against them: It may be possible to revisit the idea of gaining later on, once the thyroid is stabilized and cholesterol is managed. Consider working with a dietitian who understands kink-affirming care (they do exist!) to craft a way of eating that doesn’t feel totally joyless but still promotes health.

Consider what the long game looks like: There are feeder/feedee couples who navigate this kink well into middle age, often by being honest about limits, cycling between gain and maintenance, and prioritizing communication over numbers on a scale.

And Yes, health is a real concern in the feedism community. Some ignore it until it's too late, others find creative workarounds, and a few shift their focus over time from weight to control, care, indulgence, or fantasy. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing.

You're not alone in this. The fact that you're asking these questions shows a lot of maturity and love. It’s okay to change how you approach the kink - that doesn’t mean letting go of it, just evolving with it.

Take care of each other.

My old shirt became tight, and it is becoming much harder to climb the stairs, can’t wait until I become huge

I did not get my “fat moment” in public, but soon I will get one, just give me time. I am eating my way to greatness 🤩