Realistically? Yes, I made my peace with it well over a decade ago. The bottom line is, the numbers don't favor it, I'm not gonna lie to you.

Also, anytime gaining is involved, at some point that has to end. But I'm assuming you don't want the relationship to end when that happens, I know I don't. This means the relationship has to be built on something else.

It's far, far easier to find someone who's already quite fat and likes eating. While that means you'd miss out on the gaining process, it would have to end anyway. It also means having a life that's already adapted to being fat.

Also, someone said it might be easier or more likely when you give up looking. That's not true. If you do, life will pass you by, and you will die alone. Last time I was on a date, was years ago and I'm not even sure if it really counted. I've made little to no effort since then (why this is, is beyond the scope of this thread), and there have been no dates or prospects since then.

But, that's not why I keep coming back here. I come back here because I like the community, the discussion, the thoughts, and the content that others upload.

This is only a part of me, anyway.

I can almost swear it's more leaky than before, but I don't know what triggers it, so it's hard to give context or more information.

I'm not talking about the leaks around reset which are well known and easy enough to avoid.

On 3 occasions I've seen it happen, many times in a row, not just one random message.

In every case, they appeared to be intended to be PMs. They always ended up one-sided, so it's not both sides of the conversation showing up.

At one point, perhaps the first time I saw this happen, I banned someone for 1 day, thinking it was deliberate and it went on for a good while, annoying the other users. Although the user didn't respond to any of my attempts to reach out and acknowledge it either. I think it was maybe deliberate but I'm not sure now.

The second and third times were acknowledged by the user. No bans needed, and in both cases it stopped, though I'm not sure what those users did. Maybe they reloaded the chat web page?

I'm sorry I don't have more information, or can provide any method through which this can be reproduced reliably.

I can confirm that it's doing nothing, as of this evening, March 27th, '25. No channels/rooms, no user list, 0 available private message threads remaining, etc.

As if the entire backend is frozen, has crashed, or otherwise not running.

FF is looking for folks willing to test it, although so far, it seems not many have tried it, so far as I know.

I don't know what video resolution or FPS is offered, but presumably anyone with access to at least 4-5 Mbps of upload speed could probably do this. That's basically 4G or better, or even the weakest/slowest cable and fiber connections.

I don't know what kind of video codecs are used, but presumably 1080p 60FPS YouTube needs about 5Mbps. 720p is about half that. However, I can't be certain what impact this would have on data usage for limited/metered mobile connections.

If you're on ADSL or even VDSL/FTTN, that may not be enough. Though at least in the U.S., I'm not aware of any telco that's been willing to activate new ADSL or VDSL subscriptions for years, but at the same time I don't believe any have dropped existing customers and I'm not sure about forced upgrades. I know traditional copper POTS phone lines are still available in some areas, so theoretically some ADSL and even dial-up customers may still exist. Apparently it's still possible to sign up for dial-up accounts in 2025 for $12.95/mo., not including the phone line. But I digress. I doubt the aforementioned describes many people nowadays.

I do know one person who attempted an impromptu live stream, which is different from a scheduled live stream.

Allegedly, one person saw it and reported a lackluster experience; I don't recall if it was glitching sound or laggy video.

However, at the time I was unable to locate any link that would even allow me to join it, so I don't know what to make of it.

After the broken impromptu live stream, the person who made it thought about trying a scheduled one the next day, but then I saw she canceled it and changed her mind.

That means so far, I haven't seen a scheduled live stream and I can't even speak to how well it works.

I just know they're looking for some folks to try.

It might help if you think in terms of small, interim goals. 5-10 lbs here and there.

You might also not want to think in terms of a final goal, because either it's so far away that it seems demotivating as you said, or you do reach it only to find it's not enough. Having a major goal is fun to think about, but I don't think you should be overly focused on it, or when you might reach it.

Using small goals like I said, you will get there eventually, if you really want to.

I've been waiting for this thread to die, and not because the OP is no longer here. This kind of topic, or a close variation, does comes up from time to time, and it's the same, tired old saw, every time. I also have no doubt there are some readers who have so far not said anything, but might be thinking it.

It's nearly always the personality and vibe that's off-putting, damn near every single time. Did you come on far too heavy (pun not intended) or strong? Do you ever talk about anything besides feederism/fat chat/how much you gained/lost/etc.? Maybe you're not coming off as all that interesting, or you reek of desperate anger and your attitude sucks.

Speaking of attitudes that suck, to really help to drive this point home, let's flip the script and reverse places. Imagine some woman out there, who says things like "no one is into fat chicks" or "all men are scum/bad/no good/whatever." It's even very possible you might look at her and think "she's kind of cute and easy on the eyes." But know what else you're going to think? "What a rotten attitude! She's a hot mess that I don't want to have anything to do with!"

It gets even worse if you start talking to people who agree, and before you know it, you've formed your own "He-man Women Hater's" club or a "Feminazi All Men Are Trash" club, and now you're trapped into this deafeningly loud echo chamber of negative reinforcement.

This doesn't apply to just forming relationships either, romantic or not. Imagine if someone was selling a car. If the car salesmen starts off the sales pitch by groveling at your feet, saying things like "I've been trying to sell this car for 9 months and I knocked 75% off the sale price!," does that make you want to buy the car more, or less? Pretty sure most folks are going to be turned off and wonder what's so seriously wrong with the car for a few seconds, until then trying to get away from the salesman as fast as possible. But then on occasion, you might get a customer who will pick up on the desperation, then exploit it to negotiate the price even lower.

Similarly, this desperate anger would actually leave you vulnerable to someone very bad who might find some way to exploit you.

Another thing to remember - you won't be everyone's type, but that's okay. Lot of other people out there aren't your type either. Preferred age range alone probably eliminates 90% of the population from consideration.

Yet another thing to consider is this. I do concede there's a serious problem with some users, usually male, flooding female users with silly messages that consist of little more than "how fat do you want to get?" or "show boobs." I wish they'd stop doing that, but that's a bit much to hope for.

Maybe actually be interesting and remember you're talking to an actual person. Suppose you actually did get into a relationship? It's not gonna be about the kink at least 95%+ of the time. Also, gaining has to stop at some point.. you probably don't want the relationship to stop. So what's going to hold it together?

Finally, if anything, the experience I've had is that I actually get more attention from the ladies after weight gain, not less.