Added the bold and italicized emphasis, to point out the problem.

What I'm about to say might not be the easiest thing to hear, and might have the vibe of an older person who "doesn't get it," but I most certainly do "get it."

I looked at your profile, and I see you're 18 years old. I was 18 once upon a time as well. In a way, I even had it harder. Broadband was picking up steam over the dirt-slow dial-up of the 90s, Dimensions Magazine and a few Yahoo Groups (back when that was around) were the only game in town, and no body positivity movement; no Instagram either. Big box stores and department store only had thin mannequins at that, too. If anything, it was actually a miracle I even found Dimensions back in the day.

In short, I felt completely alienated and frightened that anyone might find out, probably even worse than you do right now.

Anyway, though I'm primarily echoing the sentiment of the other responses, but eventually, at some point, you might have to make a choice, even if it might be difficult, for the sake of your longer-term happiness.

It's not high school anymore. "Rep" that rewards conformity just isn't as important anymore. You may need to pay some mind to that when it comes to professional reputation, both in job interviews and at the workplace, but that's professional life, not personal. But they won't care if your boyfriend is fat, only whether you can behave professionally and what value you can provide them.

I'll tell you something else. Ask anyone you know, aged 30+, or for that matter, 25+, how many people from their childhood or teen years they're still in contact with. The odds are very good they will answer one of two ways, either 1) they aren't in contact with any of those people anymore, or 2) they are in contact with 1, 2, maybe at most 3 or 4 people from that time in their life, and that's it.

People change, life plans and situations change, and sometimes they drift away. If resisting this feels forced, it's not meant to be. If a genuine connection exists, it won't matter, through thick and thin (or thick and thicker?). It would never feel forced, imbalanced, and you'd stay in contact regardless.

Personally, aside from my parents, I don't still know anyone, or remain in contact with anyone I knew when I was 18 years old. In fact, at that time, I remained in contact with some toxic people, just because I was afraid of being all alone. It's not worth it. In fact, my life got measurably better when I cut them out a few years later. I get it, it's scary.

So my question then, is this. Who, exactly, are you trying to impress? What value does this provide you? You said it yourself, that most don't give you any crap about it.

As for random strangers at the bar, restaurant, shopping mall, bowling alley, whatever.. they won't care, and if they do, so what?

As for your parents, obviously I don't know them, but you might be pleasantly surprised? Assuming they're decent people, I'd think they would be more interested in whether he's a good man and is treating you right.

My parents are kind of into health stuff, and my mother in particular has sometimes said negative things about appearance, even fat-phobic things. But every time it's because the person seemed like a bad person she doesn't like, but she ran out of bad things to say about the person, so it's back to the default. She never says those things about people she likes, even if they happen to be fat. Hopefully you may have a similar experience?

I myself have gained a considerable amount of weight over the past few years. My parents don't love me any less over it, though I don't think I'll tell them I'd like to gain another 60-70 lbs on purpose. I also doubt they'd mind much, if at all, if I were to bring over someone who's chubby or even unequivocally fat.

The longer you put it off, the harder and more painful it will be, and the more it will suck. Before you know it, a couple decades passed, you weren't happy, and the people you thought you'd impress are gone from your life anyway. Life is simply too short to be worried about this sort of thing and spend a significant amount of that time unhappy.

Phew! Wall of text but I think all that needed to be said.

I want to make a few points clear.

1) While some of our members do indeed sponsor takeout food for other members, I want to make abundantly clear this is not expected of any member, nor should anyone feel forced to coerced into this.

Any such interactions are the business of those two users.

However, direct solicitation of money and free stuff is against our rules. This also means users can't demand money just to talk to you.

2) PMs are not monitored. This means the only people who can see your PMs are you, and the other user.

3) Point #2 means that despite our best efforts, some scammers and catfish may slip through.

4) It's not always feasible for us to review all publicly posted content as it comes in, even if we do try.

5) Points 2, 3, and 4 mean we rely on you, the community to report, report, and report! Did I say report? I'm not sure I did, so I'll say it again; Report!

Please, don't just block the scammer, move on, and hope the scammer goes away. This gives the scammer more time to potentially hurt more victims.

In your report, please don't just say something like "asks for money;" be more specific. If you do, it quickly turns into "he said, she said." In an abundance of caution to avoid false positives (bans on someone who shouldn't be) and smear campaigns, it may take reports from multiple people.

If at all you can, please provide some type of evidence. Mention the profile contains a CashApp screen name, or a PayPal address is in a picture or picture caption. Include screenshots. FF has an e-mail address that can be used for this purpose: team fantasyfeeder.com

I also have a Discord screen name, if you would prefer to share that way.

However, please keep in mind any such bad behavior must have taken place on FF itself. I can't, and will not take action based on behavior that took place off of FF. That is under the jurisdiction of that other online service. We do not get involved in the drama and internal affairs on other platforms.

I don't know who told you that, or gave you that idea.

But no, there's nothing officially sanctioned or formally organized by FF.

Any such interactions between two users is the business of those two users and no one else. If you like, you can try posting a thread in the personals if you might like to find someone for this.

However, if you do so, keep in mind rules #7 and #8, which basically means no asking for money or free stuff, and there's no obligation on the part of any other member to give you anything.

While not a common theme, this theme has been explored before. I even remember a couple old stories on Dimensions about this very theme.

One that I remember was set during the Vietnam War, in the U.S., the last time mandatory conscription was in effect here.

Anyway, it was about a young man who was likely to get drafted soon, and it seemed like a certainty. So, a plan was hatched for him to avoid it. Someone else in his life suggested he gain as much weight and get as fat as possible.

Without getting political or into too much detail, this won't ever happen again, at least not in the U.S. However, I'm aware a number of countries still practice mandatory conscription ("the draft" ), so this theme is still very relevant, I think. I'm sure if you were to write such a story, it would be well received.

Yeah, I'm gonna be moving this to the Submission/Domination board.

To the OP: I hope this is just a fantasy of yours.

No. Body Mass Index, or BMI is a number that doesn't really hold much significance, other than a higher number means you're pretty much heavier.

While rare, a bodybuilder/hardcore gym rat/linebacker/etc. could have an "obese" BMI of 30+ but is probably more fit than most of us.

It doesn't take into account anything like muscle mass, body fat percentage, sex (women in general are always higher), age (tends to rise somewhat with age), bone structure (big boned is actually a thing, but won't explain 100 lbs of difference), or even pregnancy status.

Nevertheless, it's a fun number in the feederism community because surpassing various milestones means you have reached certain goals. 30+ is probably the point where most folks start to look a little heavy, that maybe they aren't exactly thin anymore.

I'll cast the vote/opinion in favor of underwear.

When I sit down, I actually do feel my gut on top of my thighs, and it's slightly less comfortable if I don't have the underwear that's in between.

Chub rub is also quite real, and certain types of underwear definitely help with that. Also of course, the possible risk of various bodily fluids being more likely to soak into the regular clothes if there is no underwear, despite one's best efforts. That's probably at least 99%+ of the reason behind underwear in the first place.

It's certainly nice to sometimes sleep without wearing underwear, however.