It's understandable to be concerned when your partner wants to lose weight, especially if there's a feederism aspect in your relationship, whether acknowledged by your partner or not. Your concern might not just be about the weight loss itself but about how it could change the dynamic of your relationship or affect your attraction to your partner.

It sounds very much like you care for your partner, and being in therapy talking through these issues, and working on improving your communication will definitely help with a resolution. It doesn't sound like you are with your partner for physical attraction only, and there's a lot more to your relationship, so while the worry may creep in, just remember all the things you love about her.

Do you think your partner knows that you're attracted to her size / her eating, or do you think she really does see you as a doting husband, simply bringing her snacks and such whenever requested?

Is your wife losing weight for health reasons? Or is it simply that she's not happy with her body? The choice to lose weight is obviously your partners and of course you should support her decision regardless of the reason. But knowing the reason for this seemingly sudden change will make it a lot easier for you to deal with.

How much does your partner want to lose... Going from just over 300lbs down to 260lbs which appears to be the amount of weight gained in the relationship isn't really that drastic. I actually lost around this much at a similar weight without really trying over a couple of years and I am still pretty large / larger than most people I know.

There are ways to integrate aspects of feederism into your relationship without impacting her weight loss goals. Perhaps keeping feederism within certain areas of your relationship, like in the bedroom, could provide a balanced compromise for both of you.

But don't be too hard on yourself for being freaked out by change in your relationship. Change can be scary, but I'm sure you can work it out together.

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Weetabix is so good.

Have to say I only have 2 -3 myself but always a generous spoonful of sugar on top!

Hey all,

Just wanted to put this out there in case there's anyone local-ish who wants to enjoy a foodee day or weekend out.

Nantwich Food Festival is a 3 day event starting tomorrow 30th August 2024. I always pop along and it's a great festival that takes over the whole town!

There will be cooking demo's, cook along, famous chef's - I am going to see Cherish Finden on the Sunday - you will know her from Bake Off: The Professionals.

Theres also a huge variety of food stalls and vendors. Lots to purchase, and lots of free samples haha. It's such a fab event and there's loads to do, eating, shopping, music, speakers, cook alongs etc...

Maybe see some of you there!

nantwichfoodfestival.co.uk

My brother is both super tall and very large and he gets his clothes from here:

bigclothing4u.co.uk

I have also bought him clothing from John Banks for birthdays / Xmas presents.

bigandtallmenswear.co.uk

It's always annoying trying to find things in the UK for very large sizes. But both of the above I have seen the quality of the clothing and so I can definately recommend. Although admittadely, not much style or colour choice.