TurkeyTwizzler:
My partner and I got together on a regular dating site. She wasn't a feeder, I was fat from the off, and we hit it off and built a relationship based on mutual understanding and respect for each other. Women who are into fat men certainly exist, as are women who don't care if you're fat.

While I tend to dislike sweeping generalisations, in general men seem to think more with their dicks, women more with their heads and hearts. Seeing people with what you're looking for can hurt and be frustrating, sure. But breaking out of that entitlement cycle, and the frustrations that come from feeling rejected and alone, is important if you want something sustainable. It can be tough, but once done you'll be exponentially more attractive. The combo of desperation and horniess is as a general rule not the most appealing trait to be showing potential partners. Develop yourself, respect yourself, and respect others.

Fat On The Inside:
It's a super funny little thing that may seem kind of obvious when you think about it, but I've noticed tags in my pants and shirts which I never noticed before. As I get bigger, I have to cut out shirt tags and pants tags that never bothered me before. This is kind of mundane, but on a fun note, I love the way my love handles jiggle when I walk and the way my breasts weigh me down.

SteakFryThighs:
For me it was seeing my double chin start to come in as well as how nice it was to let my gut out instead of keeping it sucked in

Liposopher:
Liposopher: I just pretended I was masculine but neuter, like a robot or a small boy riding a bear. So convenient. But I couldn’t maintain the fraud once I started performing. You can feel how audiences react.

His Therapist: Well, if you’re an object of desire and your primary impulse is to try and please the people around you, that puts you into a vulnerable position.

L: No fooling. But the decades of raw denial … It really messed with my head when I actually liked the attention. For instance, if I was in conversation with a fat woman I found attractive, she’d usually wind up brushing her belly against me.

T: Well, sometimes we can’t help ourselves.

L: I get that now. But back when it was an issue, I just assumed that for some people, their belly was a sensory organ, like the whiskers of a cat. Or curb feelers.

Serph:
Having yoyo’ed myself, my gains crept up on me recently out of nowhere and Im a few pounds shy of hitting 200

Megmolly:
That's a very good question!
I've been reading all the answers and I was thinking about it, there are so many things I noticed that change when you get fatter..!

- of course, clothes getting smaller every year. I always need new summer/winter clothes
- only online shopping. There are no shops around with clothes big enough for my obese body
- chair issues, most chairs can only carry up to 120, 130kg. So I get stuck, they hurt or they break
- seat belts. In cars, planes, busses, they won't fit around my belly anymore
- amusement parks. No chance to fit in a ride anymore
- walking. My joints struggle with my weight, even short walks hurt, so i get even lazier
- swimming, the feeling when you stay for a while in the water and then you get out and suddenly feel the weight of all your fat pulling you down
- struggeling to pick things up from the floor or doing your shoelaces, i get completely out of breath
- public restrooms. The are so small!
- having to adjust your belly when sitting down, so your gut won't hurt
- feeling your weight all the time

Kx500:Despite being much older than me (16 years) we have bonded.

Viktoshka:
It sounds like for you it wasn't just a change in diet, but a real shift to freedom in the way you relate to food and yourself. What was it like to stop feeling shy and just enjoy what you want?

Morbidly A Beast:
You are exactly right. It was freeing, like a kid in a candy shop lol. I just let my appetite dictate my diet unconcerned with calories or what it was, if it tasted good I wanted it and I got more

Viktoshka:
I asked specifically for feedee. Are you feedee?

I didn't say that feedees and feeders necessarily break up. My question was addressed specifically to feedees, because I'm interested in their opinion and experience. But since you answered, tell me how you see the supportive role of the feeder in a long-term relationship?

Munchies:
I'm an FA and feeder. My partner is my feedee. Got him up to 500 lbs as of 2023. That was his limit, and he lost weight for health and comfort reasons. Currently sitting at 430 last I checked.

Only a piece of shit leaves their partner because they are no longer gaining. And on top of that, gaining and maintaining doesn't mean you have to give up being a feedist. You just have to change your approach.

My partner and I do a lot of roleplay and fantasy about how big I'd make him and how. I also stuff him from time to time. You won't gain weight from the occasional.

I also do a lot of FA stuff, but that's outside of your feeder question.

Regardless, most feedist relationships are not transactional. People don't leave the relationship just because the journey ended. And when I say relationship, I do not mean only romantic. I've seen platonic and sexual feedists relationships too.

Viktoshka:
Thank you for such a detailed answer! It would be interesting to hear how you adapted after it reached its limit. You say that the approach simply changes - can you give an example of how exactly? What does such interaction give when there is no active recruitment?

Munchies:
We switched from making the body of our desires to enjoying it. It's hard to appreciate such things properly when your main focus is growth. And it's nice to go from a manic intensity to something more sedate and cozy.

Viktoshka:
It's interesting how the perception of the process itself changes. When growth was the main focus, it gave more excitement and drive, and now it gives more comfort and pleasure? What was the most enjoyable thing for you in this new stage?

Munchies:
Honestly? Holding each other. He his big, warm, soft, and fuzzy - like a giant teddy bear. And he smells really nice too. If I'm frustrated, upset, or overstimulated (I'm autistic), feeling the weight of his body wrapped around me instantly soothes me.

I love to lay on top of him after a romp on bed, and I love it when we pull each other close during cuddle time.


There are many other things I enjoy, but this is my favorite.

Drugsarefunny:
I read in an article that peanut butter is more harmful than any other butter.

I also add that ideally you should stay full all day, or every few hours. Large meals are more fattening than any other single food (and tastier).

That said, add to your diet:

- Oil to almost anything you eat, you can cook with it or put it in bread and there you have some extra calories.
- Bacon: fried is a calorie bomb and you can add it to all meals (sandwiches, pasta, snacks, etc).
- Ice cream: I think you do very well with ice cream.
- Avocado: it is a very caloric food that can be combined with everything.
- Nuts: for 100 grams of nuts you have 600 calories.