How did you overcome your fears and concerns? advice for new feedee

CrazyCoconut:
Hi All.

When you first decided to start gaining and getting huge, how did you overcome your fears and concerns about getting huge? I'm just starting my gaining journey, hoping to become bedbound and spend the rest of my days eating. I'm struggling with completely letting go due to fears of being so huge, the obvious health issues that come with it, how family and friends and coworkers react to my increasing size. I'm also by myself so I have fears of becoming immobile alone.

How did you overcome those fears when you first started actively gaining? Especially as you got bigger?


Not sure how much you want to gain or how big you want to be. I've always been fat, so in my case, it more a question of whether I wanted to be supersized (which I am). I overcame those concerns by planning for logistical issues. We bought a different vehicle; we took the glass shower doors out of our bathroom; I saved money to buy larger clothes while I was actively gaining. I'm also constantly reevaluating what concessions I'm willing to make and what limitations I'm okay with. I think at the moment, I may have more limitations than I want. They seemed to pile on after 600 pounds. Fortunately, I have a husband who's supportive and helpful if I decide a little weight loss is necessary for me to fully participate in life.
8 months

What are you currently watching?

SweetTooth5531:
Going back and re-watching House.
I watched it growing up and its facinating going back and understanding what is actually happening now I have a similar professional background.


House was a REALLY good show. It definitely distinguished itself from the slew of Grey's Anatomy wannabes around the same time.
8 months

What are you currently watching?

Old episodes of 'Cold Case'!
8 months

Why are you fat?

I got fat early in elementary school, much to my mom's chagrin. Even as a kid, I loved to eat and to be full, and I was fascinated when my belly got bigger. By middle school, I was obese, and I just kept getting fatter through high school.

I've always enjoyed food, and I love the feeling of a belly that's been pushed to its limits. That "couldn't contain one more bite" feeling is absolutely rapturous. While I haven't stuffed in a long time, if I could, I'd be packed to my limit all day, every day.

I also like the way I look as a big person. As I've reached extreme obesity, I've become more confident in my appearance.

Finally, there's a "challenge" aspect to gaining. At one point, I lost to my lowest adult weight. Obviously, I disliked it, because I've intentionally put on 450 pounds over the years since. In my regain, I've become verrrrrry round and carry a massive amount of visceral fat for someone my size. My sitting waistline is shockingly big, and I've enjoyed just how large my belly has gotten in proportion to the rest of my "also fat" body. If I could set some kind of world record without decimating my health, I swear I would.
8 months

That one moment i knew i was getting really fat…🐷✨

Ive always been fat, but on three occasions, I realized I'd hit a next level. Once was when I could no longer touch the tip on my finger to my belly button. The second was when my belly became too big for me to drive, right around the same time. The third was when I started brushing both sides of standard doorways at all angles.
8 months

Belly grow

Fats, processed foods, and carbs, plus fast gains, gave me a huge potbelly.
8 months

Extreme obesity - general questions

BigBallBellyGirl:
I'm not too tall (5'3"smiley and about 640 pounds currently. Once I reached about 600, mobility-related issues piled on, and while not confined to bed, I do rely on my husband for many things. I have a very large girth and a round belly, so much so that I haven't been able to reach my belly button in a while. To get everything thoroughly clean, I use assistive tools, like sponges and loofahs on an extender, as well as a special handheld shower head, to clean up. I'm too big to fit my whole body in conventional showers, so I sit on a bariatric shower chair and turn as needed. The process of showering and getting dressed takes about two and a half hours every morning. I also have special tools for when I potty as well as an elevated bariatric toilet apparatus with heavy duty handle bars. I'm no longer able to use bathrooms away from home.

I no longer drive, which is definitely a downside. We have a minivan, and in the past year, I've gotten too big to be comfortable in the front passenger seat, so I have to sit in the second row. Getting a ride share also presents challenges. An Uber XL is necessary, and even then, I have to play with the app until I get a large vehicle like a van or Chevy Tahoe. On more than one occasion, I've had an Uber Driver "arrive" and then pull away after seeing me. That one stings s little, but oh well.

Clothing is a challenge. I have two websites that sell 10x's. Those can be tight on my belly depending on the cut, so I choose fabrics and styles very carefully. It's also quite expensive. If I want something other than loungewear, I've found hiring someone online for custom made pieces is my only option. I also choose carefully so I can dress myself. I have four custom pullover sundresses I can put on without help.i use a grabber with a little claw if I wear underwear.

Finally, because my mobility is so restricted, it's SOOO easy to gain weight. My husband has been helping me eat clean, but even staying at my recommended maintenance calories, I easily gain a couple of pounds a week without realizing it. I'm not trying to lose, but because of mobility, I also don't want to get much bigger. My husband helps me with fitting exercises, including a little weightlifting, to keep strong.

Munchies:
Sounds like you married a keeper. Glad he's putting your health and comfort over his dick.

I hope things stabilize so you can be as mobile as you want to be.


I did indeed find a real one. He runs and exercises about 5 days a week, but he still makes time to do sitting strength training with me almost daily. It's definitely a motivator as a fatty whose natural proclivity is to be sedentary.
8 months

What's the fattest thing you've ever done?

Waking up in the middle of the night for the sole purpose of topping off with food, after going to bed stuffed to the brim. Then waking up in the morning and eating again immediately. That was back in my 25,000 calorie a day era!
8 months

Extreme obesity - general questions

I'm not too tall (5'3"smiley and about 640 pounds currently. Once I reached about 600, mobility-related issues piled on, and while not confined to bed, I do rely on my husband for many things. I have a very large girth and a round belly, so much so that I haven't been able to reach my belly button in a while. To get everything thoroughly clean, I use assistive tools, like sponges and loofahs on an extender, as well as a special handheld shower head, to clean up. I'm too big to fit my whole body in conventional showers, so I sit on a bariatric shower chair and turn as needed. The process of showering and getting dressed takes about two and a half hours every morning. I also have special tools for when I potty as well as an elevated bariatric toilet apparatus with heavy duty handle bars. I'm no longer able to use bathrooms away from home.

I no longer drive, which is definitely a downside. We have a minivan, and in the past year, I've gotten too big to be comfortable in the front passenger seat, so I have to sit in the second row. Getting a ride share also presents challenges. An Uber XL is necessary, and even then, I have to play with the app until I get a large vehicle like a van or Chevy Tahoe. On more than one occasion, I've had an Uber Driver "arrive" and then pull away after seeing me. That one stings s little, but oh well.

Clothing is a challenge. I have two websites that sell 10x's. Those can be tight on my belly depending on the cut, so I choose fabrics and styles very carefully. It's also quite expensive. If I want something other than loungewear, I've found hiring someone online for custom made pieces is my only option. I also choose carefully so I can dress myself. I have four custom pullover sundresses I can put on without help.i use a grabber with a little claw if I wear underwear.

Finally, because my mobility is so restricted, it's SOOO easy to gain weight. My husband has been helping me eat clean, but even staying at my recommended maintenance calories, I easily gain a couple of pounds a week without realizing it. I'm not trying to lose, but because of mobility, I also don't want to get much bigger. My husband helps me with fitting exercises, including a little weightlifting, to keep strong.
8 months

Bbw to ssbbw

Yes, I'd agree with JohnXYZ. A 28W usually equals a 3XL. By the time someone is in these sizes, they are usually guaranteed to be more than just "regular fat".
8 months
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