Femme Calories:As somebody actively into exercise and healthy lifestyles, the thought of a feedee/gainer eating up all the food around me is rather titillating. Like, this gluttonous person is leaving me to hunger, but it's oddly arousing. Maybe it's because I used to be deep into eating disorder circles, but to this day I indulge the idea of being left to starve and beg this gainer to leave me a crumb or two.
Any thoughts from the other side?
Bovinepawg:I definitely feel this fetish from the other side. The idea of being so unthinking, greedy, and hungry that I either don't notice or don't care that I'm literally starving someone else so I can get even fatter is *hugely* attractive. That my *need* to eat is so imperative to me that it trumps any other consideration.
As sexy as I find it, it's one of the fetishes that I tend to keep either:
A). Fully in fantasy- roleplay, chatting. I've written at least two stories where elements of this dynamic are at play.
. Finding ways to incorporate into real life in a 'healthy' way. As someone who feels a lot of extreme feederism kinks, this is kind of the best thing I've found.
Not 'starving' your feeder, but consensually agreeing on diets for a period, for instance- if you have an athletic feeder for instance, performatively drinking milkshakes while they're in a cutting phase. Or making rules- any chocolate or bacon or whatever in the house is exclusively for the fat partner.
This is basically the same approach I've taken with my attraction to immobility- I don't have the fortitude (or resources) to actually commit to it permanently. But clearing a weekend so that I can spend it (almost) entirely in bed while me feeder waits on me? That's possible!
Of all of my 'extreme' fetishes, this is the only one I've ever really felt *ashamed* of, for some reason. I think because it's kind of easy to extrapolate to a macro-scale; as someone who socially and politically believes in equity and everyone having their fair share, it's hard to square that with also being turned on by the fact that I consume *so* many more resources than the average person- food, but also things like my electricity use and my carbon footprint. I don't really have a good answer for that part of it- and as a lot of people who have 'extreme' tastes know, the shame of it can get wrapped up in the appeal itself.
Honestly that sounds like the healthiest way to approach this. If your feeder is into weight lifting they'll probably be doing bulking/cutting phases anyway. So you might as well take advantage of it by eating all the leftovers when they're cutting, and having a stuffing partner when they're bulking. Also your idea about doing the same thing with immobility is really smart, a lot of people on here don't realize what it's actually like being immobile but just pretending for a weekend would be a healthier way of getting the feeling of it, without having to go through with it permanently