123456kevin:
I’ve been dealing with an ED for a while due to beauty standards, I feel like I have to starve myself cause I’m ugly if I’m not skinny and no one will ever love me. I’m not into this but this forum is strangely comforting when I’m really deep in my ED, that some people wouldn’t find me ugly for my chubby appearance. So uh- Thanks for existing ig?
Well, strange comfort is still comfort. I wish you all the best with your ED and hope that you can find peace with yourself and happiness in your body.
What led you to find this site?
11 months
Justinboo0313:
I get it this is not her kink. So I do understand.
Lbd4:
So you do understand. You want to know how to wish this kink on to her. I get it. 100%. I would love it if my husband felt my kinks and fetishes, but they’re mine not his. Imagine she got off on sucking your toes. You’re not ever thinking ‘oh, my toes sure could use a good sucking.’ No, you're letting her suck your toes because she loves it and you love her. It’s not awful. Maybe sometimes it feels good and you let out a moan.
She asks you to suck her toes and you love her and she’s washed her feet so you shrug and put her big toe in your mouth and suck. And she’s looking at you like how is this dude not cuming in his pants and you’re looking at her like ‘now what’.
She loves you. With your kinks. That is flipping awesome. Yay for love.
Lol.
Perfection.
Justin, have you tried showing her pornographic media that really hees your haa?
There's bound to be a c4s, erotic story, deviant art comic, etc., you enjoy that might provide your wife with a little inspiration.
1 year
Perhaps she finds it all a bit "bleh" and as a result doesn't want to have a conversation which could lead to some sort of quid pro quo arrangement.
Have you tried discussing that with her?
1 year
The apologist meets the reformer.
Tale as old as Christ.
Munchies and Techno, you both raise excellent points.
How can we claim to love a person while at the same time condoning something that is broadly seen as destroying them?
If our love was sincere enough or pure enough, wouldn't we want more for them?
Personally, I do. I want my wife to live a long and happy life and yet, at the same time, she enjoys being fat(and hates it some times too), loves food, and loves how her weight makes me feel about her.
So her and I, we have this pact. We will love each other no matter what and when the time comes to put this enjoyable game aside and make the right choices to ensure we are together for a long(and good) time, we will. Our love is bigger than any kink or body preference. When this dance has reached its end we will begin a new one. If it's diet and weight loss then so be it.
Here's the thing though, Munchies is absolutely right. My wife and I are two informed, consenting adults. We have talked about this, we have agreed to this. Infact, we've done it before. I've helped my wife lose 100+ pounds so we could have children with significantly less complications during pregnancy.
Was it awkward as fuck when her parents asked why I was letting her get so fat again after the baby? Yes. Was I ashamed? No. Did I reply with, "Well, she told me she feels sexier fat and has been intentionally over eating because she likes herself more this way"? Fuck no. It's none of their business.
1 year
MountainChub:
Can you suppress the fetish and find happyness trough other aspects in life?
AskDrFeeder:
I doubt you can completely suppress it but you can just keep it as a fantasy and find happiness elsewhere. There's more to life than feedism.
This is the best answer.
If you're struggling with feelings of shame and general negativity then I would recommend you speak to a mental health professional about it.
1 year
I could take it or leave it.
I'd rather have a happy partner than anything else.
1 year
