First: congrats!!!!

Second: I had been losing a little, which stopped. Didn't really gain until after baby. No real time for exercise, a lot of time sitting around the house, near snacks....

I suspect part may be mental....we tend to see what we expect, until the mismatch gets too large, then we reset our expectations.

My wife is a foodie in a strictly non erotic sense. In fact, after a rich meal she is less sexual. Me, all things food and fat are erotic.

It is awkward at times, in terms of internal emotional management, bit you get used to it.

I knew that I was fascinated with fat from a pretty young age ( I cared about fat when it showed up in nursery rhymes).

I didn't know I was interested in WG until puberty hit in grade six, and literally my first real fantasy was about a multi year weight gain contest between myself, a chubby neighborhood boy, and the two chubby girls in my class st the the.

You can always try to get his views in more roundabout ways. Like, some relaxed evening ask him how he imagines you two in ten years time. Or for that matter "if we won a small lottery, what would your dream honeymoon be?" ( since you are engaged).

Or that it is so non-correlated for them that they didn't have much to say. I suspect that for most people social life has more to do with desire for it, confidence, and life circumstances.

I think what makes "good" teasing is very personal. For one guy it might be how big he is, for another about how soft and jiggly, for another about how out of shape he's gotten, and for yet another about loss of masculinity.

I think some careful exploration is required, hitting the wrong points could be bad, I'd think.

One thing to consider is that you may have a fetish in the true meaning ing of the term--something that is not intrinsically sexual, but which you find necessary for arousal. I think that ends up being a bit different than being asexual?

Sometimes vanillaeans vanilla....sometimes it means hasn't discovered or accepted what really turns them on.

One step along the way may be to back off your language a bit, from "you are..." to something more like "to me you are...." or even "I feel that....".

If you say " you are so handsome" you are putting your words in conflict with the impression he may get from a lot of the world, putting an uncomfortable cognitive dissonance in his head. When you use the subjective phrasing it may be easier for him to accept that you adore his current body.