Have your significant others/partners brought up seeking out your kinks elsewhere?

Bubbingscrubbles:
I was having a conversation with my girlfriend last night about our kinks. I happily participate and indulge her in her kinks regardless of whether I’m into them or not. However, when it comes to feeding/inflating me, she won’t even get near the idea. I really don’t mind but she even mentioned me going outside the relationship and seeking out other women to participate in my kinks with, and I think that’s what bothers me. It feels a little one sided and a tad unfair. Obviously I don’t EXPECT her to do anything she doesn’t wanna, but still. I dunno if I’m thinking too much into it or what. Anybody else dealt with this?


So, she's open to opening up your relationship, but you'd rather stay monogamous. I respect it.

I'm curious. Why is she completely disinterested in your fetishes? Was there any negotiating at all about how deep she'd explore it? Or was she completely disinterested?
2 years

Keeping to accurate sizes?

Munchies:
Personally, I like to give a basic description of a character and focus on the experience of being fat. Things like discovering new rolls, relearning your center of gravity, or outgrowing old clothes. That way you don't have to worry about being too precise, but the reader can better immerse themselves in your world.


Something of this idea has been of the more fun scenes to write in my ongoing series actually! I was working on how to describe the momentum that can carry you and how adding to that weight, you can feel that and how it carries and shakes oneself when exerting great forces on a larger body, or the kind of impact that it can carry. Describing scenes of launching someone and having them pivot around from the accelerating forces of an intense fire spell makes the magic setting really fun to write in. Slice of Life has its place in our knick of the woods fairly prominently, but sometimes having an intense action scene is both refreshing to write, and to read as we do not get a lot of that in our kink genre, at least from what I have noticed.

Munchies:
A lot of people hyper-fixate on fetish spaces for fetish work inspiration. That's all well and good, but if you want to ground your story in realism, the weight loss and fitness community is the way to go.

You will find people of various sizes and shapes chronicling their experiences in vivid detail. There are precise measurements and they show their bodies off at multiple angles. Super useful.

ValtheFA:
For sure, a lot of mainstream culture is cultivating losing weight rather than gaining and I should look at it as a resource rather than the opposite vibe of what we have here in our community. Maybe that hyper-fixation on the community causes that snake-eating-its-own-tail sort of mindset of focusing solely on our kink aspect, rather than balancing out the two extremes for a better-balanced story with more room for nuance.

I did have this idea of character a character going through a journey that finds the happy medium of being large while trying to live healthy after extreme dieting and gaining didn't help bring the acceptance and happiness they were looking for in their life. But I kinda backlogged it as something I'd have to just write for my own sake rather than publishing around places like here.


Just like a good artist has a working understanding of biology - regardless of style, a good writer should too. You can't learn that from fetish spaces. That's like learning how to have good sex through porn. Doesn't work like that.
2 years

Keeping to accurate sizes?

A lot of people hyper-fixate on fetish spaces for fetish work inspiration. That's all well and good, but if you want to ground your story in realism, the weight loss and fitness community is the way to go.

You will find people of various sizes and shapes chronicling their experience in vivid detail. There are precise measurements and they show their bodies off at multiple angles. Super useful.
2 years

Keeping to accurate sizes?

Munchies:
Gotta remember people come in various shapes and sizes. Even at 400 lbs, an arm can look drastically different. If you aren't sure what body shape you want, go look at Google images.

Remember there are non-feedist people out there who are 400 lbs. In fact, there are weight loss websites out there with a database if pictures of people. You can pop in a height and weight, and it will spit out the closest match.

As for me, personally, I never include specific measurements unless it's important to the story. It's a real pet peeve of mine when people tell and don't show. Also ... so many male authors will say things like "She was so fat. She was 5'6", 130 lbs, and had huge C cups," and it's just an average-size woman no one in their right mind would even call chubby. Or particularly busty.

ValtheFA:
Oh, for sure, I try my best to keep that in mind, it's not all-encompassing, it's why I said a [general idea from measuring, I'm sorry if I gave that impression.

Sometimes I find that you can paint the picture, sometimes to help with framing the gradual weight gain over a long period of time, it's good to define the shapes at times so all of the characters feel like they are different sizes despite those similar weight thresholds. I searched a lot for the base sizes of my characters for fanfiction, not of my own design, and tried to thoughtfully think how the weight would affect them based on their body shape and how the adipose would regulate into varying sizes.

I will say in my own settings, I try to be less analytical and cold with my descriptions, but I can only describe someone's size so often when you hit the 25k mark with the same story, even with a very large cast. It gets even more difficult when doing an anime setting and the characters at base size are already at extreme proportions, that adding to them can feel a bit strange, to say the least.

I haven't thought of looking at weight loss databases to check though, that might be helpful in gaining more perspective on what I'm looking for. The bbw.wiki is really hit-and-miss for those details. Again, I appreciate your help and insight, too good to keep a frame of mind for that, and getting those reminders when looking back at my own work to do so is greatly appreciated.


To be clear, I am not against including measurements, but only when it makes sense to do so. For example, if a feeder is measuring someone, for example. But I like to be more creative about it. For example, someone breaks a chair with a 400 lbs weight limit, or their hips brush against a door that's 60 inches across.

But the thing you gotta remember is that how you imagine something will not be how the reader will imagine it. So you can't get too bogged down with details.

Personally, I like to give a basic description of a character and focus on the experience of being fat. Things like discovering new rolls, relearning your center of gravity, or outgrowing old clothes. That way you don't have to worry about being too precise, but the reader can better immerse themselves in your world.
2 years

Wg tropes/situations

HandsomeDan:
What are some of your guy's favorite tropes/situations in WG literature? Which ones annoy you and set you off?


Favs:

Relationship weight gain
Weight gain as a form of liberation
Fit to fat
Feedee/gainer with a harem of feeders (may not be a dedicated harem)
Competitive weight gain
Weight gain as part of pregnancy

Turn offs
Anything that glorifies abuse
Anything that involves family (sexual and non-sexual)
Anything that involves oppression (gaining weight because government said so)
Cheating
Using measurements to describe what a character looks like
Not understanding what people look like at certain weights (5'6, 130 lbs, and a C-cup isn't chubby or fat)
2 years

Deep fryers? worth it?

Theweightofauthority:
So I don't know what kind of situation you're in, but deep fryers don't necessarily need to be bought. You can make one with a cast iron pot and a block of lard


You could use lard, but I wouldn't advise it if you are going to do a lot of frying.

Lard is good for a couple of uses before it goes bad. Lard can keep for long term (6 months room temp; a year refrigerated) but that goes out the window if you are cooking with it. Best to use a cooking oil instead.

www.epicurious.com/expert-advice/you-can-reuse-frying-oil-article
2 years

Keeping to accurate sizes?

ValtheFA:
I'm trying to come back to finish out a WG series I started, at least just wrap it up so it's not unfinished.

I'm unsure why, but I have been trying to find references for plus-size gals, and... Let's just say it gets difficult when going beyond height, hips, waist, and bust.

For example, I'm trying to describe arms in a scene and now I can't for the life of me imagine a good arm size after gaining four-hundred pounds. Now, should I maybe just cut it out, or just describe it in flowery imagery? Probably. Will my brain let me? At the very least, not right now.

So I ask you all, what do you do for references? There used to be more accessible videos on various bbw's and ssbbw's that had good measurements, (Plump Princess had one iirc), but cannot find them atm.

Munchies:
Gotta remember people come in various shapes and sizes. Even at 400 lbs, an arm can look drastically different. If you aren't sure what body shape you want, go look at Google images.

Remember there are non-feedist people out there who are 400 lbs. In fact, there are weight loss websites out there with a database if pictures of people. You can pop in a height and weight, and it will spit out the closest match.

As for me, personally, I never include specific measurements unless it's important to the story. It's a real pet peeve of mine when people tell and don't show. Also ... so many male authors will say things like "She was so fat. She was 5'6", 130 lbs, and had huge C cups," and it's just an average size woman no one in their right mind would even call chubby. Or particularly busty.

Letters And Numbers:
There are many things exactly like that which can make for a good fetish story (weights and measurements are very popular), but drag down a story AS A STORY. I’m definitely guilty of that myself


A good story is a good story. Quality needn't suffer because it's smut. If it has the hallmarks of a bad story, it's a bad story. No shame in enjoying it anyway, but it doesn't make it good.
2 years

Keeping to accurate sizes?

ValtheFA:
I'm trying to come back to finish out a WG series I started, at least just wrap it up so it's not unfinished.

I'm unsure why, but I have been trying to find references for plus-size gals, and... Let's just say it gets difficult when going beyond height, hips, waist, and bust.

For example, I'm trying to describe arms in a scene and now I can't for the life of me imagine a good arm size after gaining four-hundred pounds. Now, should I maybe just cut it out, or just describe it in flowery imagery? Probably. Will my brain let me? At the very least, not right now.

So I ask you all, what do you do for references? There used to be more accessible videos on various bbw's and ssbbw's that had good measurements, (Plump Princess had one iirc), but cannot find them atm.


Gotta remember people come in various shapes and sizes. Even at 400 lbs, an arm can look drastically different. If you aren't sure what body shape you want, go look at Google images.

Remember there are non-feedist people out there who are 400 lbs. In fact, there are weight loss websites out there with a database if pictures of people. You can pop in a height and weight, and it will spit out the closest match.

As for me, personally, I never include specific measurements unless it's important to the story. It's a real pet peeve of mine when people tell and don't show. Also ... so many male authors will say things like "She was so fat. She was 5'6", 130 lbs, and had huge C cups," and it's just an average size woman no one in their right mind would even call chubby. Or particularly busty.
2 years

Got to vent a little

Runningsoft:
Not an armchair psychiatrist here, but finding out the 'frustrating' part of your fetish is a good place to start.
From there, it may make sense of what it is you are looking to explore/solve/learn about yourself.
Good luck.


Gotta love necroposting.

Sweetie, OP deleted his account ages ago.
2 years

Want to get fat

Fatboi899:
Heavy cream works check my profile if you want proof 2 weeks a pint a day you’ll outgrow clothes and be super hungry

Shakes:
wow just saw your before and after pics. Impressive growth


The problem with heavy cream gains is that they are not sustainable. Sure, you can get very fat very quickly drinking it. However, if you have to take a break from it, most of it won't stick.
2 years