Milhause:
I mean, we can debate about the patriarchy or respect or whatever, but the main reason I don’t ask people their age or weight is because it’s none of my business.

Milhause:
I was taught the two things you NEVER ask a woman (should be ppl in general tho): their age and their weight.

I guess you need to be more communicative if it’s really that important but for context I’ve been with my partner for almost a decade, and I’ve never known their weight except for one time when a quirk of our schedules and car needs saw me accompanying her to a drs appointment.

Now granted, my spouse knows I’m a FA and that I find her beautiful and she still doesn’t share her weight or flaunt it. Ultimately, it’s up to your partner how comfortable they are. Personally, I don’t need to know some arbitrary number because I value her for who she is, full stop.

Have a chat with your person if it’s something you feel is important. It may not be a big deal but they also may not want to share that info. Gotta respect it either way.

Enas:
I uuuh, i agree and disagree at the same time with this way of thinking.

I understand the social context, especially for women (you *must* be bellow "x" pounds to be accepted by society, otherwise youre gross, etc) but seriously, how come and in what sense is not talking about something a form of respect? This is generaly a conclusion that is reached when the topic is making someone uncomfortable. But that on its own is a good enough reason to talk

Milhause:
I mean, we can debate about the patriarchy or respect or whatever, but the main reason I don’t ask people their age or weight is because it’s none of my business.

Enas:
Actually, would you agree with me that a better way to put it would be, it would be of no use to ask those things? Because i think leaving some space in some cases is valid. For example if you want to satisfy your curiosity. If thats the case, then the fact that its not about you is not a valid objection. (Uncomfort *would* be a valid one, for example)

Audrey Beauregarde:
I've been on estrogen for about six months now. I've gained roughly ten pounds since I last checked. Anyone else experience this?

Audrey Beauregarde:
I've been on estrogen for about six months now. I've gained roughly ten pounds since I last checked. Anyone else experience this?

Boundandfeed:
Is your fat being deposited, in all the right places to give you that hourglass shape?

Are you still able to get erect?.

Boundandfeed:
Where does one get this nutra
grain? Locally preferred.

Slip130:
I appreciate the honest advice btw everyone it was actually really nice to check back in and read some really well thought out responses and reading some of them really did change my perspective on it a little bit so I'm thankful for that.

Munchies:
It's about boundaries. When someone has a boundary, you do not cross it. Now, in some contexts, if the relationship allows for such closeness, you can have a conversation about that. But seeing as OP has been dating his gf for 4 months, he ain't there.

Enas:
I wrote this mostly as a reply to Milhause said, which can be better described as some sort of silent social pact between people rather than everyone's boundaries.

As for the OP, it is a metaphorical jungle that they have to go through. It seems their relationship has not been solidified adequetally. (that will be true ehrn they can talk about anything without trying to dodge topics)

Munchies:
Beloved, the silent social pact between people is a boundary. You know why women don't want to talk about such things. You admitted as such yourself. Therefore, talking about it without expressed permission from that person it crossing a boundary.

It's like if I decided to ask you about your finances. Unless we have a relationship where it's appropriate to discuss such things, it's terribly rude and invasive. As such, there's a silent social pact not to do that.

Enas:
I get that! Im only saying that it isnt rational (nothing about our society is particularly rational to be fair)

Munchies:
It's about boundaries. When someone has a boundary, you do not cross it. Now, in some contexts, if the relationship allows for such closeness, you can have a conversation about that. But seeing as OP has been dating his gf for 4 months, he ain't there.

Enas:
I wrote this mostly as a reply to Milhause said, which can be better described as some sort of silent social pact between people rather than everyone's boundaries.

As for the OP, it is a metaphorical jungle that they have to go through. It seems their relationship has not been solidified adequetally. (that will be true ehrn they can talk about anything without trying to dodge topics)