Dating is hard. There are going to be a lot of creeps and flakes out there. Understand that has nothing to do with you personally.

Finding someone requires patience, protecting your boundaries, and knowing what you want. It also helps if you are someone who'd be a good partner. If you aren't there's no shame in taking a break from dating until you are. I did that, and it was the best choice I could have made.

What worked for me is approaching interactions just to have a good time. I've chatted with a bunch of guys out there. Most of them either sucked or we worked better as friends.

Still, when I did find someone I hit it off with, I wasn't worrying about if he was dating material. My focus was on just getting to know each other. I feel like this approach really deepened things with my current partner.

This is against the site rules. Openly begging for money will get you banned. I've seen it happen many times before.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

It's right up there with staring at a girls ass and her tits. Just staring at her like a piece of meat. Not only is it dehumanizing, but it's scary for a woman. We don't know if a guy wants just look at us and put the mental image in his spank bank, or if he's thinking about raping us.

Really, really creepy behavior. Don't do it.

If you see a cute girl that you wanna bang, there are other non-creepy ways to approach her.

That's pretty creepy, ngl.

Mood. But you owe it to yourself to carve out time for yourself.

A good soak with Epsom's salt and a foot massage wouldn't be remiss either.

That's good.

While I may disagree with RobbyP on walking barefoot helping your situation, I do agree with the overall idea of strength training being beneficial. There are a lot of options for you to look into, so feel free to experiment.

If your feet hurt due to walking more than you're used to, a podiatrist will be able to tell you if need to make specific changes to improve your overall foot health. Are your shoes a problem? Do you need inserts or orthopedic shoes? Are there excercises you need to strengthen your feet? One appointment isn't going to kill you.

Plus, foot problems can lead to hip and spine issues.

I met my partner when he was 407. He got up to about 490 - ish around January of this year.

I made sure that he went to the doctor and I refused to let him miss an appointment. Why would I do that if we are both into extreme weight gain? Because it's risky as shit. A lot of things can go wrong the bigger you get.

Whether or not you decide to lose weight is ultimately up to you. But you owe it to yourself to make sure that your vitals are in order. Perhaps even get something to relieve or manage the pain.

If your car is acting weird, you take it to the mechanic. Why? Because if you catch the issue early, you can stop it from becoming a massive headache later.

Give yourself more respect than you'd show your own car.

Might be. Big women have always been loved in the black community. I'm not a BBW, but I remember being teased a lot when I was skinny for not having curves.

One might wonder if the black community has a lot of FAs, or we just aren't thin obsessed.

Why are you so against him going to the doctor?

I'm not disagreeing he'll experience less pain if he lost weight. However, I do not believe that walking barefoot is sufficient enough to fix his problems. At the end of the day, it is a very good idea for him to go to the doctor as we do not know the full extent of his injuries. A forum post can only say so much, and we aren't his doctors.