Catalinacataline:
nobody wants to take responsibility or nobody is interested in feeding or does not have the economy for that and the truth is understood

DomFeeder:
Well - its also difficult to find a real-life feedee. 99% of the so called "feedees" or "gainers" are looking for somebody who sends money but no one is willing to relocate

Spike:
Yes. I was as young as i remember with a B belly.
Aside from extreme abuse from it people in school bullied me for the 'tire' in the pants which didnt fit right, i didnt understand why my belly button was dividing my stomach, etc.

Jd00723:


Munchies:
Feeder here with a background in biology. I'm also a former gainer who went from skinny to muscular.

Understand that a week is barely enough time to experience any significant change. This is especially so since it sounds like you have a good metabolism. In fact, you are more likely to accidentally gain more muscle instead of fat as heavy cream is also used in bodybuilder circles.

Also, heavy cream gains are hard to sustain. So even if you are getting a bit softer (it is also possible you're a bit bloated because heavy cream can be hard to process), you may lose it all when you come off of it.

Since you're in really good shape, I recommend a different approach.

Don't do rapid gains. You'll freak out when you see your body quickly changing - even if it was something you wanted to do. It will also give your body a chance to get used to your gains.

Instead, just relax about your diet. You're at 13% body fat. That implies you are very strict with your diet. I'm not advocating for a fast food-only diet. Instead, don't deny yourself anything. Have a second slice of cake. Eat some white bread. Enjoy less lean cuts of meat.

If it feels like work, you are doing it wrong. Getting fat should feel like a release. It should feel like hedonism.

Jd00723:
Thanks for the feedback. I wouldn’t say I’m scared of gaining, even the tiny gains I’ve made I find really fun. And downing heavy cream is also naughty and hedonistic rather than a chore. If I do gain muscle as well as fat I don’t mind as it will emphasize the areas I want to get bigger!

Is there any way I can slow my metabolism?

Jd00723:
Hello everyone,

Sorry for the millionth topic on this! I’m very new to the gaining scene, currently very in shape with about 13% body fat.

For almost a week I’ve been adding a pint of heavy cream to my diet, really going into calorie surplus as a result.

So far I seem a little softer but couple of things:

1. I have an electric scale which measures loads of metrics, including fat (sub and vic). These have barely moved, despite the fact that I swear I’m gaining (just noticed tiny hips for instance. Is this all in my head? If so when should I see results? And for anyone especially who has gone from fit to fat with heavy cream, happy to hear your experience, what did you notice first in terms of body change, and over what period of time?

2. Main change is feeling slightly out of breath. Is this normal for a gain? Just concerned about cholesterol.

3. I still plan on working out mostly weights but also a bit of cardio. How long before any gain impacts any fitness.

Thanks. And happy to have joined this community

Freddii:
So I’ve been bestfiends with this girl for 3 years and she knew about my kink (I’m a feedee). Recently I told her that I have feelings for her and she said that it makes her uncomfortable and stopped being friends with me. What should I do now? Is she in the right? I feel awful.

Munchies:
From what you described, I don't think your kink was the issue. It seems more that you confessed to her than anything.

That being said, the fact that you said you guys were best friends implies there's much more to the story.

Freddii:
She said it is the issue

PolyPinoyPuppy:
With that in mind, did you bring feederism up in conjunction with your confession, or was it something she attached to it herself?

Regardless, I'm sorry. It's hard losing your friend in the best of circumstances. For it to be tied to something as personal as feederism, which many people already have to be in the closet about, adds to the agony.

I would hope that your friendship was strong enough to recover after some time. But that won't happen on its own. Unless she's gone no contact with you, there is still a possibility to find some sort of understanding that you value her friendship more than you would ever value kink.

Freddii:
I did not bring it up, and when we were friends she would often joke about my kink so I didn’t expect it to make her that uncomfortable, but I didn’t even think about it when I confessed. I also told her that I’m not expecting her to get into relationship with me. And when we had a fight I told her that she doesn’t need to worry, that I don’t have feelings hor her anymore and that also made her angry, so I don’t know 😭. And thank you

Munchies:


At this point, I'd just move on from her. She doesn't want to date you but doesn't want you to get over your feelings for her. That's just toxic.

I'm curious as to how you guys got into an argument and you told her you got over your feelings after she dumped you as a friend.

Freddii:
She dumped me as a friend after that argument, I’m sorry if the informations I give are confusing, language barrier 😭
Also yeah, she was very toxic (the whole friendship) but that was kind of why I liked her too, I don’t know, it’s complicated

Catalinacataline:
nobody wants to take responsibility or nobody is interested in feeding or does not have the economy for that and the truth is understood

Freddii:
So I’ve been bestfiends with this girl for 3 years and she knew about my kink (I’m a feedee). Recently I told her that I have feelings for her and she said that it makes her uncomfortable and stopped being friends with me. What should I do now? Is she in the right? I feel awful.

Munchies:
From what you described, I don't think your kink was the issue. It seems more that you confessed to her than anything.

That being said, the fact that you said you guys were best friends implies there's much more to the story.

Freddii:
She said it is the issue

PolyPinoyPuppy:
With that in mind, did you bring feederism up in conjunction with your confession, or was it something she attached to it herself?

Regardless, I'm sorry. It's hard losing your friend in the best of circumstances. For it to be tied to something as personal as feederism, which many people already have to be in the closet about, adds to the agony.

I would hope that your friendship was strong enough to recover after some time. But that won't happen on its own. Unless she's gone no contact with you, there is still a possibility to find some sort of understanding that you value her friendship more than you would ever value kink.

Freddii:
I did not bring it up, and when we were friends she would often joke about my kink so I didn’t expect it to make her that uncomfortable, but I didn’t even think about it when I confessed. I also told her that I’m not expecting her to get into relationship with me. And when we had a fight I told her that she doesn’t need to worry, that I don’t have feelings hor her anymore and that also made her angry, so I don’t know 😭. And thank you

Angy523:
Okaaay, literally my jeans ripped last week. I was all focused on my bf grow I didn't notice I gained too a little. I'll start a diet and going to the gym tomorrow.

Morbidly A Beast:
I don’t understand why BMI is a worth while measure of anything of value, it is literally height divided by weight (or vice versa) there’s loads of very fit and muscley people who have similar BMI to me and I’m mostly fat. I understand BFP because that’s actually a measuring of the amount of fat on your body (maybe it wouldn’t be worth it to get BFP on someone who is visibly obese?) It seems like a way to categorize people and assign health or unhealth based on nothing being fat doesn’t make you necessarily unfit or unhealthy - and even if it did why would it matter

BMI is a reasonable indicator of body fat for both adults and children. Because BMI does not measure body fat directly, it should not be used as a diagnostic tool. Instead, BMI should be used as a measure to track weight status in populations and as a screening tool to identify potential weight problems in individuals.

ButterHimself:
For me I have always been fascinated for some reason by people who are generally fatter or have bigger bellies. Maybe it was a result of media and how fat people are portrayed, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve found myself being a lot more attracted to chubbier women in general. How do y’all this you obtained this kink?