Fantasy Feeder

I may have a weird case of body dysmorphia

EIIe:
I definitely step away and take breaks here and there.

I’ve been trying for a year to get over 250, highest I made it was like 245 but the last time I weighed myself a few weeks ago I was like 223. 😢

I try to remind myself that it’s supposed to be fun and enjoyable, not stressful!

I hope you will be kind to yourself and that you find the answers you need.

Xombie05:
I agree that kindness and perspective are important when thinking about your gain.

One just the reality of gaining. You have to eat thousands of excess calories to gain a single pound. And food is expensive and time consuming even with a feeder. Sure you could probably eat a diet of bone milk and gainer powders with Fast food. But in my experience Feeder's enjoy their gain as indulgence not as actual livestock.

On the communal level Think that it's important to understand everyone plateaus or stops. That creating the idea of not big enough is equivalent to any diet industry scam

This is a really good way of putting it. Couldn't have said it better myself.

2 years

Munchies

Anxiety is so bad right now

Bbwasianfeedee:
All my roommates has covid and I just need to out.. its so hard when you're alone in life and just have nowhere to go.. sigh.

Be safe hun, and get tested. I hope you don't have COVID, but it never hurts to be sure. Especially since all of your roommates have it.

2 years

Munchies

Acronym for fat enbies

This is all very good. I do hope that NB people jump in because I would hate for non-NB people to come up with something instead of NBs deciding what they want. That would be the suck otherwise.

2 years

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Fakes

Reflection Of Perfection:
So what's the solution then? We had an old incompetent mod that would say, "You know this is FANTASY Feeder right?". If the site is full of fakes, flim flammers and Methodists then what can we do about it?

It's a group effort. Culture's what you make of it. You do what you can, where you can, and encourage others to join you.

As I said, the root of the issue is toxicity. It's not enough to be a decent person. You also have to push back against that behavior and encourage others to be better.

It's like they say. Be the change you want to see in the world. Take me, for example. I frequently get messages from people (mostly men) who saw my forum posts and want advice on being a better feeder/feedee/gainer. And since my advice is more holistic, the conversation inevitably shifts from "how can I get fatter or be a better feeder" to "how can I be my best self."

The topics are pretty heavy. I make them reconsider how they see this kink, women, themselves, and the world. But I can do it because I create a safe space for them. I don't judge them for how they come to me. Instead, I give them the grace, wisdom, and encouragement they need to start their journey.

Sometimes they come back later for advice. Sometimes they don't. But whatever happens, I know they have a better chance of being happier and fulfilled than before we met.

2 years

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Fakes

Mohawk:
I wonder what percentage that are real women on this site. I encounter many fake profiles, claiming to be bbw / feedee women, but in the end most turn out to be fake profiles just wanting easy money. Not hard to see through, some have no clue over the context of what genuine people are here for.
Wish there could be some general proof genuinity check besides the "verified person" that all to few women bother to fill in.

Munchies:
Hard to say. Being a woman on this site is a ... challenge experience that most people aren't up for. Mind you, I am talking about cis-women as FF has this catch all label called "transgender" that I'm sure trans women don't find annoying at all (sarcasm).

Mind you, there are ciswomen that mislabel themselves for privacy reasons or to keep creeps out their inbox. I labeled myself as "no gender" for a few months while I explored the site bit. I had zero interaction with my profile. But the minute I updated my gender to "female" the creeps started messaging me.

Still, the best way to figure it out is to just talk to them. Generally, they have no idea act, and you can pick them out pretty quickly.

Although some people get it wrong even then. I got accused of being a man twice, but both times it was because I refuse to put pictures of myself on the internet. One guy did realize I'm a woman after talking to me a bit more (had to block him because he was a creep). And the other (a woman) got mad because she checked my profile after 5 minutes of talking to me and didn't see any face or belly pics. (She stopped talking to me after I called her out.)

It's hard for me to realize how many men actually behave, as it is so far from how I interact with men and women. Though, one time, a friend (woman) showed me her inbox on a dating site we both used. I noticed that she had multiple more messages than me, but the quality was way under what I had expected. Most were comments of tits, lousy dating invitations in the first message etc. I can understand the frustration from women who try to be serious. It is also frustrating for serious men who's messages drown in the mailbox due to that. I don't ever mailbomb, if there is mutual intrest I get a reply I presume.
It is not easy to find matches on a regular dating site if one has a fetish, so there's not much to choose from except ff or feabie.

Mohawk:

I've been told that there used to be more women on here, but I imagine the creeps ran them off.

I'm lucky in that I'm not looking for a partner on here. While I did meet my feedee on here (whom I adore), I realize just how lucky we were to connect. He is part of a handful of decent people on here

So yeah. Women are here, but we are in the minority because of too many toxic creeps. As a result, the men on here get more desperate for some kind of female interaction. This leads the more ... opportunistic men to take advantage of the poor saps.

And from what I've seen around here, it works.

2 years

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Fakes

Mohawk:
I wonder what percentage that are real women on this site. I encounter many fake profiles, claiming to be bbw / feedee women, but in the end most turn out to be fake profiles just wanting easy money. Not hard to see through, some have no clue over the context of what genuine people are here for.
Wish there could be some general proof genuinity check besides the "verified person" that all to few women bother to fill in.

Hard to say. Being a woman on this site is a ... challenge experience that most people aren't up for. Mind you, I am talking about cis-women as FF has this catch all label called "transgender" that I'm sure trans women don't find annoying at all (sarcasm).

Mind you, there are ciswomen that mislabel themselves for privacy reasons or to keep creeps out their inbox. I labeled myself as "no gender" for a few months while I explored the site bit. I had zero interaction with my profile. But the minute I updated my gender to "female" the creeps started messaging me.

Still, the best way to figure it out is to just talk to them. Generally, they have no idea act, and you can pick them out pretty quickly.

Although some people get it wrong even then. I got accused of being a man twice, but both times it was because I refuse to put pictures of myself on the internet. One guy did realize I'm a woman after talking to me a bit more (had to block him because he was a creep). And the other (a woman) got mad because she checked my profile after 5 minutes of talking to me and didn't see any face or belly pics. (She stopped talking to me after I called her out.)

2 years

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If its not round its not right

I mean, the more you eat, the fuller your stomach gets. You'll notice your upper belly will bulge out quite a bit at that point.

As you digest, the food goes down through your digestive tract. If you keep eating, every part of your digestive tract will be full - giving you a very pregnant look.

Plus, as you get fatter, the rounder you look in general. So that helps too.

2 years

Munchies

Did i gained a lot or not ?

Quink333:
Oh i wish to end up like this. I'm depressed and my coping is masturbation, it's geting worst and worst these days, my addcition and my mental health. I hope i'll find piece one day like you did

Munchies:
You may benefit from a psychologist or a therapist.

Like I said, once you deal with the root of your issue, you'll feel better.

My depression came from unresolved trauma and being in a toxic situation. It took me a while to deal with that - mostly because I was dealing with it on my own - but in the meantime, I found other ways to cope with my pain.

I have a lot of hobbies. So, instead of being horny, I'd do one of them. I'd force myself to spend time with my friends and surround myself with people who'd tell me the voices in my head were wrong.

It takes time, and everyone heals at their own pace. But there is hope for you.

Quink333:
Thank you for this, i needed that. I think gaining might not be best for my rn. I need to get myself together. But thank you for your help i really apriciate it.[/quote]

You are very welcome. Any time, love.

Remember, the most important person on your gaining journey is you. It doesn't matter how long or how short your journey is. It doesn't matter how you go about it either. The most important thing is that you are happy and safe. You don't owe anyone anything.

2 years

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Acronym for fat enbies

PolyPinoyPuppy:
We have BBW for fat women and BHM for fat men. Is there an acronym for fat enbies?

I've never thought about this before, but it's a good discussion to have.

I also found this to get the ball rolling so to speak.

twitter.com/gollygeo/status/1422451199492730880

2 years

Munchies

Did i gained a lot or not ?

Quink333:
Oh i wish to end up like this. I'm depressed and my coping is masturbation, it's geting worst and worst these days, my addcition and my mental health. I hope i'll find piece one day like you did[/quote]

You may benefit from a psychologist or a therapist.

Like I said, once you deal with the root of your issue, you'll feel better.

My depression came from unresolved trauma and being in a toxic situation. It took me a while to deal with that - mostly because I was dealing with it on my own - but in the meantime, I found other ways to cope with my pain.

I have a lot of hobbies. So, instead of being horny, I'd do one of them. I'd force myself to spend time with my friends and surround myself with people who'd tell me the voices in my head were wrong.

It takes time, and everyone heals at their own pace. But there is hope for you.

2 years

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