Risk-aware: Both or all partners are well-informed of the risks involved in the proposed activity.

Consensual: In light of those risks, both or all partners have, of sound mind, offered preliminary consent to engage in said activity.

Kink: Said activity can be classified as alternative sex.

PolyPinoyPuppy:
It should go without saying, but without risk-aware consent, it isn't feederism, it's abuse.

People who don't have the consent of their partner to feed or fatten them and yet try to do so anyway, subtly or overtly, are not feeders with feedees; they are abusers with victims.

If your partner isn't consenting to gaining weight or eating more than they should, any amount of emotional manipulation, self-destructive enablement, or physical coercion isn't "hot." It isn't feederism. It's not a kink. It's abuse.

And omitting or down-playing the risks of feederism to try to solicit someone's consent is abuse.

Feederism isn't entirely safe. Ensuring all parties involved with some feederism activity, be it gaining, stuffing, force-feeding, or humiliation, are aware of the risks involved with that activity is a prerequisite to ethical feederism.

The responsibility for ensuring that all parties are aware of the risk lies with every person involved in the activity. That means every person--not just the person who bears those risks.

If a feeder has any doubt at all that their feedee isn't fully aware of the risks of gaining weight or eating too much sugar--indeed, if a discussion of those risks hasn't been had at all--then the feeder has an obligation to make those risks known.

And willful ignorance of the risks is not a valid excuse for abusive behavior; in the age of the internet, it is trivially easy to do the research required to learn about the risks involved with any activity, especially if that activity is something like gaining weight.

Only after those risks are established can consent be given--which must be given enthusiastically. The lack of a "no" does not constitute consent. "Yes" only means yes if it is given by an informed and clear-minded individual without the threat of retaliation. And a "yes" once does not mean "yes" forever--it doesn't even mean "yes" for the entire duration of the activity. Consent must be continuous as well; it can be revoked at any time.

Involuntary feeding, secret fattening, and other kinds of nonconsensual feederism have a place: in fiction.

Outside of those places, it is abuse.

Blimp Bizkit:
First of all: no. Dont send dick pics, just dont, no, no and no

Second thingy: I remember a female friend of mine used to do a thing when she got dick pics in DMs: she would print em out and made a scrap book with all of the pics she has recieved, as a ridicule comedy thing (No names were on it, just made-up nicknames)

J8o8h8n:
I ate almost 3000 calories for breakfast and I've gotten about half of the 3500+ calories for lunch down (stomach is uncomfortably full though). I'm definitely a bit frustrated that I can't finish one of the orders of fries, a couple of the nuggets, and half the Double Quarter pounder with cheese. I figure I can give myself a bit of a break before trying to stuff the rest of it all in. How long does it take to increase capacity and hunger response through constantly stuffing yourself to the limit at every meal?

Munchies:
Just as you cannot expect to achieve a full split when your are starting with average flexibility, the same can be said of stomach capacity. If you push yourself too hard too fast, you're just going to puke.

Be patient with yourself. It's best to do it methodically over time.

Tell me. What is your current method to increase your capacity?

J8o8h8n:
I don't really have one to be honest. I just try to get a decent amount of high calorie food that I think I can eat in one sitting if I push myself a bit and just do that. (I think part of my problem today was only waiting 3 hours between massive meals to stuff myself again).

Munchies:
Speaking as a gainer turned feeder who is into extreme weight gain and has fattened up multiple people, you are doing too much.

An all day max capacity stuffing is always fun, but only after you trained your body to handle being that full. If you haven't you are setting yourself up for failure.

Tell me. What does a normal day of eating look like to you?

J8o8h8n:
Nothing too crazy, just normal sized meals with some snacks in between them.

Munchies:
Honestly, it would be best to increase the portion size of your meals, but not too drastically. Have another helping or two. Maybe increase your snacks. Get used to feeling comfortably stuffed after you eat. If you want to push yourself, eat a little bit more, but nothing too crazy.

Also, don't focus on heavy meals. You'll struggle to digest and find yourself eating less than you planned. Instead, eat a good mix of things. Since you are focusing on your capacity, don't focus too much on calories. I promise the weight will come.

J8o8h8n:
You make valid points. Honestly, the breakfast that I ate was really filling and satisfying, once I tried to stuff myself with an even bigger lunch right afterwards, it was too much and made me feel sick and I wasn't really able to eat it all or anything else for a while afterwards.

Honestly, if I decide to go all in on gaining, I might look into starting my day with that breakfast, and then just eating as I normally would, just with slowly trying to increase the portions. Starting my day with a baseline of 3000 calories and a nice, filling, but not uncomfortably so, breakfast would likely cause my weight to increase substantially if I could keep it up consistently. Two sausage egg and cheese McGriddles, a Cinnamon Roll, a Large Mocha Frappe, and a Large Burger King Hashbrown isn't a ton of food, but it packs a ton of calories.

Munchies:
You could do it that way. However, I find that ending the day with a large meal is a good way to wake up hungry.

I do caution against eating a large meal and then immediately going to bed as this can lead to heartburn-related issues. Personally, I recommend waiting an hour or two before sleeping so your stomach can settle and digest. Maybe sleeping propped up with pillows if possible.

PolyPinoyPuppy:
Conversely, eating a large breakfast is a great way to suppress your appetite for the rest of the day; this is a well-tested phenomenon that's the basis for a lot of effective weight-loss plans.

I'm not sure if it would prevent you from eating more if you *wanted,* but it does stop cravings, and it's worth a shot to try different eating patterns, each over a week, and track your intake with each one.

Katriona:
I gained 150 lbs in 8 years. That doesn't seem like a lot compared to some people's 30lbs a month, but my body is adjusting and I'll keep going at my own pace.

Slixxx666:
She is just nervous. I don’t think she thought we’d take it this far. We have been together 9 years. I think like it or not she will love being 500.

MVP76:
Im obsessed with pickled ginger.

Spike:
Ive watched people accidentally do stretch their stomach. They did it by slowly eating more. You eat your normal mean and then add snacks a bit later. You add more TO your normal meal. If you eat a pack of ramen, add another one and you can eat half that. Eventually you can eat 5....

If you are going to work stop and get a little parfait, etc

So slowly add in smaller snacks between meals. Eating more at a big meal hurts and makes you sick, its the grazing between those that helps stretch your stomach out safely and makes changes.

Supergirl:
I agree with this approach, it certainly increased what I needed to eat to feel full over time, but also I think it has been a big part of maintaining my weight over the last year or two. I am not trying to gain anymore, and I thought I would naturally just lose some weight, but that hasn't happened.

I don't think liquids are good for this, but I am not a doctor, lol. Maybe the body can just deal with excess fluid more easily, relieving the stomach too quickly? YMMV!

Janellegains7:
Alright, so this happened today, but let's give the requisite context: I am 5'3-ish and when I last weighed myself (I try not to weigh often, personal thing) I was at 245lbs. Admittedly I have a bit of a belly and a significant enough hang that it's hard to shave "down there." Fiance is my same height, he's got this like slimchub/light dadbod going on ever since we moved in in 2020. Over time I began to rub his belly as a form of just general affection, trying not to sexualize it because I genuinely like how he looks regardless of my preferences. And Covid summer gave me a major gain: going from about 190 to my current weight (with 190 being a significant gain from the last time I moved seven years ago, being 125 in 2016). All of this is to say, Covid + a WFH job that both me AND my fiance worked at the time + probably some happy weight means I have gained a LOT of weight in under a decade.

Moving on, I've never talked to him about my preferences so that he doesn't feel pressure to change, but I suspect recently that he's found out what I'm into. A few events suggest this.

First, he recently made me dinner (and he does do most of the cooking), and when he asked me if I want seconds I said that I was happy and satisfied. He smiled, rubbed my belly, and I had a hard time hearing but I think he said "As long as your tummy is full and heavy." Because I've never opened up about this interest to him, I was too paralyzed with surprise to ask him to repeat it. But I brushed it off, because I mean, he PROBABLY just said "full and happy," that makes sense.

The event that spawned me to thinking he might be serious was when we were snapchatting today. I sent him a picture of me in a crop top and a new pair of panties, and he responded with "my big beautiful orgy machine!" (Yes, he really said this, no I don't know why he decided on that turn of phrase.) But I realized that he just called me a BB-whatever, and with how much attention we give each other and our tummies, that just CAN'T be a coincidence.

Then, the final event that pushed me here. We were cuddling in bed and he grabbed a bag of peanut butter cups from our kitchen and handed me a few. I have a really bad sweet tooth, so I tried not to shove them into my mouth but I ultimately got the bag from him and ate a good handful more than he did. During this time, I'm lying down in bed and he's rubbing my belly and smiling at me. I can't help myself, I start giggling at him every time he smiles at me and I meet his gaze. He also definitely rubbed across my belly roll, an area that I have in the past worried about being too big for him to like.

There's also the fact that if I lay my head on his belly, one way or another it usually leads to us sleeping together. I jokingly once said, "I'm testing a theory, that if I lay on your belly we'll end up having sex. So far every time I've done it, that's what happened." And he totally didn't deny, just seemed to laugh it off. But one time he also was letting me play with his tummy when he was puffing in and out, and said "Oh, if only I was the one who could get pregnant between us, so that I could get a big tummy for you."

All this can't be a coincidence, right? It seems like he knows for sure that I have an extra special attachment to bellies, but because of some early conversations in our relationship I've always been worried about rejection if I mention my love of stuffing/wg. My ex was the only one who ever shared this with me, but after we broke up I just thought this thing would be in the closet the rest of my life.

Though admittedly I've been a little less cautious with my "materials" than usual. I have a stable four tabs in my phone on private mode for various things, I have my private Youtube logged into my phone as well, and had a couple of REAL close calls with that since he and I watch Youtube before bed sometimes.

Should I just try to bring it up and see if he feels the same, or has some turn ons of his own in all of this? We're very open sexually, but I've been Fort Knox about my biggest (lol) sexual turn on. I'm just REALLY thinking that the evidence is pointing toward finally telling him.