Many here are observing Christians, and we find the way the church and society approach Lent to be something anti-fat, anti-eating, anti-weight gain.

But it doesn't need to be. As we prepare for Easter, this can still be a time of reflection and joy as well (in eating and gaining)!

I hate that so many people view Lent as something in which you must deny yourself of something pleasurable to the body -- sexual activity, food, smoking, drinking, drugging, etc.

But really, doesn't the Christian God call us to sacrifices that have more to do with our souls and hearts than our bodies.

I think the notion that we need deny our bodies pleasure is one reason so many turn from religion.

It doesn't have to be that way, and really it isn't.

One approach to Lent is to make your sacrifices positive rather than negative -- promoting some soul-enhancing activity instead of denying some "sinful" activity! This could be as simple (and as complicated for some) as random acts of kindness, handing our $20 bills to the homeless, serving others in some reflective way, keeping a "blessing" journal of all your blessings, reflecting upon your personal gifts of grace, hugging your kids more, loving your loved ones more, mending fences with those who you have disagreed with.

How much more in the spirit of Christianity all those "sacrifices" would be than something as mindless and corporal as giving up chocolate or coffee!

I found the following poem/prayer to be most instructive on these notions. Let us fast against our hatred/prejudices, and let us feast upon our joys/loves/heart/soul!

Here is the poem/prayer. I just came across it, and I don't know the author's name and have found it listed as "unknown":

"The Fast Life" or "True Lenten Discipline"

Fast from judging others;
Feast on Christ dwelling in them.
Fast from fear of illness;
Feast on the healing power of God.
Fast from words that pollute;
Feast on speech that purifies.
Fast from discontent;
Feast on gratitude.
Fast from anger;
Feast on patience.
Fast from pessimism;
Feast on hope.
Fast from negatives;
Feast on encouragement.
Fast from bitterness;
Feast on forgiveness.
Fast from self-concern;
Feast on compassion.
Fast from suspicion;
Feast on truth.
Fast from gossip;
Feast on purposeful silence.
Fast from problems that overwhelm;
Feast on prayer that sustains.
Fast from anxiety;
Feast on faith.

May all have a wonderful Lent! Give in to the joys of life! Don't give up your dark chocolate! Give up your dark moods/emotions/behaviors!

Have a great day, all, and keep living life to the fullest!

Zonker

Congratulations!

You have just made one of the hottest threads on here even hotter!

You should write a story detailing this fantasy. I love the table-turning aspects of it!

"Porking out" on "pork" so you can get "porked"?

Sounds like a lot of fun!

I will add here the notion that eating round and soft things will make you round and soft:

donuts
cookies
cakes
pies

They also make one sweeter!

Mmmm, maybe that is why I become so grumpy when eating bitter chocolate?

I love that last idea also, the fear/uncertainty -- "Why is she/he so interested in my eating? My weight? Why does he/she appear to be licking his/her lips all the time."

This combined fantasy appeals on so many levels:

Both for feeder and feedee -- being fattened to become a meal, and the anticipation of fattening yourself upon another.

Animal/livestock -- Becoming a pig or a cow. For some, the notion of "prey" or "predatory" is exciting.

So related to various sexual acts symbolically -- the "eating" of your lover/oral sex. Being prepared for a "feast"/foreplay. Put in the "oven"/obvious penetration, being inside a "hot" place!

All very exciting stuff...

Wow! Now this is where it gets interesting, does it not?

Because it's one thing to "Moo" or wear a cow's tail or outfit, get down on all fours, etc.

But this is something I suspect many of us desire -- the women who wished to be milked, to have creamy milk gushing from their "udders" and the men who wish to perhaps enjoy "milking" their partners.

Who all likes this aspect of this fetish enough to pursue it to these ends?

I think I do.

If only I could find the right girl . . .

I agree with all of this.

But I add...

People change, and sometimes it's their exposure to new ideas ("kinks" or "fetishes" if you like) which help them to change.

Don't give up yet. He may come around.

I think you can look through the forums here and talk to plenty of folks here whose ideas regarding this fetish have changed or "matured" over the years.

Sometimes, it just takes exposure and time.

Best to you!

Zonker

This fantasy speaks to so many fetishes and fantasies that I scarcely believe we have catalogued them all here.

And I would like to add the actual notion of eating someone. This is a sexual fantasy which, I am sure, according to my "intro to psychology" college course training, has to do with oral sex and oral satisfaction -- something all of us who are into feederism obviously enjoy.

So nothing wrong with fattening up your lover and "eating" him/her. Nibble away....

Went into the makeup site someone listed above and found these pics of Kathleen Turner in "Man With Two Brains." Also, a better plot summary is under the photos, better than what I recalled above.

Here is link:

www.themakeupgallery.info/character/fat/obese/twobrains.htm

Not really feederism but two movies with interesting weight gain related to relationships:

1. Ending scenes in "Man with Two Brains" starring Kathleen Turner and Steve Martin. Steve Martin's character falls in love with a bodyless brain, then later when his bitchy lover(wife?) played by Kathleen Turner (he loves her for her beautiful body!), when she dies, he has the brain from the girl he truly loves put into Kathleen Turner's body. Turns out she was a compulsive eater, and by the time Martin's character is healed and out of the hospital (from the accident which killed his wife), Kathleen Turner has packed on many a pound. And yet, Martin does not see that because he is truly in love with the mind of the compulsive eater. Kind of sappy. Movie ends with him struggling to carry his new heavy bride over the threshhold. A nice, althought corny, fat-positive or body-positive message that love does not really depend upon anything as superficial as weight or size. Photo of Turner in her fat-face prosthetics:




2. Irreconcilable Differences starring Ryan ONeal and Shelley Long. After the divorce, Long's character submerges her emotions in food. Great scene of her eating and then later filling her grocery cart with junk food at the store before seeing her reflection in the shop window. Not fat-positive at all but still, uhm, seemed very steamy when I viewed this years ago as a teenager just figuring out my desires.