My ex gained a lot of weight, but she got mad at me when she saw it turned me on. So, perhaps it is not the weight gain, it's that she does not want you turned on by it.

It's harder not to gain, when the consequences from gaining is positive for you. However, you also have to remember that yo-yoing is very hard on the body, and there will probably be a point where you can no longer lose weight and keep it off.

If there was a way to get a bigger butt, most likely all large people would do it, since belly fat is considered a health risk, and butt fat is considered a cosmetic problem.

If you love her no matter what, I would just let her do her own thing. Getting her to gain when she doesn't want to is wrong, and trying to make her healthy if she doesn't want to is also wrong. You can admire her gains and tell her so. You can also give your input for healthy living if she asks. But she is her own person and probably knows the pros and cons of doing what she does.

As a married man who is married to a BBW who is not into weight gain or any other thing related to feedee/federism and who wants to stay married, I will never experience anything for real. Just the enjoyment of hearing other people's stories.

I think true feelings are ingrained within us, and are always there. When I see someone who wants to casually get into it, I have my doubts. People say that they want to "try" feederism. There is too much of a commitment, especially on the part of the feedee.

Doctors are always upset. You are probably better off trying to stay at one weight than going on the diet roller coaster and probably ending up bigger. Tell your doctor you want to be as healthy as you can be at the weight you are at. Eat healthy, but not to lose weight.

I agree with august. I am looking to be someone's friend or acquaintance, not someone's client.

I personally do not like the term "thick," and there is no scientific definition of it. The reason I don't like the term, is because it is usually used for a mostly two dimensional item, such as plywood or a flat steak. Something that is round or spherical is usually not called "thick."

So, you hope they are not young and beautiful? But if they are old and ugly, it is OK that they died?