randomlancila wrote:
It's all well and good to say that, but you cannot judge the majority of intentionally childfree people based soley on YOUR personal experiences. Just because in your life you see a lot of people act one way or do one thing, it doesn't mean that speaks for the whole of society. It's very important to remember that when speaking about any subject.
Example: I don't know ANYONE who has, or ever did have cancer. But that doesn't mean cancer isn't a huge problem or that it affects a huge part of the population. I just know I personally don't know anyone who has it.
It's also important to note that just because a childfree person ends up having a child doesn't mean much of anything. There are lots of people who bit the bullet even though truthfully they didn't really want children. People sacrifice for their significant other, or they do it because society makes them think they have to in order to fit in, moral or religious affiliation prevent them from being able to terminate a pregnancy--there are myriad situations in which someone who wanted to be childfree doesn't end up actually being childfree.
My personal experiences dont prove that all people that never want kids will go on to have kids, it only proves that SOME do, just like if you did know someone with cancer it would prove that SOME people in the world have cancer.
I know sometimes they may not want children and end up having them anyway because a partner desperately wants them or something like you said, but thats a change of mind too, or rather a change of heart
they're choosing to sacrifice what they wanted for their lover, usually people talk about future children in a relationship and if they knew their partner wanted children they should have considered that
OR
maybe their partner didnt want children and now does
which would be
a change of mind
the16th6toothson wrote:
i am all for adoption.
this planet is WAY over populated. so the best option for those who do not mind the concept of raising a child is DEFINITELY to adopt.
i respect those who adopt IMMENSELY.
..they usually make the best parents actually! (from what i've seen/known)
This would be great, I would love to adopt !! but they actually make adoption very difficult, some countries wont allow you to adopt unless your under a certain age, married, .. all kinds of things
which seems fair, because they want good parents for the children of course
but It also means people like my mum get rejected, shes a nurse with a stable home and family and everything but because shes never been married it makes it hard.
and the process also takes years.
