Dablublub is right. You need to have a conversation.

Also, please understand that while you may not need to have sex (or even like sex) others do. And it's to varying degrees.

I have a high sex drive. Most people can do it a few times a week and be happy. I need it at least once a day - preferably multiple times a day. And that's just how things are.

My boyfriend, bless him, has a normal sex drive. But we work together and compromise so that way I can be sexually fulfilled and he isn't overwhelm him.

Also, from what you have said, I am not seeing where she did anything wrong. You call her a hypocrite. How was she a hypocrite? You say she isn't changing for you. How do you expect her to change?

I understand you are sex repulsed, but for people who have sex in an intimate relationship, sex isn't transactional. Yes, it feels good. But its also a way to form and strengthen emotional bonds.

You sound like a sex-repulsed asexual. Or at least you sound like most of the other sex-repulsed asexuals that are in my life. Some of them like to participate in kink, but find the whole sex thing to be kinda gross.

It is possible to have a fulfilling romantic life as a sex-repulsed ace, however, it requires you to make your needs and wants known to the other party and both parties need to find a compromise of the other person wants to have sex.

Making her a big breakfast in bed followed by belly rubs.

Body worship

Wearing clothes that show off her fat in private or the bedroom.

Making her a big breakfast in bed followed by belly rubs.

Body worship

Wearing clothes that show off her fat in private or the bedroom.

I am recovering from body dysmorphia. I'm not 100%, but I am soooo much better than I was.

I tend to see myself as smaller than I really am. I used to be underweight, and hated every minute of it. I would *obsess* about my weight to the point that it started to mirror an eating disorder.

The first step to recovery, for me, was weighing myself less. I'd weigh myself some days up to 10 times a day. I scaled it back to once after every meal, then once a day, once a week, and now I weight myself a few times a month now.

I also started to focus more on just enjoying my food and not obsessively trying to eat the most calorie laden thing. (I remember trying to drink oil. All it did was make me feel gross.) I even stopped obsessing over my exercise regime. I worked out as much as I chose to work out and not a rep more. And I only did the workouts that I decided to do.

I'm a lot happier than I used to be. I still have weird thoughts sometimes, but I can ignore them with ease. It took me a few years to get to this point, but if I can do it, so can you.

It's very gross. I've never been fat, but I've been fat shamed. I used to be underweight. When I put on 5 lbs and move to the low end of normal for my height, my family went OFF.

The weirdest part it is was 5 lbs of muscle, not fat. And I think I looked better for it.

Fat forward to today, and I'm even more muscular. I'm not shredded, so I have some curves as well (no belly, horny boys). Most would call me athletically thick. Yet I still get comments from family members about how I should "reduce" myself. These are, of course, the same family members that rely on my strength.

Bro, the safe word is sacred. If you can't respect the safe word, then you shouldn't be doing anything that requires a safe word.

People can be cruel. It doesn't help that a lot of people think that fat shaming is ethical bullying. In their pea brains, if they fat shame someone, it will inspire them to "shape up". Which doesn't make any kind of sense.

I'm sorry, love. You didn't deserve that.

I think that, for most people, they enjoy it from an intimate partner that they know loves their body. When it comes from someone else that doesn't feel the same way, it hits different.

Of course, there are people who get off on fat shaming even though the other person means what they say. And for those, there's a bit of a thrill in rebelling against the status quo.

It's not for everyone.

Munchies:
I understand the desire to keep politics out of kink. A lot of people turn to kink for escapism.

But, for a lot of people, politics and feedism are intertwined. So it's a big ask to have people avoid politics when it comes to feedism - no matter what that person's politics are.

Tentacles:
In what ways does it intertwine with politics for you?

Munchies:
I frequently deal with a lot of misogyny and occasionally racism on this site. Fat people do face discrimination for their size - which is compounded by various intersectionalism. So, that's the biggest thing. But, there's also how patriarchy and societal norms influence this space as well. Not just for women but for all genders. I'm a domme feeder, so it's interesting how so many men on this site want to shrug off the burdens of hegemonic patriarchy so they can be emotionally vulnerable and taken care of.

Then there's the economic factor. This is an expensive kink. You must factor in food, clothing, medical care, etc. Then there's fatphobia in the medical industry. A lot of doctors will fixate on your "weight problem" instead of properly diagnosing you. There are horror stories for days on this site alone.

And on, and on the list goes.

Tentacles:
This seems like wider society being reflected in this community. While conservative types tend to stigmatise kinks it is obviously very different to being gay. On the topic of medicine I think the stigma may be even stronger in places like the UK where it may be perceived as wasting taxpayer money.[/quote]

Nothing exists in a vacuum. You can try to divorce your fetishes from reality, but the truth that the two are intertwined. And since you cannot escape the real world from influencing your kink, you can't really avoid politics. Even if you never talk about it, it's still a part of it.

As a lifelong diabetic? That's a solid no. Frankly, I cannot, and do not, want to understand the appeal.