Janellegains7:
Alright, so this happened today, but let's give the requisite context: I am 5'3-ish and when I last weighed myself (I try not to weigh often, personal thing) I was at 245lbs. Admittedly I have a bit of a belly and a significant enough hang that it's hard to shave "down there." Fiance is my same height, he's got this like slimchub/light dadbod going on ever since we moved in in 2020. Over time I began to rub his belly as a form of just general affection, trying not to sexualize it because I genuinely like how he looks regardless of my preferences. And Covid summer gave me a major gain: going from about 190 to my current weight (with 190 being a significant gain from the last time I moved seven years ago, being 125 in 2016). All of this is to say, Covid + a WFH job that both me AND my fiance worked at the time + probably some happy weight means I have gained a LOT of weight in under a decade.

Moving on, I've never talked to him about my preferences so that he doesn't feel pressure to change, but I suspect recently that he's found out what I'm into. A few events suggest this.

First, he recently made me dinner (and he does do most of the cooking), and when he asked me if I want seconds I said that I was happy and satisfied. He smiled, rubbed my belly, and I had a hard time hearing but I think he said "As long as your tummy is full and heavy." Because I've never opened up about this interest to him, I was too paralyzed with surprise to ask him to repeat it. But I brushed it off, because I mean, he PROBABLY just said "full and happy," that makes sense.

The event that spawned me to thinking he might be serious was when we were snapchatting today. I sent him a picture of me in a crop top and a new pair of panties, and he responded with "my big beautiful orgy machine!" (Yes, he really said this, no I don't know why he decided on that turn of phrase.) But I realized that he just called me a BB-whatever, and with how much attention we give each other and our tummies, that just CAN'T be a coincidence.

Then, the final event that pushed me here. We were cuddling in bed and he grabbed a bag of peanut butter cups from our kitchen and handed me a few. I have a really bad sweet tooth, so I tried not to shove them into my mouth but I ultimately got the bag from him and ate a good handful more than he did. During this time, I'm lying down in bed and he's rubbing my belly and smiling at me. I can't help myself, I start giggling at him every time he smiles at me and I meet his gaze. He also definitely rubbed across my belly roll, an area that I have in the past worried about being too big for him to like.

There's also the fact that if I lay my head on his belly, one way or another it usually leads to us sleeping together. I jokingly once said, "I'm testing a theory, that if I lay on your belly we'll end up having sex. So far every time I've done it, that's what happened." And he totally didn't deny, just seemed to laugh it off. But one time he also was letting me play with his tummy when he was puffing in and out, and said "Oh, if only I was the one who could get pregnant between us, so that I could get a big tummy for you."

All this can't be a coincidence, right? It seems like he knows for sure that I have an extra special attachment to bellies, but because of some early conversations in our relationship I've always been worried about rejection if I mention my love of stuffing/wg. My ex was the only one who ever shared this with me, but after we broke up I just thought this thing would be in the closet the rest of my life.

Though admittedly I've been a little less cautious with my "materials" than usual. I have a stable four tabs in my phone on private mode for various things, I have my private Youtube logged into my phone as well, and had a couple of REAL close calls with that since he and I watch Youtube before bed sometimes.

Should I just try to bring it up and see if he feels the same, or has some turn ons of his own in all of this? We're very open sexually, but I've been Fort Knox about my biggest (lol) sexual turn on. I'm just REALLY thinking that the evidence is pointing toward finally telling him.

Slixxx666:
Has anyone been involved with a feedee/partner/wife/husband who got cold feet? Why partner is feeling unsure now after almost 3 years. I love her but she weighs 445lbs. I love her but she is also almost 500. Should I lay off or just make her a half ton. I mean in all honesty she can barely sit up.

Slixxx666:
Nice. My partner is 445lbs. She seems unsure but whats another 65lbs for a half ton women!

J8o8h8n:
I ate almost 3000 calories for breakfast and I've gotten about half of the 3500+ calories for lunch down (stomach is uncomfortably full though). I'm definitely a bit frustrated that I can't finish one of the orders of fries, a couple of the nuggets, and half the Double Quarter pounder with cheese. I figure I can give myself a bit of a break before trying to stuff the rest of it all in. How long does it take to increase capacity and hunger response through constantly stuffing yourself to the limit at every meal?

Munchies:
Just as you cannot expect to achieve a full split when your are starting with average flexibility, the same can be said of stomach capacity. If you push yourself too hard too fast, you're just going to puke.

Be patient with yourself. It's best to do it methodically over time.

Tell me. What is your current method to increase your capacity?

J8o8h8n:
I don't really have one to be honest. I just try to get a decent amount of high calorie food that I think I can eat in one sitting if I push myself a bit and just do that. (I think part of my problem today was only waiting 3 hours between massive meals to stuff myself again).

Munchies:
Speaking as a gainer turned feeder who is into extreme weight gain and has fattened up multiple people, you are doing too much.

An all day max capacity stuffing is always fun, but only after you trained your body to handle being that full. If you haven't you are setting yourself up for failure.

Tell me. What does a normal day of eating look like to you?

J8o8h8n:
Nothing too crazy, just normal sized meals with some snacks in between them.

Munchies:
Honestly, it would be best to increase the portion size of your meals, but not too drastically. Have another helping or two. Maybe increase your snacks. Get used to feeling comfortably stuffed after you eat. If you want to push yourself, eat a little bit more, but nothing too crazy.

Also, don't focus on heavy meals. You'll struggle to digest and find yourself eating less than you planned. Instead, eat a good mix of things. Since you are focusing on your capacity, don't focus too much on calories. I promise the weight will come.

J8o8h8n:
You make valid points. Honestly, the breakfast that I ate was really filling and satisfying, once I tried to stuff myself with an even bigger lunch right afterwards, it was too much and made me feel sick and I wasn't really able to eat it all or anything else for a while afterwards.

Honestly, if I decide to go all in on gaining, I might look into starting my day with that breakfast, and then just eating as I normally would, just with slowly trying to increase the portions. Starting my day with a baseline of 3000 calories and a nice, filling, but not uncomfortably so, breakfast would likely cause my weight to increase substantially if I could keep it up consistently. Two sausage egg and cheese McGriddles, a Cinnamon Roll, a Large Mocha Frappe, and a Large Burger King Hashbrown isn't a ton of food, but it packs a ton of calories.

Ssbbwari:
The odd aspects of being morbidly obese.

Hi, I'm Amira. I've been gaining weight for over 9 years. During the duration of my journey l've discovered what many would find less appealing or odd. I found that eating has caused me to growl. Before I became aware I'd have friends & family become concerned about the noises my body produced. Whether it was a snack, or a dinner they'd mention the growling. At some point I did get fed up with the constant questions; "Are you okay?" "Do vou need help?" It was something I never understood until today, I finally caught on to what exerting had been so concerned about, it was like vibrating your mouth, or holding your breath and trying to speak. There isn't too many things to compare it too. Now that im aware of this I try to avoid doing it but somehow it just doesn't work! I'm not sure many others can relate to this.

Munchies:
I just want to add that a lot of people confuse capacity with calorie count. This is a mistake.

Capacity is all about volume. You can achieve this with no calories at all.

On the flip side, some foods are more calorie dense than others. 100 calories of one food may be a larger amount that 100 calories than another. Add onto the fact that some foods are harder to digest than others. So you may struggle to eat more with one food than the other.

J8o8h8n:
Definitely understand that. I mean, if I'm going to gain, I want to eat high calorie foods more frequently and increase my capacity so that I can eat even more of those high calorie foods (so it becomes kind of a gaining snowball lol).

J8o8h8n:
I ate almost 3000 calories for breakfast and I've gotten about half of the 3500+ calories for lunch down (stomach is uncomfortably full though). I'm definitely a bit frustrated that I can't finish one of the orders of fries, a couple of the nuggets, and half the Double Quarter pounder with cheese. I figure I can give myself a bit of a break before trying to stuff the rest of it all in. How long does it take to increase capacity and hunger response through constantly stuffing yourself to the limit at every meal?

Munchies:
Just as you cannot expect to achieve a full split when your are starting with average flexibility, the same can be said of stomach capacity. If you push yourself too hard too fast, you're just going to puke.

Be patient with yourself. It's best to do it methodically over time.

Tell me. What is your current method to increase your capacity?

J8o8h8n:
I don't really have one to be honest. I just try to get a decent amount of high calorie food that I think I can eat in one sitting if I push myself a bit and just do that. (I think part of my problem today was only waiting 3 hours between massive meals to stuff myself again).

Munchies:
Speaking as a gainer turned feeder who is into extreme weight gain and has fattened up multiple people, you are doing too much.

An all day max capacity stuffing is always fun, but only after you trained your body to handle being that full. If you haven't you are setting yourself up for failure.

Tell me. What does a normal day of eating look like to you?

J8o8h8n:
Nothing too crazy, just normal sized meals with some snacks in between them.

J8o8h8n:
I ate almost 3000 calories for breakfast and I've gotten about half of the 3500+ calories for lunch down (stomach is uncomfortably full though). I'm definitely a bit frustrated that I can't finish one of the orders of fries, a couple of the nuggets, and half the Double Quarter pounder with cheese. I figure I can give myself a bit of a break before trying to stuff the rest of it all in. How long does it take to increase capacity and hunger response through constantly stuffing yourself to the limit at every meal?

Munchies:
Just as you cannot expect to achieve a full split when your are starting with average flexibility, the same can be said of stomach capacity. If you push yourself too hard too fast, you're just going to puke.

Be patient with yourself. It's best to do it methodically over time.

Tell me. What is your current method to increase your capacity?

J8o8h8n:
I don't really have one to be honest. I just try to get a decent amount of high calorie food that I think I can eat in one sitting if I push myself a bit and just do that. (I think part of my problem today was only waiting 3 hours between massive meals to stuff myself again).

J8o8h8n:
Between eating my entire 3000 calorie breakfast and about 2500 calories of what is supposed to be my 3500 calorie lunch, I'm feeling pretty tired. Is this a normal feeling when you push yourself past feeling full? Gonna see if I can finish the rest of the meal off later today and, if it's not too much, I might do another smallish (1000 calorie or so) McDonald's meal tonight too. I feel like stuffing with 7500 calories in a day is a good start to a potential gaining journey (or at least a test gain lol).