Some guys only like skinny women--one of my friends considers "too fat" any woman with any degree of curves. Most are not like that, though.

I guess what you could say is that you are fat enough to start losing guys at the skinny end of the preference curve.....but to be gaining them at the more voluptuous end of the preference curve ;-)

Words can cover such broad categories. Should you paint your bedroom blue? Is that navy blue, turquoise blue, baby blue, aquamarine, powder blue, royal blue.... And go to a paint store and look at how many options they have.

But in your mind you know what blue you want, whatever the words.

So, should you seek out the sort of relationship you want, whatever you call it? Absolutely.

Also changing up what you eat can be part of the trouble. If you don't normally eat a lot of sugar or fat, a lot of junk food can make you feel pretty lousy.

As a test, you could try stuffing on oatmeal or brown rice or something plain like that. Not exciting, but easier on the system. If you want more junk in your stuffing, ramp that up gradually.

Good luck, I hope you achieve what you are looking for!

What about not formal gym work outs, but being dragged out and about, expected to be able to do things like go on a long hike up and down hills, run around playing frisbee, or even sprint for a bus? (Again with someone deliberately setting a standard or pace that you'd have a hard time meeting)

Coconut milk is very rich and high calorie, but it is pretty thick. You would have to see if you could drink it, and if it just left you too full. Mind you it is great to cook with, replaces Milk in a lot of places and even adds richness ( we use it for scalloped potatoes for example,, since wife can't have dairy and I can't have soy)

When most people say they are having a 'fat day' they mean they are feeling uncomfortably bloated or heavy. When I say it--at least inside my head--it means I'm taking a day to let my fat side out.

I don't do this too often, but occasionally it has to get done to release the pressure of desire for all this stuff.

So today I took the day off work, with a list of chores to get done--but the real reason is to have a day on my own, with family busy with work and school, to to fat stuff.

I am knocking off the chores and have most of them done, but with constant grazing I think I'd eaten around 3500 calories before noon (and that also means before lunch--that was just breakfasts part 1 and 2 and snacks). I also did some mild padding while on my chores out and about stores, and wore a way too tight t-shirt under my rain jacket. So I've packed in over-eating, padding, and too tight clothes, and it is still early afternoon.

It is hard to express how much more relaxed and mellow I feel. Maybe that is just the full-ish belly talking, but I think the fat desires kind of build up in the back of my mind and need to be let out occasionally.

Anyone else do this, give themselves the occasional break to really indulge in these desires?

When I was much younger, hornier and reckless, I took advantage of a many hours long drive down a quiet expressway to keep eating the whole way.

After about four hours of eating and fantasizing I shoved a lot of tissue down my pantsanand starting dforcimg a package of cookies into my already packed stomach, while taking the fantasies to eleven. I did orgasm after about twenty minutes of that, a long, tortuous, beast of a thing.

I was never foolish enough to try getting away with that while driving again, but it certainly was memorable!

I'd say talk to your doctor about options on meds, get really serious about managing your blood sugars better-- for your health AND so that you feel more in control-- andsee if your college has counselors you can talk to snout body image.... And what the poster above said.

Having a "small" meal before meeting other people to have a meal together.