You're forever young, my dear.

All that's important is that you enjoy yourself. There's no 'what you should do' about this.

It's all about *your* pleasure...a liberty we almost never have!

I think this is always going to be risky, which you didn't want to hear. But most people, men and women, are so completely brainwashed to be fat-phobic that even if they have hidden fat fantasies they can't let 'em up to the surface. And maybe there are people who would really not like even a little bit of chub, but we won't know until we live in a non-fat-hating culture. (I'm not holding my breath.)

But if you are willing to take the risk, you might hit the jackpot. I would have LOVED it if a boyfriend said something like this to me. You could say "I know you don't feel comfortable with these few pounds, but I'm really enjoying the new softness. There are a lot more men like me than you'd ever suspect, and I feel really clear about this--I've always preferred softer, rounder women. I love you no matter what size--I loved you thinner, didn't I? But I really do love the way you look now."

This is plenty of info for a while, and it'll take a lot of processing and going over again. Be patient. Hope this helps!

I buy them whenever I'm at IKEA! Good call. They have lots of cheap and lovely baked things, but the mazarins are one of my favourites.

Oddly, I'm not afraid of death or dying as such, though slow and painful, yeah. Very afraid. I'm afraid my illnesses will make me suffer badly down the road, though there's no reason to believe they will. Well, different stats say different things.

Fear of snakes is one of those hardwired things in your brain, though clearly not everyone has the same version. I've had a snake as a pet and loved playing with it, and I dated a guy maaaaaaaaaaaaany years ago who had big snakes. Still, nothing at all to be ashamed of there. My bee thing is much more stupid, lol