HectorBalloon:
God my double chin really has blossomed as my pic shows. Also grown big teeth and glasses to fit the fat nerd look from all my eating at the computer while doing nerdy computer stuff.

Viktoshka:
I asked specifically for feedee. Are you feedee?

I didn't say that feedees and feeders necessarily break up. My question was addressed specifically to feedees, because I'm interested in their opinion and experience. But since you answered, tell me how you see the supportive role of the feeder in a long-term relationship?

Munchies:
I'm an FA and feeder. My partner is my feedee. Got him up to 500 lbs as of 2023. That was his limit, and he lost weight for health and comfort reasons. Currently sitting at 430 last I checked.

Only a piece of shit leaves their partner because they are no longer gaining. And on top of that, gaining and maintaining doesn't mean you have to give up being a feedist. You just have to change your approach.

My partner and I do a lot of roleplay and fantasy about how big I'd make him and how. I also stuff him from time to time. You won't gain weight from the occasional.

I also do a lot of FA stuff, but that's outside of your feeder question.

Regardless, most feedist relationships are not transactional. People don't leave the relationship just because the journey ended. And when I say relationship, I do not mean only romantic. I've seen platonic and sexual feedists relationships too.

Viktoshka:
Thank you for such a detailed answer! It would be interesting to hear how you adapted after it reached its limit. You say that the approach simply changes - can you give an example of how exactly? What does such interaction give when there is no active recruitment?

Munchies:
We switched from making the body of our desires to enjoying it. It's hard to appreciate such things properly when your main focus is growth. And it's nice to go from a manic intensity to something more sedate and cozy.

Viktoshka:
It's interesting how the perception of the process itself changes. When growth was the main focus, it gave more excitement and drive, and now it gives more comfort and pleasure? What was the most enjoyable thing for you in this new stage?

TheCakeIsAPie:
Have you ever looked back at that first moment and realized, gee that was a weird thing to get me into this?

I remember watching one particular episode of The Rugrats where Angelica eats so many cookies she walks around with a bloated belly and groans a bunch. Tiny kid me was like "oh yeah, now thats my shit." and here we are.
Looking back it is just a WTF moment for me,
I'm curious if anyone else has random moments that set them into this kink like this.

Ssbbwbellylover1010:
I can remember when my mom had a best friend who was definitely a ssbbw before I even knew what that was or meant. She had huge breast's but her belly was so soft and jiggly, she couldn't hide it in any outfit.
I used to fantasize about just laying next to her and cuddling her, but I never really understood what I was really into.
Fast forward to teenage years, and watching porn, I saw a ad in the margin of xhamster of "Mercedesbbw" and clicked.....and ever since then I've always had a place to enjoy my love for an enormous belly!
I wish that there was a site that was STRICTLY dedicated to the love and enjoyment and admiration of the bbw/ssbbw/ussbbw belly. And I mean LITERALLY just the love for large bellies and belly play.
If anyone does have one in mind, please inform!

Oogabooga10:
Hey everyone! 23m nerd here. I've never done one of these before, but I'm looking to talk those who are Christian and are into feedism. Feedism is rare in itself, but being religious AND into feedism is really rare. I'm Catholic, so it would be really nice to talk to Christians who are also into this kind of thing, but other religions are fine too. I really want to make friends in the community who are also like me, because even though I sometimes interact with feedism communities, I sometimes feel lonely because almost nobody is in my situation. Feels like I'm in a niche within a niche. I'm also really into video games, manga/anime, and motorcycles too.

I'd love to hear about your opinions and thoughts about this topic too, so feel free to share! Hopefully I'm not the only who's into this kind of situation 😅

Enas:
If i understand the point of your entier post, it is basically asking people if they have this experience where their fetish contradicts their conciousnes? (If thats through the christian faith, or perhaps any faith seems to be of less importance to me)

Munchies:
Nah, you gotta keep the religious element to it, or it doesn't work.

See, your conscience is a reflection of your ethics and morals. Religion takes that and adds supernatural consequences. So, even if you don't have an issue with it, your religion supersedes your personal beliefs on things. So you gotta navigate the two.

You won't get it if you aren't religious or have never been religious. And even then, different faiths or expressions of faith yield different complexities.

OP and I are both Christian, but we are very different flavors of Christian. My Protestant ass has an easier time navigating these feelings because, for my flavor of Christianity, I'm straight so long as I accept Jesus as my Lord and Saviour.

Meanwhile, that Catholic guilt is the stuff of legends. OP grew up experiencing things that I will never fully understand because that's how the Catholic Church rolls.

And don't do your usual "people are stupid" song and dance. That won't fly in this specific situation, and if you try it, I am not protecting you from the angry people that will come your way.

Anjou:
And then there is Jewish guilt...

Kitsune:
Anyways, yes, I think fat men with a double chin makes them look cuter.

Arame:
I agree, but only if they are clean shaven though. Otherwise, the beard is hiding it.

Munchies:
Depends on the beard. My partner rocks a French beard, and that does nothing to hide his double chin.

Arame:
I have no idea what a French beard is, but I’ll take your word for it. And to be fair, I’m only attracted to men who are clean shaven.

Munchies:
Ah, okay. I'm a bear girly.

This is a French beard:
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Arame:
Oh, where I’m from, that’s called a goatee.

Kitsune:
Anyways, yes, I think fat men with a double chin makes them look cuter.

Arame:
I agree, but only if they are clean shaven though. Otherwise, the beard is hiding it.

Munchies:
Depends on the beard. My partner rocks a French beard, and that does nothing to hide his double chin.

Arame:
I have no idea what a French beard is, but I’ll take your word for it. And to be fair, I’m only attracted to men who are clean shaven.

Kitsune:
Anyways, yes, I think fat men with a double chin makes them look cuter.

Arame:
I agree, but only if they are clean shaven though. Otherwise, the beard is hiding it.

Oogabooga10:
Hey everyone! 23m nerd here. I've never done one of these before, but I'm looking to talk those who are Christian and are into feedism. Feedism is rare in itself, but being religious AND into feedism is really rare. I'm Catholic, so it would be really nice to talk to Christians who are also into this kind of thing, but other religions are fine too. I really want to make friends in the community who are also like me, because even though I sometimes interact with feedism communities, I sometimes feel lonely because almost nobody is in my situation. Feels like I'm in a niche within a niche. I'm also really into video games, manga/anime, and motorcycles too.

I'd love to hear about your opinions and thoughts about this topic too, so feel free to share! Hopefully I'm not the only who's into this kind of situation 😅

Enas:
If i understand the point of your entier post, it is basically asking people if they have this experience where their fetish contradicts their conciousnes? (If thats through the christian faith, or perhaps any faith seems to be of less importance to me)

Voluptuouslover:
What do you expect while you were out in public. But all she could do later is think about how nice it would be to be having sex with you bumping into you new fat belly.

Bobo:
I hate when men answer my posts

Munchies:
Dude, what is wrong with you?

Imma level with you. Women tend to not respond to posts about men having sexual fantasies involving their ex. That's something that will attract other men.

If you want women to engage with you more, then make posts women will care about.

Kitsune:
I will be honest. As someone who used to have an account on here. I have experienced misogyny on this website. Even during a chat when I defended someone a guy said I was in a "bitchy mood."

Sadly, it's not just here. The internet is a manosphere and it will always be that way. I don't think the poster should be a people pleaser just to have women talk to them. Shouldn't everyone be welcomed here?

On a side note I am normally honest with my gender on every website I have been on. Except on here which is pretty sad. The only exception is I have a feminine avatar as you can see. I used to receive creepy messages from creepy men occasionally on my old account.

Oogabooga10:
I'm so sorry you had to experience that. I agree that not everyone or everything within a church/denomination is good. I have my own beliefs and also don't blindly follow either. You're right, there are some places that are like a cult, and thankfully I didn't experience that.

You're doing a great job by doing good out there and informing others. I find it really wholesome that you and your partner are well and that you found your own set of beliefs and made peace in terms of religion. Thank you for sharing your story.