Munchies:
You initially said that you'd make her eat only the calories she needs to eat during her pregnancy. This is what I'm taking issue with.

Besides, even outside of kink, controlling what a pregnant woman gets to eat never ends well for the other person.

Still, it would be best to consult medical professional about what is best for mother and baby. Based on our previous conversations, you still have a lot to learn about basic nutrition.

I am confused why you are so hesitant to involve medical professionals. As far as I can tell, Romania has free healthcare. So, even though you've told me that you're poor, wouldn't you be able to take her to the doctor?

Nijjrtman8:
Public healthcare here isn't free for minors much less for adults which pay their dues to the state

Munchies:
Feedism isn't without risk. Diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, joint damage

Munchies:
Sure, there are some women who will be able to gain through their pregnancy and be none the worse for wear. But not every woman is like that. And the only way to be safe about it is to make sure she has access to medical care.

Nijjrtman8:
What makes them different?
Also,unfortunately "risky kink behaviour" is the only way for me to make kids without the help of viagra
And for me making kids is one of top goals so it is very essential I accomplish

Munchies:
Munchies:
You are not thinking about this hypothetical feedee wife as a person. You are thinking of this hypothetical feedee wife as an object.

I see this all the time on FF. No matter how much a feeder loves their feedee, if they treat them as an object, things won't go well.

Nijjrtman8:
I do not understand how I am thinking of her as an object? I will not force her to do anything,just convince her that it would be best to eat much less during the pregnancy for her own sake and comfort
Is there something bad about this?

Munchies:
There is a difference between being poor and having kids versus engaging in risky kink behavior without having access to medical care and having kids.

Do not conflate the two.

Nijjrtman8:
What do you mean by risky kink behaviour?

Munchies:
You don't make her do anything. She is her own person. If you are worried about her, you can have a conversation.

I'm a domme feeder. I can't make my sub feedee do something he didn't consent to do. Even though he gladly submits to me and loves to please me, I can't expect him to suddenly eat less after I stretched his stomach out. It's unreasonable.

Nijjrtman8:
But you said that I should take care of her and that if she keeps gaining during her pregnancy it will make her even more tired
Wouldn't the smart thing to do be spacing the gaining phases especially when she is pregnant?

Munchies:
It's very simple.

Don't have kids if you are unable to take care of them.

Nijjrtman8:
Are you trying to say that most of the country of Romania should stop having kids?
Are you trying to say that most africans should stop having children?

Munchies:
But if you cannot obtain the medical care than your hypothetical family needs, it is wiser to wait until you are.

Nijjrtman8:
What if that may never come?

Munchies:
It's not an exact science. But, if she has a family history, has had pregnancy complications in the past, or if she's having a high risk pregnancy, it's more likely she will have complications.

Also, keep in mind that if she does keep gaining consistently through her pregnancy, she may become more tired than if she kept her weight under control. So, if you go that route, you'll need to step up and help her.

And she'll really need you after she gives birth. Pregnancy and birth are hard on the body. And taking care of a baby (especially a newborn) is even harder. Don't be surprised if she wants to take a break from actively gaining.

Nijjrtman8:
How would I make her eat just what her body needs in terms of calories if she regularly overeats?

Blubberbellym:
So, recently I was talking to someone on here. & we switched to kik so that texting would be easier since there's a 5 message limit here.

We were chatting & getting to know each other, started talking about the possibility of meeting up since we were local.

He mentioned he wanted to feed & help grow someone, but would want to feed them irl which Is great.

He asked to see pictures of my weight gain over the years, and stuff like that. I shared it with him. & then he asked for NSFW pictures, and a video saying how big I wanted to grow, I thought it was an odd request as it was random, but I still did it,

He asked again for more a couple hours later & I told him no, he told me that he was not interested in feeding me if I can't do what he asks.

I said okay, and cleared him from my conversation feed. Early this morning he sent me a unsolicited photo & told me if I do the video he will feed me.


I got the vibe tgst he was just a creep looking to get off. I don't think I'll be interacting on this site much more after this

Weetabix:
It's possible he was a creep however online is not a good place to get to know each other. The very caution required online comes across as cold. I know this cuts to the very heart of a site like FF but it's a modern day problem. These are not good places to meet people. There are far more Feeders and Feedees than you would realise from the members of FF. You're really dealing with a sad subset of people who think it's practical to build a romantic relationship online. If you do click with someone it's likely that they are more than 2000 miles away so that's a huge problem. It's also likely that they themselves have been hurt in some way by online relationships which makes both them and you act in a creepy way to each other.

I would suggest that you actually meet people in person in a safe place rather than try to conduct an online relationship.

If you don't realise how toxic online can be then just read the replies I get to this post.

Blubberbellym:
Thanks guys, I appreciate the feedback. Glad others Siri think that is wrong, I dint think I'll still continue much on this site, was nice though.