Falcor:
I am now back at my normal weight, along with my firm abs. While she keeps gaining, unintentionally.
A week ago she told me that she is jealous of how I am all fit and firm while she keeps on gaining (I think it has to do with her change of metabolism...). So I offered for us to workout together, and she gladly excepted my offer.
Since she is all out of shape, I suggested we start with a short walk.
To my pleasure I saw how she struggled to squeeze herself to her new tights. Ladies, why do you think you have to wear tights for a walk and not just any kind of pants? not that I care, on the contrary I love it!
I loved seeing her jiggle as we walked, however she didn't... She even mentioned that it bothered her to feel how she jiggled while we where walking! needless to say she didn't workout since...
What else can I do to make her feel good about her body?! While she knows I prefer her like this
From where I sit, I don't think your partner really knows what she wants. She complains about how unfit she is without doing anything about it. She also has some ... interesting ideas about gender rolls that I think are making it harder for her to decide what she wants. As such, there's only so much you can do.
She knows you find her attractive, and that's good. Keep making sure she knows how sexy you find her. But you also need to make sure she knows you will love her and find her attractive at any size.
You are already helping her get back in shape without pushing her one way or another. If you buy groceries or do the cooking, make sure there are healthy yet tasty options for her. But outside of that, she has to figure out what she wants for herself. You can't help her with that.