***cowgirl:
Dang, what a great question.

Breast feeding and lactation for sure. I've been trying to induce lactation in myself for a couple of months now. Lazing on the bed, eating snacks, zoning out with the TV on, and pumping has been this totally wonderful ritual that just makes anxiety melt away.

That, generally, is a big thing for me; all the kinds of reductions in stress and anxiety that come from feeding-adjacent areas. Like, sub/Dom stuff; the lack of choice is so remarkably freeing and clarity inducing from time to time.

Things I haven't really tried but want to incorporate include bimboification, which is just the logical extrapolation of the above.

bobbybob:
I’ve been fit my entire life, but have always wanted to get very fat.

But every time I try, I quickly back out. I’m concerned with how it might affect my professional, social, and dating life.

As of now, work is going great, I have a great social life, and my dating life has been awesome. And I know at least the dating life aspect is in big part due to how I look.

So while giving up an athletic physique to get massive is something I’d absolutely love, I really don’t want to sacrifice these other parts of my life.

Just looking for some insight on the situation.

alelectro:
I like that my body matches more who I feel like I really am. Since gaining, people have referred to me as "big guy." I sense more smiles and comradery from other fat people. It just feels right to be able to fill out an XXXL shirt. I think I felt more insignificant being thinner. It's nice to take up space, to have a presence, to give a big, giant hug. I like that when someone flirts with me, I immediately know that they like someone with a belly. Before, I felt like an imposter in a thin body. I feel more at home now.

buchanantarrant:
In my personal opinion I would say no. Maybe slightly chubby. But only slightly. It differs from person to person, depending on your hormone levels, rate of gain, activity levels and where you body stores fat. At 5,3 you would more likely hit that category before someone who is 5,8. Personally I would say not to even consider yourself fat until you're over 200lbs, but then I'd call that chubby. My wife is about 250lbs but I still wouldn't brand her as fat, yet society would say differently. It all depends on how you feel as a person. Not what the bmi says. Because we all know bmi isn't everything.

fatboy420:
So I've been eating as much as possible for about a month and a half. Some days I eat more then others but i make sure it's never less then 3500 calories a day, aiming for 4000 plus. I feel like my belly has gotten bigger but the numbers on the scale aren't moving much. Could I be losing muscle mass? What's the best advice to just blow up fast? Am I just being impatient?

alelectro:
I think they're actually quite common, but a many, perhaps most, come from more conservative cultures. I have been immersed in both Latino and Southern cultures, and in both cases, it was clearly more common to have traditional relationships e.g., wife cooking, husband paying the bills.

However, in neither case are the women pushovers. They will "claim" their man and fattening up a husband is a rite of passage I've observed many times. He can hide a wedding ring, but not a ring of fat around his waist. I suppose other women know something's up if he tries to wander off.

You don't have to ask if a girl is a "feeder" in such cultures. Just ask if she loves to cook and would still love you if you got fat. The answers are often yes.

Bigwideland:
So as a fat man with no wife, I would be look at like yeah right your single, mmm sure you are honey…. I never thought of that no wonder I don’t get hit on , d’oh.

alelectro:
Well, I do think that might be the unspoken, perhaps even subconscious, assumption. So most women might tend to be more reserved at first, because, yes, a 30+ year old man with a full paunch walking down the streets of Savannah, Georgia or San Antonio, Texas is likely married with kids. But, it just means you have to make the first move.

My point though was that such relationships don't begin as feedee meeting feeder, but as people seeking a traditional relationship. There's responsibilities in the relationship though. I have met many Latina and Southern feeders, and every one of them looked to their man as a provider and a source of pride. A good job, confidence, intelligence, and an appropriate, but modest, level of swagger seems to go a long way.

I guess what I'm saying is presenting yourself as someone reliable, faithful, honest, and a provider is what attracts feeders in the cultures I've personally experienced.

cuddlist:
Suddenly interested in moving to Texas! I like the sound of this