Munchies:
Noticed you live in Texas. Lotta Southern women are like that. Not even as a kink. We get a man we love, and it's almost a compulsion to keep his belly full and happy.

fatrnfatr:
Food = love in many cultures. Is it about doing something nice for the family, a tradition centered around holidays, or just about making traditional southern foods which are by nature fattening?

Munchies:
All of the above. In some parts of the South, a well-loved man is a fat man. Especially if you've been together for a while. There are definitely women around here that fatten up their men to show he's taken. Strangely, it's not even a kink for most of them.

GrowingLoveHandles:
Munchies, how right you are. These women kind of “mark” their man with a belly created by their fabulous cooking.

Munchies:
And the men are more than happy to fatten for them. They dream of finding someone to grow old and fat with.

GrowingLoveHandles:
All just very accepted by many people as part of the culture.

And it’s really kinky as f.

Miachu:
Thank you
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Munchies:
It's the equity vs equality debate. A lot of people say they want equality, but what they really want it equity.

Equity takes into consideration people's differences and acts accordingly.

For example, equality is giving people the same bike regardless of the rider's size, shape, or phyical ability. Equity is giving everyone a bike, but adjusting the bike to their needs.

There's a lot of intersectionality you need to take into account when it comes to being fat in public. Age, gender, disability status, sexuality, race, income levels, and other variables impact how people treat you in public. Calling fat women "plus-sized" is an attempt to reclaim dignity that the world at large wants to strip away.

Thaynor:
It is, but it's also sometimes "plus-size" is framing clothing as "oh, you're overweight" when I kinda would have preferred just a number? Especially when I was a bit lighter I was still considered a plus-size despite being kinda maybe average-ish weight? I also could kinda grumble about how sizes tends to be a bit weird at times, like how I wanted to get a 38A bra and, well, most places treat 38s as closer to Ds than As so I paid a bit more.

I dunno, grumble grumble.

Munchies:
Noticed you live in Texas. Lotta Southern women are like that. Not even as a kink. We get a man we love, and it's almost a compulsion to keep his belly full and happy.

fatrnfatr:
Food = love in many cultures. Is it about doing something nice for the family, a tradition centered around holidays, or just about making traditional southern foods which are by nature fattening?

Munchies:
All of the above. In some parts of the South, a well-loved man is a fat man. Especially if you've been together for a while. There are definitely women around here that fatten up their men to show he's taken. Strangely, it's not even a kink for most of them.

GrowingLoveHandles:
Munchies, how right you are. These women kind of “mark” their man with a belly created by their fabulous cooking.

Miachu:
The same can be the same in the media, with plus size women being called empowering

But larger men, don't get anything like that also

What's the deal with this?

Thaynor:
"Plus size" women are being called empowering because they are kinda conveying the notion larger women can just exist and be happy irrespective of what others think of their appearance. Larger men can already do this, guys being overweight is more normalised than it is for women where for them they kinda deal with a lot of ugly stuff for even being 10lb or 20lb heavier.

Like, I really kinda don't mean to be a total bummer about weight on a fat appreciation website, but, it's so strange to hear a guy envy how overweight women are treated by a society rigged with male gaze in mind. Especially as not every overweight person likes to be reminded they are overweight or finds their weight attractive, which is totally really each their own. Genuinely not really an attack, but just, odd to hear it even here.

Munchies:
Noticed you live in Texas. Lotta Southern women are like that. Not even as a kink. We get a man we love, and it's almost a compulsion to keep his belly full and happy.

fatrnfatr:
Food = love in many cultures. Is it about doing something nice for the family, a tradition centered around holidays, or just about making traditional southern foods which are by nature fattening?

Milhause:
Sorry for the long post but I felt context was necessary.

TLDR: Wife knows about my fetish and turn ons but idk how to live my truth while not causing her negative emotions.

Back in March, I (34M) opened up to my wife (34F) of seven years about being a FA with some feeder kinks. I explained what a FA was and told her I was sharing all this info with no expectations.

Since we met she’s always been overweight (5’5”, 190-200lbs) and she has done weight watchers on and off to little success. She did lose weight for our wedding and I cheered her on while doing so. I just want her to be happy in her skin regardless.

I finished talking and bottom line, she listened without interrupting, didn’t respond with judgment and thanked me for sharing. She didn’t run for the hills and the convo kind of died there. Since it was a lot of info, I didn’t press the issue.

Around early May, I decided to do a soft check-in to ask how that info was received and if she had any questions or googled anything afterwards. She said from what I told her that it all seemed self-explanatory so she didn’t look anything up. She didn’t seem interested in talking more so I dropped it.

Last week the topic of turn ons came up organically. I asked if she’d feel comfortable with me sending her some of mine and she agreed so I gave her a list of vanilla ones and soft kink-related ones. She said she’d keep them in mind. I reiterated that I never want her to be in an uncomfortable space just for my benefit so this was more info for her to do or do nothing with as she saw fit.

One of my turn ons that I listed was tight jeans or leggings that emphasize one’s round figure (I’m thinking specifically of her cute belly but I didn’t say that) and/or wearing clothes a size too small to really get flirty.


This morning she came out into the living room to the laundry pile to look for a top. I noticed that her work pants were zipped but she couldn’t do the top button. Ive suspected she’s gained some weight recently but had no way of knowing. The waistband she used to wear over her belly button now sits below her navel and the hasp can’t close!

Needless to say I was in awe but I still don’t know if saying something like “The way those jeans hug your figure really drives me crazy” would elicit a positive/negative reaction. Since telling her some of my turn ons I feel like she’s *maybe* doing a few on purpose but I can’t 100% tell. I don’t want to say something dumb like “Are you wearing those tight jeans for my benefit” if that’s not the case and then cause her to feel self-conscious.

I’m struggling to figure out how openly I can live with this while being respectful that she might not and might never see her body the way I do so I don’t want to be a source of body issues.

I guess I can always keep my compliments vague but then it feels like I’m going back to hiding a part of myself.

Ditzy:
Why people think it has to be fast food or sweets just eat what you normally like just more of it.
Go slow for your first time and don't over do it.
If at all possible choose good food not junk food.
I made that mistake and had some awful indigestion and heart burn.

Belly Getting Bigger:
I've been around 315 pounds for about the last 6 or 7 years.
Got together with my wonderful girlfriend about 4 years ago and now I'm teetering in single digits under 350.

She always feeds me too much saying how. She is going to fatten me up so I can't run away. ( Such a turn on ).

Love my life.

HappyMe:
Are there any feeders here that want to help me gain weight without sexually messaging? I am asexual and would like support in getting fat. I am 5'2, 255lbs and have a waist circumference of 54.5 inches. I would like a 62 inch belly, because then I am as fat as I am tall