Being a feeder

ChunkyPeanutButter:
I’m just sick and tired of “you won’t boy me food? You aren’t a feeder than” like I’m a feeder, my girlfriend isn’t a feedee, but I’m still a feeder.

Me spending money doesn’t change that. I was told in the chat on here that because I won’t feed random feedees; I am not a feeder


Yeah. Still doesn't mean you have to snipe at a fellow feeder.
2 years

Being a feeder

ChunkyPeanutButter:
A feeder feeding multiple feedees is like a guy dating multiple women…


I also want you to understand that feeding someone has a different level of significance to different people. On the low end, feeding someone is just a fun thing to do. It's all no strings attached, and everyone has a good time. On the other end, feeding is a sacred bond that should only happen with someone important to you.

None of these approaches are wrong. It just comes down to what's right for you.
2 years

Being a feeder

ChunkyPeanutButter:
A feeder feeding multiple feedees is like a guy dating multiple women…


Wow. Okay.

Look, while I know you are just posting to blow off some understandable steam, there are a sizable chunk of people on this site that will co-opt this thread to say some of the most messed up things about women. I see it happen all the time.

So I, a woman who is also a feeder and has been on this site longer than you have, am trying to nip certain things in the bud before they start.

And if you read what I wrote, you will see that I didn't invalidate anything you said. I was even empathetic. I simply provided more context to certain experiences to keep the thread on topic and discourage certain people from dumping on women.
2 years

Being a feeder

ChunkyPeanutButter:
I didn’t read that. I say I am a feeder, doesn’t mean I am required to pay for everything any feedee wants to eat.

I am a feeder in this kink.

I don’t have to feed everyone and not feeding doesn’t make me less a feeder.


Didn't read what? What I said or something else? A lack of antecedents makes it confusing to know what you mean.
2 years

Being a feeder

ChunkyPeanutButter:
It’s roughy being a feeder.

You put that tag in any profile and get asked to send money…

“You can’t be a feeder cause you won’t feed me”

I fecking hate that. Like, I can’t identify as a feeder because I won’t feed indiscriminately?

Imagine being told this by a trans person. Imagine if I told them they can’t identify as a woman because they don’t play with Barbie…. Why is it okay to tell me I don’t identify as a feeder because i want to get to know someone before I feed them…


Little bit of an apples and oranges situation. Transphobia is a big deal - lots of life ruining or life ending situations they gotta deal with. What you are going through is an inconvenience.

Being a male feeder on FF comes with its own struggles. You will get a lot of messages from women and people pretending to be women trying to take advantage of you.

You will need to be careful because the bulk of these people are scammers. They are looking for a gullible mark. It's best not to engage or take anything to heart. If you do fall for a scam, please let the site admin know. They take this stuff very seriously.

I also want you to understand that your experiences as a male feeder are going to be very, very different than a female or trans (FF only has a catchall transgender or no gender category) feeder. The most you'll typically deal with is scammers, entitled people, and the occasional horny guy who refuses to read. The other groups will be treated based on their gender first and their fetish second. And that's assuming the other person will even consider them as a feeder.

I will say that if you want a more peaceful experience, switch your designation from feeder to fat admirer. Fewer people will message you.

You may ask "Why is it that I have to deal with this at all?" Simply put, patriarchy. Men are expected to provide and take care of women. So, it makes you prime targets for scammers and entitled people. It's not fair, but that's simply how society is.

And it works. I've heard tales of many desperate, lonely men who throw will eagerly pay money to anyone who asks to be fed. They are insecure in their masculinity. As such, they will do anything that makes them feel like a man - even if it hurts them.
2 years

Gaining as a feeder

Honestly, I think we should let OP speak for herself. She can say what her own desires are. We shouldn't put our own views onto her - weight loss or weight gain.

If she responds to this thread, that's fine. We shouldn't push her in one direction or another. That's for her to decide. If she doesn't reply to this thread, that's also fine. It's not our business unless she makes it our business.
2 years

Dressing fat

Specksaver:
I bought a white t-shirt in xxl. It is getting rather snug, but in the souvenirshop in Amsterdam where I bought it, they didn’t have a larger one. On the front of the T-shirt there is a text: Don’t feed me ( I am on a diet). Almost everyday people reacts for that tekst on the shirt and give me sweat threads on the street. Yesterday a woman on street forced me to eat a whole role of cookies at once. Nice experience. Think I must wear this shirt more when I am in public places.


Lol, nice
2 years

Unexpected everyday issues when getting fatter

Morbidly A Beast:
I just don’t wear mine I had the sensor removed in my truck, If I did wear it pretty sure it would dig into my ass all the time


Don't wear what? Your seat belt? Pretty sure that's a crime. Also super dangerous. I've lost loved ones that way.

Is the issue it doesn't go far enough around you? Or is the seat itself too tight to comfortably buckle?
2 years

Unexpected everyday issues when getting fatter

FAMGM:
I was fully prepared for the fact that I’d become unfit, struggle to run or walk far, fit in chairs with arms, etc.

What I did not expect was how difficult it is to reach across my own body! I have to put my seat belt on by picking it up with the nearer hand, pulling it towards my middle, and passing it to the other hand, which buckles it.

Matthew Olney:
Huh, that's interesting I don't have that problem


All bodies are different. While you and FAMGM are about the same size, you have different shapes. Also your body composition can be different. So while you two appear to be about the same size, you can have wildly different limitations.
2 years

Gaining as a feeder

Canderson206:
I don't get this thread.

I've dated, fed, and fattened multiple women -- one to quite a large size, and one who thought of herself as a feeder but ended up with me turning those desires around on her (which was very satisfying). It's never been an issue for me to have my own separate diet and remain fit and active. You just have to be your own person and have your partner understand that.

In your case, OP, it sounds like you genuinely enjoy gaining with your boyfriend. And he sounds like quite a feeder himself.

It also sounds to me like neither you nor your boyfriend have ever actually been honest with each other about your specific desires, and to what extent you want to take those desires. It's a boundaries issue.

You can't "hope" that things work out the way you want them to in relationships, particularly not when feedism and weight gain are involved. You need to be specific and honest.

If you really hated gaining, you probably wouldn't have done it so much thus far. But you also shouldn't do it just because you think it will help him gain. I'd argue that's manipulative and will result in both of you being unhappy.


The responses in this thread make a little more sense when read in conjunction with this thread:

fantasyfeeder.com/forum/posts

That said, I agree with all of your points.
2 years