Using these sites as a dating site?

Iridescent Pearly:
I'm trying to meet people on these kinds of sites but I always end getting ghosted. I always avoid being sexual or creepy. The only people I attract are creeps that want my pics. Everytime I meet a friendly person or reachout to someone who complains of loneliness they ghost me. Am I trying too hard??? Is this too rare??? Seriously thinking about quitting this crap...


I'm sorry to hear you're experiencing this.

People's success in finding someone on this site is mixed. Some of this is site specific. Some of it is not. Some of it may be something you are doing, but some of it may not be.

Please understand that sometimes people will ghost you, and it is not your fault. This is, unfortunately, very normal in the online realm. (And irl too, if I'm honest.)

That being said, I can't speak too much on your situation. I don't know you, and I don't know if you are doing anything that might contribute to it. I don't think you are based on what you are telling me. But I also don't know the full story.

It is possible to have relationships (platonic, romantic, and sexual) on this site. I met my partner on here, and I have a small group of friends. It helps that I've gone into every situation will no real expectations. If we connect, that's nice. If not? Oh well.
2 years

When did you realize you wanted to be fat?

Johniav:
From the very beginning. When it finally happened, I freaked out. Go figure.


It's not unusual. It's sad, but it makes sense.
2 years

Tired, lazy, sweaty with weight gain?

Jd00723:
Hey everyone. Still new to this and only had a small gain. I’ve been on a 4000 - 5000 calorie diet for about a week and I feel lazier and sleepy.

Also my physical fitness has taken a dive, and I feel breathless going up stairs etc.

I’ve not even gained that much or been eating more for that longer. I’ve been eating a lot of heavy cream maybe that’s it.

Basically what’s causing this lethargy etc? Like I said It can’t just be fat gain as this is still somewhat new.

Munchies:
It's 100% the heavy cream. If you have a high dairy, high fat diet, your body will go through the wringer trying to process it. If you want to do cream gains, it's better to start off small and carefully increase. How much cream are you consuming a day?

Jd00723:
Only a pint.

I just need to take it easy I guess. Thought it does feel great getting to be lazy as my body struggles to deal with all the fat it’s consuming! Plus I’m not getting anything bad happening in the bathroom to be so crude. So I think it’s going well. Might take a day off soon though.

Munchies:
Heavy cream is best taken as a short term thing. So, at most a few weeks at a time. Although, less is better for most people.

It's also easier to digest if you cook with the cream instead of drinking it.

Still, if you are new to this, it's best to ease your way into it. It's a shock to your body, and it will resist the weight gain at first. As such, you can spend a lot of money of food but gain very little weight.

Remember the key to weight gain is for your body to absorb the excess calories - not flush them down to toilet.

Jd00723:
Thanks for all your help. How long does it take for the body to change tune and start storing the fat, if you’re new to this?


There's a lot of different factors: body composition, metabolism, activity level, stress, food consumption, health issues, ect. Depending on the person, it can take a few weeks to a few years. It really depends.

The most important aspect of getting fat on purpose is to be patient. Don't be afraid to push, but don't do too much too soon.

It's best for a beginner to relax their diet and have a less intense workout regime. Once your body gets used to that, you can up the ante
2 years

Tired, lazy, sweaty with weight gain?

Jd00723:
Hey everyone. Still new to this and only had a small gain. I’ve been on a 4000 - 5000 calorie diet for about a week and I feel lazier and sleepy.

Also my physical fitness has taken a dive, and I feel breathless going up stairs etc.

I’ve not even gained that much or been eating more for that longer. I’ve been eating a lot of heavy cream maybe that’s it.

Basically what’s causing this lethargy etc? Like I said It can’t just be fat gain as this is still somewhat new.

Munchies:
It's 100% the heavy cream. If you have a high dairy, high fat diet, your body will go through the wringer trying to process it. If you want to do cream gains, it's better to start off small and carefully increase. How much cream are you consuming a day?

Jd00723:
Only a pint.

I just need to take it easy I guess. Thought it does feel great getting to be lazy as my body struggles to deal with all the fat it’s consuming! Plus I’m not getting anything bad happening in the bathroom to be so crude. So I think it’s going well. Might take a day off soon though.


Heavy cream is best taken as a short term thing. So, at most a few weeks at a time. Although, less is better for most people.

It's also easier to digest if you cook with the cream instead of drinking it.

Still, if you are new to this, it's best to ease your way into it. It's a shock to your body, and it will resist the weight gain at first. As such, you can spend a lot of money of food but gain very little weight.

Remember the key to weight gain is for your body to absorb the excess calories - not flush them down to toilet.
2 years

Tired, lazy, sweaty with weight gain?

Jd00723:
Hey everyone. Still new to this and only had a small gain. I’ve been on a 4000 - 5000 calorie diet for about a week and I feel lazier and sleepy.

Also my physical fitness has taken a dive, and I feel breathless going up stairs etc.

I’ve not even gained that much or been eating more for that longer. I’ve been eating a lot of heavy cream maybe that’s it.

Basically what’s causing this lethargy etc? Like I said It can’t just be fat gain as this is still somewhat new.


It's 100% the heavy cream. If you have a high dairy, high fat diet, your body will go through the wringer trying to process it. If you want to do cream gains, it's better to start off small and carefully increase. How much cream are you consuming a day?
2 years

Spike's double belly gif thread

Spike:
I do not know where else to post them so I figured here is okay LOL

I forget to take a lot of photos of it with my sets and sadly my modeling wants no belly as I am too big for most of my audiences liking. But I do try to take a sexy belly video each set


Balloons


Bimbo look



Checkered G String


Lower belly spilling out under corset


Christmas Gif


New Years stuffed disco balls


Mirror Selfie with belly out


Halloween cosplay lingerie


Mirror full body belly dance


I appreciate all positive comments,
I also will take requests and suggestions if anyone knows a full video or anything else as i just was cursed with a big lipedema fueled belly&upper arms so I'm always lost as what people want to see.
I just force it on ya'll like... this ROFL.

So feel free to give ideas.


I think you're very pretty. Plus, you have some creative video ideas. Keep up the good work.
2 years

The truth is difficult to get a feeder

Catalinacataline:
nobody wants to take responsibility or nobody is interested in feeding or does not have the economy for that and the truth is understood

DomFeeder:
Well - its also difficult to find a real-life feedee. 99% of the so called "feedees" or "gainers" are looking for somebody who sends money but no one is willing to relocate


That's a major life change. Some can't afford it. For others, they'd be leaving behind their friends, family, job, etc. And that's an even bigger gamble for moving to be near their internet feeder. And, speaking as a feeder myself, most feeders I've encountered are not worth it.
2 years

Did you feel ‘different’ growing up?

Spike:
Yes. I was as young as i remember with a B belly.
Aside from extreme abuse from it people in school bullied me for the 'tire' in the pants which didnt fit right, i didnt understand why my belly button was dividing my stomach, etc.


They are all pricks. You are a beautiful person. And no matter what you look like on the outside, you are worthy of love and respect.
2 years

Heavy cream fit to fat

Jd00723:


Munchies:
Feeder here with a background in biology. I'm also a former gainer who went from skinny to muscular.

Understand that a week is barely enough time to experience any significant change. This is especially so since it sounds like you have a good metabolism. In fact, you are more likely to accidentally gain more muscle instead of fat as heavy cream is also used in bodybuilder circles.

Also, heavy cream gains are hard to sustain. So even if you are getting a bit softer (it is also possible you're a bit bloated because heavy cream can be hard to process), you may lose it all when you come off of it.

Since you're in really good shape, I recommend a different approach.

Don't do rapid gains. You'll freak out when you see your body quickly changing - even if it was something you wanted to do. It will also give your body a chance to get used to your gains.

Instead, just relax about your diet. You're at 13% body fat. That implies you are very strict with your diet. I'm not advocating for a fast food-only diet. Instead, don't deny yourself anything. Have a second slice of cake. Eat some white bread. Enjoy less lean cuts of meat.

If it feels like work, you are doing it wrong. Getting fat should feel like a release. It should feel like hedonism.

Jd00723:
Thanks for the feedback. I wouldn’t say I’m scared of gaining, even the tiny gains I’ve made I find really fun. And downing heavy cream is also naughty and hedonistic rather than a chore. If I do gain muscle as well as fat I don’t mind as it will emphasize the areas I want to get bigger!

Is there any way I can slow my metabolism?


Trust me on this. Unlike you, I am not new to the scene. I like extreme weight gain and have had multiple feedees in the past. I'm dating my current feedee as well.

It's a psychological thing. Anytime there's a drastic change to your appearance, and you cannot easily revert it, it creates a level of cognitive dissonance. It's also not uncommon for people to freak out about it - even if it's what they always wanted.

Plus, it will save you money by replacing things you outgrow and (most importantly) give your body a chance to adapt. Just as pushing yourself to gain muscle causes your body distress, the same is true for gaining fat.

As for lowering your metabolism, this gives you a basic understanding for how it works:
www.maxhealthcare.in/blogs/7-ways-slow-down-your-metabolism
2 years

Heavy cream fit to fat

Jd00723:
Hello everyone,

Sorry for the millionth topic on this! I’m very new to the gaining scene, currently very in shape with about 13% body fat.

For almost a week I’ve been adding a pint of heavy cream to my diet, really going into calorie surplus as a result.

So far I seem a little softer but couple of things:

1. I have an electric scale which measures loads of metrics, including fat (sub and vic). These have barely moved, despite the fact that I swear I’m gaining (just noticed tiny hips for instance. Is this all in my head? If so when should I see results? And for anyone especially who has gone from fit to fat with heavy cream, happy to hear your experience, what did you notice first in terms of body change, and over what period of time?

2. Main change is feeling slightly out of breath. Is this normal for a gain? Just concerned about cholesterol.

3. I still plan on working out mostly weights but also a bit of cardio. How long before any gain impacts any fitness.

Thanks. And happy to have joined this community smiley


Feeder here with a background in biology. I'm also a former gainer who went from skinny to muscular.

Understand that a week is barely enough time to experience any significant change. This is especially so since it sounds like you have a good metabolism. In fact, you are more likely to accidentally gain more muscle instead of fat as heavy cream is also used in bodybuilder circles.

Also, heavy cream gains are hard to sustain. So even if you are getting a bit softer (it is also possible you're a bit bloated because heavy cream can be hard to process), you may lose it all when you come off of it.

Since you're in really good shape, I recommend a different approach.

Don't do rapid gains. You'll freak out when you see your body quickly changing - even if it was something you wanted to do. It will also give your body a chance to get used to your gains.

Instead, just relax about your diet. You're at 13% body fat. That implies you are very strict with your diet. I'm not advocating for a fast food-only diet. Instead, don't deny yourself anything. Have a second slice of cake. Eat some white bread. Enjoy less lean cuts of meat.

If it feels like work, you are doing it wrong. Getting fat should feel like a release. It should feel like hedonism.
2 years