Freddii:
So I’ve been bestfiends with this girl for 3 years and she knew about my kink (I’m a feedee). Recently I told her that I have feelings for her and she said that it makes her uncomfortable and stopped being friends with me. What should I do now? Is she in the right? I feel awful.

Munchies:
From what you described, I don't think your kink was the issue. It seems more that you confessed to her than anything.

That being said, the fact that you said you guys were best friends implies there's much more to the story.

Freddii:
She said it is the issue

PolyPinoyPuppy:
With that in mind, did you bring feederism up in conjunction with your confession, or was it something she attached to it herself?

Regardless, I'm sorry. It's hard losing your friend in the best of circumstances. For it to be tied to something as personal as feederism, which many people already have to be in the closet about, adds to the agony.

I would hope that your friendship was strong enough to recover after some time. But that won't happen on its own. Unless she's gone no contact with you, there is still a possibility to find some sort of understanding that you value her friendship more than you would ever value kink.

Freddii:
I did not bring it up, and when we were friends she would often joke about my kink so I didn’t expect it to make her that uncomfortable, but I didn’t even think about it when I confessed. I also told her that I’m not expecting her to get into relationship with me. And when we had a fight I told her that she doesn’t need to worry, that I don’t have feelings hor her anymore and that also made her angry, so I don’t know 😭. And thank you

Munchies:


At this point, I'd just move on from her. She doesn't want to date you but doesn't want you to get over your feelings for her. That's just toxic.

I'm curious as to how you guys got into an argument and you told her you got over your feelings after she dumped you as a friend.

Freddii:
She dumped me as a friend after that argument, I’m sorry if the informations I give are confusing, language barrier 😭
Also yeah, she was very toxic (the whole friendship) but that was kind of why I liked her too, I don’t know, it’s complicated

Catalinacataline:
nobody wants to take responsibility or nobody is interested in feeding or does not have the economy for that and the truth is understood

Freddii:
So I’ve been bestfiends with this girl for 3 years and she knew about my kink (I’m a feedee). Recently I told her that I have feelings for her and she said that it makes her uncomfortable and stopped being friends with me. What should I do now? Is she in the right? I feel awful.

Munchies:
From what you described, I don't think your kink was the issue. It seems more that you confessed to her than anything.

That being said, the fact that you said you guys were best friends implies there's much more to the story.

Freddii:
She said it is the issue

PolyPinoyPuppy:
With that in mind, did you bring feederism up in conjunction with your confession, or was it something she attached to it herself?

Regardless, I'm sorry. It's hard losing your friend in the best of circumstances. For it to be tied to something as personal as feederism, which many people already have to be in the closet about, adds to the agony.

I would hope that your friendship was strong enough to recover after some time. But that won't happen on its own. Unless she's gone no contact with you, there is still a possibility to find some sort of understanding that you value her friendship more than you would ever value kink.

Freddii:
I did not bring it up, and when we were friends she would often joke about my kink so I didn’t expect it to make her that uncomfortable, but I didn’t even think about it when I confessed. I also told her that I’m not expecting her to get into relationship with me. And when we had a fight I told her that she doesn’t need to worry, that I don’t have feelings hor her anymore and that also made her angry, so I don’t know 😭. And thank you

Angy523:
Okaaay, literally my jeans ripped last week. I was all focused on my bf grow I didn't notice I gained too a little. I'll start a diet and going to the gym tomorrow.

Morbidly A Beast:
I don’t understand why BMI is a worth while measure of anything of value, it is literally height divided by weight (or vice versa) there’s loads of very fit and muscley people who have similar BMI to me and I’m mostly fat. I understand BFP because that’s actually a measuring of the amount of fat on your body (maybe it wouldn’t be worth it to get BFP on someone who is visibly obese?) It seems like a way to categorize people and assign health or unhealth based on nothing being fat doesn’t make you necessarily unfit or unhealthy - and even if it did why would it matter

BMI is a reasonable indicator of body fat for both adults and children. Because BMI does not measure body fat directly, it should not be used as a diagnostic tool. Instead, BMI should be used as a measure to track weight status in populations and as a screening tool to identify potential weight problems in individuals.

ButterHimself:
For me I have always been fascinated for some reason by people who are generally fatter or have bigger bellies. Maybe it was a result of media and how fat people are portrayed, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve found myself being a lot more attracted to chubbier women in general. How do y’all this you obtained this kink?

FAMGM:
There is no “category” for all of those things. You’re obviously a feedist. Now just get on with exploring the fact of it, rather than worrying about the precise taxonomy.

Nijjrtman8:
What is a "feedist"?

FAMGM:
The fact you are here at all suggests you already know.

Or is it purely a random accident in an inherently chaotic universe that you have popped up here, on “fantasy feeder”, to ask what a feedist is?

Anyway, I’m off to bang my fat-faced, b-shaped mistress.

DoesntMatter01:
I never thought of a cruise as such of a potentially fun place for people like us 😅

Raboot The Admirer:
Absolutely. I can relate with a lot of what's been said on this thread.

Fat men always made me "feel funny", even before I started discovering my sexuality. After I actually developed and understood what sexual attraction was, for a long time I kept my preferences hidden. Sometimes I would stop and think about what would happen if the people I knew found out about what I like, and it was a bit scary for me.

Since I came out of the closet, however, I'm much more ok about it. I'll never reveal the feedism part of it but my friends know about my type. Telling them was a weight off my shoulders, (no pun intended). The sensation of being different never goes away but I'm not worried about it anymore. It doesn't make me inferior to everybody else!