Munchies:
Autistic woman here. Autistic men can and do have happy long-term relationships. I know several - including some who have married other autistic people.


Some proof of my statement instead ... whatever garbage you just pulled out of thin air.

1. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. At all. And if a woman cannot love you for being a virgin, then move on. Plus, if you lie, she will find out.

2. Deeply religious women are pretty common.

3. There's nothing wrong with being open about mental health issues, but you should never burden people with them. It's your responsibility - not theirs.

4. Yes, you should take care of yourself and your appearance, but that was just cruel.

5. It's good to put yourself out there, but having a lot of friends isn't inherently attractive. It's more about how you treat/interact with your friends.

6. You shouldn't hide your autism. There's nothing wrong with being autistic (not that we know for sure OP is). I don't hide it, and people accept me for who I am. What you *SHOULD* do is learn how to interact with people in a healthy, productive manner.

7. Do not encourage OP to prey on insecure fat women. That's manipulative and abusive. We want him to live his best life and be happy. We don't want him to be some creep you see on the 6 o'clock news.

Wat:
I did not say that autistic men never fall into relationships. I said it is an uphill battle.
Here is the proof of my statement that I pulled out of thin air: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5789215/
You will also see from that study that autistic women have a much easier time than autistic men.

1. No, there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. That does not eliminate the deep social stigma accompanied with it, especially for someone of advanced age.
2. Deeply religious people in general are a rarity today. If someone is engaging in premarital sex they could hardly be considered a devout Christian.
3. Being open is one thing but yes burdening others is another. Better to just keep it to yourself, there is no benefit to be had in telling others.
4. Reality is cruel. An autistic man is likely not going to be a smoothtalking coolguy.
5. Women are attracted to social status. OP being seen in a group of friends will send signals that he has social value and potentially level headed.
6. Autism is not a blessing. Autism is not fun. Autism is an illness that makes life harder and I know countless men that would lose a limb to be free of it. Generally the people more open about their autism are the ones who are less burdened by it, they use it almost as a conversation piece.
7. OP has a preference for larger women. There is nothing wrong with him pursuing them.

Wat:
I see you have autism. That's going to make things extremely difficult because studies show a majority of autistic men never have a relationship or intercourse. Autism is basically a mental illness that makes you as unattractive as possible to women but I managed even though they diagnosed me with it. (I honestly think I was misdiagnosed but I obviously still had some signs so the disadvantages were the same). Here are some tips from my experience since we may have a more similar background than the others posting:

1. Never tell a girl you're a virgin, lie if you have to. This is basically telling a woman that no other woman has found you attractive. Women cannot really understand an unwilling virgin because men are pretty much constantly begging them for sex and in your 30s it is going to be a massive red flag. Perhaps it would be different with a deeply religious girl but those are very hard to find these days.
2. Don't blab about your mental issues to them. You are admitting to having a defective brain when you do this and that's going to scare away a lot.
3. Never whine or self depreciate like you did ITT.
4. Looks matter a ton. You probably aren't witty or popular enough to talk your way around being unkempt or ugly so you're going to need to do a lot of research in improving your appearance and working with what you've got.
5. The more friends you have the better. This will not only widen your social circle to include more people that know women but also make you appear more attractive. Even goofy autistic friends are better than no friends in public.
6. Learn to mask your autism around people. Observe how normal people speak/behave and emulate them. Perhaps even record yourself to pick out certain things you didn't notice before and fix them.
7. Manage good hygiene.
8. Your pool of potential girls on forums like this is laughably small to the point of it almost being a waste of time. Even something like tinder would be a vast improvement. Lucky for you society sees overweight women as being less attractive so that increases your chances, there is no shortage of bigger girls in western countries. Keep the fact that you find fat sexually arousing to yourself until you are very comfortable in your relationship though.

You need to tackle these as soon as possible and it is not going to be easy. Going to therapy and not making drastic lifestyle changes is not going to bear fruit for a 30+ year old autistic man. A lot of therapy is about learning to cope with things rather than improve them and in my experience they are going to try their hardest to steer you away from even trying with girls.

Enas:
Okay the title had to be this short so I'll explain bellow:
When you think about a subject, do you generally tend to oversimplify it, or you try to hyperanalize it? That is, do you think about things with simplicity, or you think about them in terms of complex systems?
I'm really curious about it, because, I've realized it's something that has caused a lot of confusion when i talk with other people here. And im really curious to hear to what anyone has to say! I hope this thread will spark a healthy debate over the topic.
On that note i tried to write it as objectively and unbiased as i can, but i definitely have a side on that.
So, what about you all? Where do you belong in this spectrum?

Whitemalehunk:
So I asked him if he was ok with eating just junk food and having no one to take him to the gym. He responded by saying that he doesn’t really care he’ll just exercise in his room and use the snacks to bulk up. I don’t think he realises just how big he’s gotten. What shall I do next?

Whitemalehunk:
I stopped going to the gym to pursue gaining but because I was my friends lift to the gym he’s now not able to go. And with all my new snacks and fatty foods lining my fridge he’s packing on the weight too. He lived with me as a roommate for five years but over the past year he’s lost his six pack with me and I feel guilty.
He’s never complained about the weight but I feel like I should’ve already offered to talrijk to the gym.

Anyone got thoughts on this subject or and experiences?.

Miachu:
Love a women for what she is, Not what you want her to become

Spookyhoodlum:
this is just a fantasy...... I do love my GF...... my sexual fantasy is just that fanatsy. why does everyone get so fucking serious on here🙃

Spookyhoodlum:
Ive been with my girlfriend for over a year now, and she knows I like her more on the thicc side, but still complains about her figure sometimes. She literally has the figure that most women would kill for.....no belly, d cup tits, and a phat round butt. she lost quite a bit of weight after a medical issue. maybe around 50 lbs or so before we ever started dating. she was honestly a bit too skinny after her hospital stay. she put a little bit of the weight back on before we got together.
someone in her family must have really convinced her she was fat at some point cuz she's hyper aware of her body....... or at least was.
I tell her how beautiful she is everyday! so much so that she starting to believe me. she's put all the weight she lost back on❤️❤️❤️ she's back to her thick little self😍.....shes around 160 or 165 currently, but she isn't paying nearly as much attention to what she was eating as before! she's been eating whatever she likes recently. sometimes she will stuff herself with fast food before coming over to see me, then lay there and moan about how stuffed she is and how good everything tasted😋. I doubt she's caught on yet but when she complains about eating too much or about how she's getting fat, it makes me so fucking hard😅. I always try to *** brains out after feeding her! feed her absolutely anything she wants then lay her on her back or knees and make her moan!
so she really not anywhere near being fat right now, but she's definitely been gaining a bit since we have been together...........but thing is.....she has a twin sister....... who blew the fuck up over the past year. like easily 100+ pounds over less than a year. My GF thinks her twin sister got fat from birth control.😅 you carry water weight from the pill but it doesn't do all that from what ive read🤔 so her mom always been fat, her older sister is almost a ssbbw around 350.

Ive been told to look at the women in a girls family, if they got fat she will probably get fat at some point too! Her twin sister got huge in under a year, I think its gonna happen to her too🥵🥵.has anyones GF ever gotten fat by accident.? how did they deal with it? when did they notice? did they eventually learn to like being fatter?

MarkG302:
Is there some girl who like more slim or athletic type of body? Or all women there likes just fat guys? Im feeling sad cause im not fat so Im think Im not attractive for any girl here.

Grumbar11:
Seriously? As a guy whose been skinny, athletic, and fat during my life, it is MUCH easier to find fat women interested in athletic men. I mean, the other f site is rife with bbws and ssbbws who are looking for toned fit gentlemen.
Fantasy feeder just has an overabundance of fat guys in general.

Curby:
I was so big and full today that I was losing my balance. My belly jiggles when I walk. Am I going to start waddling soon??

Sava:
I would really like my wife to feed me and helps me getting fat.
But i don't want to tell her.
Maybe i can pretend to be someone else online, and convince her how hot it is?

Does anyone have some tips?