Morbidly A Beast:
My friends mother and his little sister fat shamed me, we go back to grade school lol said I threw away my body and that I used to be so handsome asking why I got so fat I mean granted the last time I saw them I was like 220 I’m now almost 400 I guess it’s kinda to be expected just wasn’t prepared for fat shaming first time I don’t know how people get off on fat shaming like this, I was just off put and embarrassed. I just kinda explained how I like food and stopped working out, she said clearly! He just pressed on not saying anything
I'm sorry, love. You didn't deserve that.
I think that, for most people, they enjoy it from an intimate partner that they know loves their body. When it comes from someone else that doesn't feel the same way, it hits different.
Of course, there are people who get off on fat shaming even though the other person means what they say. And for those, there's a bit of a thrill in rebelling against the status quo.
It's not for everyone.
2 years
Munchies:
I understand the desire to keep politics out of kink. A lot of people turn to kink for escapism.
But, for a lot of people, politics and feedism are intertwined. So it's a big ask to have people avoid politics when it comes to feedism - no matter what that person's politics are.
Tentacles:
In what ways does it intertwine with politics for you?
Munchies:
I frequently deal with a lot of misogyny and occasionally racism on this site. Fat people do face discrimination for their size - which is compounded by various intersectionalism. So, that's the biggest thing. But, there's also how patriarchy and societal norms influence this space as well. Not just for women but for all genders. I'm a domme feeder, so it's interesting how so many men on this site want to shrug off the burdens of hegemonic patriarchy so they can be emotionally vulnerable and taken care of.
Then there's the economic factor. This is an expensive kink. You must factor in food, clothing, medical care, etc. Then there's fatphobia in the medical industry. A lot of doctors will fixate on your "weight problem" instead of properly diagnosing you. There are horror stories for days on this site alone.
And on, and on the list goes.
Tentacles:
This seems like wider society being reflected in this community. While conservative types tend to stigmatise kinks it is obviously very different to being gay. On the topic of medicine I think the stigma may be even stronger in places like the UK where it may be perceived as wasting taxpayer money.[/quote]
Nothing exists in a vacuum. You can try to divorce your fetishes from reality, but the truth that the two are intertwined. And since you cannot escape the real world from influencing your kink, you can't really avoid politics. Even if you never talk about it, it's still a part of it.
2 years
VanessaPeru:
I’m 34 and I am diabetic for two years already and I feel like my body is being destroyed because I do not eat healthy food and the idea of suffering from all kinds of pains is really hot. Do you also enjoy being diabetic?
As a lifelong diabetic? That's a solid no. Frankly, I cannot, and do not, want to understand the appeal.
2 years
Munchies:
I understand the desire to keep politics out of kink. A lot of people turn to kink for escapism.
But, for a lot of people, politics and feedism are intertwined. So it's a big ask to have people avoid politics when it comes to feedism - no matter what that person's politics are.
Tentacles:
In what ways does it intertwine with politics for you?[/quote]
I frequently deal with a lot of misogyny and occasionally racism on this site. Fat people do face discrimination for their size - which is compounded by various intersectionalism. So, that's the biggest thing. But, there's also how patriarchy and societal norms influence this space as well. Not just for women but for all genders. I'm a domme feeder, so it's interesting how so many men on this site want to shrug off the burdens of hegemonic patriarchy so they can be emotionally vulnerable and taken care of.
Then there's the economic factor. This is an expensive kink. You must factor in food, clothing, medical care, etc. Then there's fatphobia in the medical industry. A lot of doctors will fixate on your "weight problem" instead of properly diagnosing you. There are horror stories for days on this site alone.
And on, and on the list goes.
2 years
AlphaTitan1235:
To give full context, I do have a pregnancy fetish and a chubby belly fetish, and I've never hid that fact from my wife, although I've never admitted to the degree in which I have it. To be honest I'm still fairly shy about that topic due to some drama in the past. Well the topic came up a while back where my wife asked "What would you do if I gained like 300 pounds". To which I jokingly replied "Well I'd probably leave you, just kidding".
I was joking with her but I felt awkward cause I didn't know how to tell her I would possibly find that attractive, but I wouldn't want that for her cause I love her so much. And given the fact that she's 4'11" and weighs less than 100 pounds currently, I know that much weight would severely hurt her. And i could never let her do that.
Well, recently, due to being on this site, I got the courage to tell her how I felt. In that I actually would like if she got a little chubby, and that I was trying to play off her question when she asked before. I'm just nervous that because I told her this it may make her want to change for me, and I don't want that. Can any of you offer any advice on this cause I'm fairly torn on the matter. I love my wife, and I just want to make her happy.
Munchies:
If a woman ever says "Would you love me if ___?", the answer always yes. Doesn't matter what. 300 lbs heavier, a worm, a table, 300 lbs lighter, etc. The answer is yes. She's asking you this question because she feels insecure and wants you to reassure her.
Just have a heart to heart with her. Plainly tell her what you want.
AlphaTitan1235:
Lol well I don't agree with the always say yes part. That's actually one of the things she always loves is when I just give a direct answer. And I know that cause she tells me. But only reason this question was different for me is because of the sensitive nature of the topic.
And I have, like I said when I talked to her about it, that's why I'm struggling a bit with it. I overthink a lot and I'm worried I may have screwed up bringing it up. Although it's probably nothing knowing my luck.
Also I I appreciate the input! Kinda didn't know where else to come to with this particular problem.
Be it as it may, it's incredibly crappy to say "If you were 300 lbs, I would leave you" and not mean it. It's crappy to say no matter what, but it's even crappier if you don't mean it at all.
2 years
Chubbyghost:
How do you gain if gaining 8lbs over 10 weeks gives you high blood pressure..??
What did you eat in those 10 weeks?
2 years
AlphaTitan1235:
To give full context, I do have a pregnancy fetish and a chubby belly fetish, and I've never hid that fact from my wife, although I've never admitted to the degree in which I have it. To be honest I'm still fairly shy about that topic due to some drama in the past. Well the topic came up a while back where my wife asked "What would you do if I gained like 300 pounds". To which I jokingly replied "Well I'd probably leave you, just kidding".
I was joking with her but I felt awkward cause I didn't know how to tell her I would possibly find that attractive, but I wouldn't want that for her cause I love her so much. And given the fact that she's 4'11" and weighs less than 100 pounds currently, I know that much weight would severely hurt her. And i could never let her do that.
Well, recently, due to being on this site, I got the courage to tell her how I felt. In that I actually would like if she got a little chubby, and that I was trying to play off her question when she asked before. I'm just nervous that because I told her this it may make her want to change for me, and I don't want that. Can any of you offer any advice on this cause I'm fairly torn on the matter. I love my wife, and I just want to make her happy.
If a woman ever says "Would you love me if ___?", the answer always yes. Doesn't matter what. 300 lbs heavier, a worm, a table, 300 lbs lighter, etc. The answer is yes. She's asking you this question because she feels insecure and wants you to reassure her.
Just have a heart to heart with her. Plainly tell her what you want.
2 years
YumNom:
Sounds kinda vauge what you want.
OP wants to live a vague life. They're well on their way.
2 years
Bdrip21:
Just discovered the thread, amazing work! Need an update on New years and also those kohls shorts from last summer. My wife has gained a bit but definitely not as comfortable with it, even with the praise I give her.
It's nice that you lavish praise on her. However, she may never be happy with her body at a larger size. Do you help her with any kind of weight loss or at least general fitness and healthy habits?
2 years
Luna Gorda666:
I quit my old job and now I work from home, I have no need to do anything outside. I'd like some advice
What is a vague life?
2 years
