I second this so hard.

I was about your age, San, when I started out at a gainer. I was 115 pounds, underweight, and put on about 5 pounds.

My mom flipped the heck out trying to convince me to lose weight. Even though at my height, that 5 pounds barely put me in the healthy weight range.

I had a couple of false starts with my weight gain, until I eventually realized that my mom was being dumb. Even more so when I decided I'd rather be muscular than fat. (Put on 50 pounds of mostly muscle at this point. Very proud of myself.)

She'd nag me a lot about how I was ruining my body. How no man would want me like this. I endured it in silence for a few years until I gained the nerve to put my foot down about it. Took some time, but I finally got her to keep her opinions to herself.

I'm 26 now. She doesn't agree with my choices, but she understands that her opinions do not matter to me. We've developed enough mutual respect to get to that point, but it takes some time to do that. I know you don't wanna hear it, but being patient, getting your money right, and being independent is really for the best.

Do whatever you need to do to be successful. Then you can afford not to listen to them about your weight.

There's really no need to tell your parents being fat makes you horny. I can't think of any person - no matter how close they are with their parents - that wants to talk about their sex life and fetishes. Tbh, I don't think any parent wants to know either.

What I will say is that you can set boundaries about the situation. Remember that your parents are saying this in love, but make it clear that you aren't interested in losing weight. Be respectful, but be firm.

It also helps to make sure you keep your health up so they have nothing to nag you about. Eventually, they will stop when you either prove their fears are unfounded or reinforce your apathy towards their opinion.

You are 19. You are going to do a lot of things your parents will not agree with. This is just a part of growing up and establishing independence. And I am certain they went through the same growing pains with their parents.

Eventually, you'll move out and you'll be able to let your freak flag fly. But for now, live in a way that makes you happy. Work on being independent so you don't have to hide or make concessions. It might be uncomfortable, but this too shall pass.

Depends. Are you two close? Friendly? Do they know you exist?

I got mine from making quality stories, positive contributions to the forums, and being witty and kind.

I appreciate you acknowledge you hurt people such as myself. I won't say I forgive you. But I do appreciate it.

I did see you sent me a message, but I deleted it without reading it. If you want to send me another message, I will read it. But I do not promise I will forgive you or agree to any further interaction. This is me giving exactly one chance to make things right.

There are so many other shapes besides apple and pear. Apple means you most gain in the upper body, while pear is lower body gains.

But there others like hourglass (even gains with a smaller waist) or ruler (even gains with no waist) to consider as well.

There are more, but that's just off the top of my head.

Looking at the pictures you posted on your profile, you probably stretched your stomach out to insane proportions. Meaning if you want to feel overfilled, you need to eat even more food than you already do.

You are welcome, hun. Glad I could help.

So, speaking as a feeder, I can't tell you how many times I'll have feedees messaging me with that kind of stuff. There's nothing compelling about it. No reason to pursue the conversation further.

Let me tell you how I met my feedee. He was the one to reach out to me, not the other way around. We connected on a personal level and discovered that we had a lot in common. Like, I'd talk to him even if we weren't being kinky.

So, when he asked me to be his feeder, I happily said yes.

Ok, but what is your approach? How do you talk to these women? I can't give advice if you don't give me something to work with. If you feel uncomfortable talking publicly, you can just shoot me a message.