Loving your body in public

Casual Gainer:
Update to my previous post.

So for the last couple of days I've been continuing to no longer suck my gut in after decades of doing so.

As before I've still yet to hear any comments.

But today I faced what I think was the ultimate challenge.....family.

In the end neither my parents nor my brothers seemed to notice or they didn't care, including the one who I especially thought would be the one to say something, in fact he joked about how I would be able to eat an entire Large pizza by myself (which of course I did).

Tl;dr: Nobody seems to care and I'm just going to continue being myself.


You will find that most people do not care about what you look like. Doesn't even matter what you look like. Most people won't give you a second glance. It's liberating to think about.
2 years

Legally qualifying for disability

Canderson206:
Hi folks,

My girlfriend and I are discussing goals for her long-term weight gain. She's willing to meet my needs up to a certain point, but she's a bit unsure about how legal disability might work if she becomes too fat to do most jobs. Its not the financial aspect we're wondering about, it's the legal aspect. She has a large amount of student loans, and as I understand it, she can be legally absolved of those if she goes on permanent disability.

Does anyone here have experience with qualifying for long-term disability once they reach a certain weight? Could you shed some light on how that worked for you?

If my gf could qualify as permanently disabled and get out from under her student loans by growing extremely fat, she'd be much more willing to do it. (Which I think is totally understandable).

Thanks in advance for any input.


Getting on disability isn't glamorous - especially since you are American. There are long wait times for approval, they ask some pretty dehumanizing questions, and there are a lot of loopholes you'll have to jump through. And they are subject to change as well.

You must also have less than a certain amount in assets and income. It's not uncommon for a case worker to make you sell off your possessions (can't be to a relative) so you can qualify. And once you're on it? Next to impossible to get off of it.

There's no shame in getting on disability, but the whole process to get on it is truly awful. So keep that in mind.
2 years

My wife wants to gain for me

HappyBigBelly:
Wow, I’m overjoyed for you just reading this :-) Pics as she gains, please!


Little weird to ask a person to post pictures of his wife for others to lust over.

Not that it matters. Home boy deleted.
2 years

What to tell friends and family when they comment on your weight/gain?

FatDave:
How observant. Expect me to get even fatter too. Simply put, fast food tastes too fucking good, and I'm way too fucking hungry to diet.


If you're gaining weight the fast food route, you gott supplement it with some healthy foods and maybe a multi-vitamin. You'll deprive yourself of important nutrients otherwise.

Plus, more calories are more calories.
2 years

What to tell friends and family when they comment on your weight/gain?

Ditzy:
Just be honest and tell them stop if they always comment about your weight.
Generally good friends won't say anything to purposely hurt you but may mention you have gained a few pounds.
I don't understand why people these days won't stand up for themselves.
You don't tell other people how to live or they have to be slim do you?
Of course you don't.
Sure I had people tell me I was getting fat I just didn't acknowledge their comments.

Munchies:
From what I can tell, it's always been like this. You got some people who have no problem stand up for themselves. You got some who struggle. That being said, most people online struggle with direct confrontation. So that's why is seems that people these days don't stand up for themselves.

J8o8h8n:
Yeah, I tend to fall into the camp of wanting to be everyone's friend/a people pleaser so that probably plays into me trying to avoid conflict/confrontation.


It's an impossible challenge. What makes one person happy will upset someone else. And you'll just be miserable the whole time.
2 years

I denied myself my sexuality all my life

I used to be thin too. Hated it. Now I'm thick. Enjoy that much more.
2 years

Nonstop buffet binge

Starfish:
We dont have many buffets here in the UK, but there is one which is a 5 minute drive.

I go every now and again and i always fantasize about staying as long as possible and eating as much as possible.

I need to go back its been too long lol

Munchies:
You should! It's only a 5 minute drive away. It's practically a crime not to go!

Starfish:
Oh i agree! They have such amazing dishes, coca cola chicken is a favourite, roast meats, indian, thai, sushi, pizza and a dessert bar!

Its my favourite place, and I need to start going so I can start improving on how many plates i cam finish lol but sadly money is always an issue


Easy fix. Make it a sometimes treat. Squirrel some money away and go to the buffet.
2 years

Gaining by developing a stuffing addiction?

AskDrFeeder:
Based on people I've chatted with, if you stuff to the max more than once a week you're likely to go out of control. E.g. one woman wanted to gain from 130 to 180 pounds. She couldn't gain until she started stuffing herself to the point she couldn't take a deep breath. She did that every day. Then she gained pretty easily. She quit stuffing like that when she got to 180 but was still in the habit of eating a lot and kept on gaining even though she didn't want to. When I chatted with her she weighed around 300 pounds and was still gaining.

J8o8h8n:
So you're saying that it might be a good idea for me to keep at it for a bit and stuff myself more often to increase my appetite and develop a habit of eating more?


Be careful with that. It'll be fun at first but less so as your body struggles to keep up. You risk a slew of things such as digestion issues, high blood pressure, joint pain, ect.

Weight gain is like weight loss. If you do it too fat, you can mess yourself up.

If you want to stuff yourself until you can't breathe, proceed with caution.

My partner and I enjoy extreme weight gain. He's a big guy. A about 470 - 480 ish lbs. He was 407 when we met. He loves it when we go on stuffing sprees. This is when we'd go days or weeks with near constant stuffings. I made sure to give him regular breaks, but it was still hard on his body. He developed a few mild health issues as well.

We've scaled back on doing such long stuffing sessions. He's also eating more healthfully. Once we've fixed all that, he'll go back to gaining for me, but as a slower pace. It's about finding your balance.
2 years

Roll call! any other autistic feedist in the house?

Wifestuffer:
Dom feeder, definitely have Tourettes

Like, can't control my volume, singing weird songs and shouting obscenities level


That's interesting. You should make a thread to see if there are other feedists who have Tourettes. But do you have autism? Because that's what this thread is about.
2 years

Cravings developed!

Jd00723:
Hi all,

To be succinct, I recently did a heavy cream gain for about 10 days, a small gain but nothing major yet.

Decided to pause for a day or two but I’ve developed a craving for it now and I really want to keep drinking it a lot. I’m talking a pint at least a day.

I get addiction to things like sugar. But can a body get addicted to fat? Why the cravings all of a sudden? It’s heavy cream but not mixed with anything else.

Any answers would be much appreciated.

Munchies:
You can get addicted to literally anything. If something creates enough dopamine in your brain, you'll want it all the time. Sugar, salt, fat, sour certain textures. The list goes on.

From our previous conversations, it seems that you were really enjoying the heavy cream.

Jd00723:
Thanks Muchies - you’ve proven a fountain of wisdom on all of this ha ha!


😅

Thanks, hun. I just know a lot of things about a lot of things.
2 years