Do some math.....that is about six pounds a month, or over five stone a year. Imagine if he kept that rate up for a couple of years?

It is hard to adapt to gaining that fast. I'd think maybe it is time to let him coast a bit--- he must have good gaining habits in place now that are apt to keep him growing without trying.

Just my two cents worth.

And this is why FFA are frickin awesome

Can it happen? Yes.

Is there some surefire way to make any given person change? I don't think so. Some will, but most probably won't.

Most of the people I've seen deal with really high weights well are people who were fat for a long time, giving their body time to adapt.....sounds like you have that one covered?

But the heavier you get, the less margin you have-- ie the easier it is to get hurt. One mis step can lead to a wrenched knee or sprained ankle that is a lot harder to deal with if you are very large, which in turn can lead to a rapid loss in mobility (talked to more than one person who went through this). Also knees, ankles, feet will get sore more and more quickly. Wear really supportive shoes, do stretching and varied excercises, and you can keep that aspect a bit lower, but physics and biology can only be held off so much.

Good luck, but please proceed with caution!

Fantasized about something like that? Oh yah!


Done it? Sadly no.


Enjoy the game, and the reunion!

In general I would say that actions speak louder than words, but the fact that he likes you paying attention to his belly just means he’s turned on by it…as you can see from reading here, people can turned on by fat in all sorts of different ways. If, for example, his feeling is that it is a disgusting sign of weakness, but having it acknowledged is a turn on, then he’s going to be pretty split on how he feels about the subject. More broadly, two people can like food, feeding, or fat, but differ vastly in the how and why of liking it. So even if he does like it, he may not like all the same things you do (like feeding each other).

My suggestion would be to do more experiments by actions before you try many more words. It is the season for feasting, after all! Then you can say “You seem to like it when I grab your belly, and when X and also Y. I love doing all of that too—it’s been really turning me on! I’m kind of greedy, so I’d love to do more of that sort of thing, but I don’t really know where your head is about it.” That makes it clear that you have a favorable view of it all, but that wanting it is an indulgence (by implication, with some self-discipline you could live without it), and you aren’t putting him on the spot with a ‘do you like it don’t you like’ question, rather you are asking him to air whatever thoughts he has on it. Basically it is grounds to start a discussion on the topic, which I suspect is what the two of you need.

In the discussion you can keep offering bits of encouragement and what you like about the fat stuff, but also your thoughts about health and stuff. Really key is to hear what he says without judging or analyzing it right away—you want to keep asking further questions that get him to explain his thoughts, not just get cut and dry answers. So if he were to say “Well, yah, I like women to have some meat on their bones.” Ask “by meat, do you mean muscle? Or fat? Or is either one good?” Or if he says “I like curvy, but not too big” you don’t ask “what is too big” but rather something like “Are those upper and lower limits from the same place, like it is the limits of what you find sexy? Or are they different, like she needs to be at least curvy to be sexy, but you worry about healthiness as she gets bigger?”

Keep in mind too that he could be trying to suppress his own fantasies for your sake!

Plan ahead so that you have food with you always, and make sure to eat something every 2-3 hours, whether or not you are hungry. This helps make sure you really go through a lot of food in a day. Also, it makes food central in planning your day, which is fun, and most likely will inspire you to eat more.

And what everyone else said

For me, easily my best way to gain is a permissive or, ideally, encouraging atmosphere, and then just steady grazing.....basically snacking all day, with the volume going up some around mealtimes. I can eat a LOT I this manner, and gain quite quickly. It is just having an atmosphere where I feel comfortable doing so that is key, so if I were with an encouraged, or even appreciator, that would make a real difference.

I'm probably the heaviest of my friends, barring my wife whose a smidge bigger than me. One of my friends got pretty big at one point but is a lot lighter again. Another may be close in weight, but is more muscular due to years of lifting weights.

However I keep up with them not too badly.