Munchies:
Nope.

sprays you with water again

Still not listening. Still missing the point. Will it take a man for you to start paying attention?

This thread exists as a way to have a dialog about how women and trans people can feel safer in kink space.

Some cis men (including you) waltz in with "solutions" that do not address concerns and miss the point.
...

Enas:
I didnt even attempt to provide a solution so far, i've only really pointed two things out.

You could say that i tried to define the problem clearly. That, ultimately, its about recognizing patterns of abusive behavior early (i think i said something like that). Do you think there is a problem there?

Stuffytummywriter:
still, props for trying! it's important!

The way to go i feel, if you have the energy to try again, is a discord server or some such with the ability to moderate who joins and/or who stays.

Men, much like small children, have not yet learned to self-regulate, so they need strict and impermeable barriers. Some will eventually learn and won't need the barriers anymore. They'll realise they can play with the 1000000 other toys available to them instead of throwing a tantrum over the one that they can't have right now. Or make their own toy just for themselves if they are jealous, instead of destroying the one someone else made.

Really really tired of men not respecting my boundaries and then acting offended when i say sth

Munchies:
The trans men tend to get it what with growing up as AFAB. Enbies tend to get it as well.

One thing that frustrates me is the whole "Boys will be boys" mindset. It absolves men of their agency to be better.

And they can be better. I've seen it. It makes the ones that choose not to be better look terrible.

Enas:
Its not just the "boys will be boys" but the entier culture that just screams narcissism all the time. Even the women who themselves say "I want a bad boy" are helping perpertuate this

Munchies:
sprays you with water

We are not doing this today.

Every time people like you go "Yeah, but women do this," all it does is shift the responsibility off of men and onto women to do better.

You are not helping. You are hurting. Knock it off.

Enas:
I think you missed my point. Im acussing the entier culture here, and im bringing the example with those specific women, so as to justify how broad of an accusation i am making.

Im not playing some cheap game of shifting the blame, i have zero interest, i've actually studied how culture perpetuates and reproduces itself and those kind of phenomena.

Obviously its then men who are, encouraged even, to do harm.

Stuffytummywriter:
still, props for trying! it's important!

The way to go i feel, if you have the energy to try again, is a discord server or some such with the ability to moderate who joins and/or who stays.

Men, much like small children, have not yet learned to self-regulate, so they need strict and impermeable barriers. Some will eventually learn and won't need the barriers anymore. They'll realise they can play with the 1000000 other toys available to them instead of throwing a tantrum over the one that they can't have right now. Or make their own toy just for themselves if they are jealous, instead of destroying the one someone else made.

Really really tired of men not respecting my boundaries and then acting offended when i say sth

Munchies:
The trans men tend to get it what with growing up as AFAB. Enbies tend to get it as well.

One thing that frustrates me is the whole "Boys will be boys" mindset. It absolves men of their agency to be better.

And they can be better. I've seen it. It makes the ones that choose not to be better look terrible.

Enas:
Its not just the "boys will be boys" but the entier culture that just screams narcissism all the time. Even the women who themselves say "I want a bad boy" are helping perpertuate this

Stuffytummywriter:
still, props for trying! it's important!

The way to go i feel, if you have the energy to try again, is a discord server or some such with the ability to moderate who joins and/or who stays.

Men, much like small children, have not yet learned to self-regulate, so they need strict and impermeable barriers. Some will eventually learn and won't need the barriers anymore. They'll realise they can play with the 1000000 other toys available to them instead of throwing a tantrum over the one that they can't have right now. Or make their own toy just for themselves if they are jealous, instead of destroying the one someone else made.

Really really tired of men not respecting my boundaries and then acting offended when i say sth

Mser:
Hey! So, to kinda introduce myself a bit better, I am nonbinary technically, but began testosterone back in august. I struggled with appetite and body image for most of my life, but after starting testosterone, I found my love for gaining weight, mainly from how goddamn hungry I get after a shot lol. I will say, while I feel lucky that, as I find this out, it has been very easy for me to pack weight on thanks to my transition, I feel like I kind of set this unrealistic weight gain standard by posting in a community of people who well… most people aren’t drastically altering their bodies makeup with hormones on. Is it bad to post images on this site in hopes of chatting with people here when I have this stark difference about me in a sense?

Anm90p:
So I’m into big BBWs like 300ibs and going (SSBBWs by then)

And I make sure I’m clear about it in my dating profiles, because no one is on here or feabie that’s even close to where I live.

I’m getting hits surprisingly from chubby women and BBWs.

What’a your take? If you don’t love her in her chubby you don’t deserve her in her USSBBW? Or look for bigger?

Thanks

Screemtee:
it only took me several years of being a feeder to realize i’m a little too into dom feeders😭 pray for my waistline. screaming into the void as usual

Munchies:
Lol, we are a force to be reckoned with.

Praying for your waistline to get nice and squishy 🙏🏿

Screemtee:
this is so your fault. Thank you for the prayers 🫠

Screemtee:
it only took me several years of being a feeder to realize i’m a little too into dom feeders😭 pray for my waistline. screaming into the void as usual

Makemegrow:
Is this one that will make you big

Quiver:
I’m curious if this happens to anyone else on a regular basis: FF notifies you that you’ve had a profile visitor within the last few hours, and says it’s a brand new profile, but they’ve clearly already deleted their account because it’ll just have no username and say “is new to the website. Why not say hello?”
Does this happen a lot to other people? I mean, it’s not a huge deal, don’t get me wrong, and it especially wouldn’t be a big deal if it were occasional. But it’s super regular in my experience, and I wanted to chat about it with anyone else who sees it a lot.