She wants to lose weight, you want her to gain, but you don't want to see her unhappy? It sounds like she is unhappy when she gains and happy when she loses. You either need to let her decide what weight she wants to be since it is her body, or you need to find someone who is willing to gain.

I do not see locations on anyone's profile.

I have. I was at the Million Pound March in Los Angeles and I marched in front of the White House. I also went to Hallmark card stores protesting the fat jokes on their cards.

Not as long as the diet industry makes billions of dollars off of fat people hating themselves.

For me, yes. I noticed the larger girls in school, and I did not dislike them. But I didn't realize that I preferred them until I was in my 20's.

I hate to say it, but I don't see how this can possibly work out, unless you want to become obese. It's almost like a sober alcoholic and a fine wine connoisseur getting together. You are going to be around someone who likes to get people to eat, and yet food will set off your eating disorder. I think if you stick with him, you will be binge eating constantly, just because you can, and he wants you to.

My ex wife was a compulsive liar who did what she wanted rather than discuss things and come to a compromise with me. I did not trust a single thing she said to me when we were married, and I did not trust a single thing she said after we were divorced. She was the butt of jokes with her friends, who not only didn't believe a word she said, but also constantly made fun of her behind her back.

Fetishes really aren't anyone else's business, as long as you are 18 or older. If anyone mentions it, you can just tell them you don't mind gaining. You don't need to tell them you are gaining on purpose.

If you do those things, she may feel that she has to prevent herself from being tempted. But if you do absolutely nothing, she may let go. So watch how she reacts, and keep this in mind.

It sounds to me that the wants to turn you on, but doesn't want to gain any more weight. But, if you really want to know, you'll have to have a talk with her.