Great advice no need for pressure just take your time.
It was hard for me to gain in the beginning and it took many months to see any changes.
I don't know how many times I would gain 10 lbs the next month or so I would lose 9 of it.
We are all different so one size doesn't fit all so to speak.

Welcome and I agree joining up here is a good first step.
We all started somewhere and had our share of questions.
Asking questions is how you learn right?

Oh you know you have gained weight but you don't think its as much as it really is so that is a kind of denial I have experienced.
I had been 275 lbs for close to 2 years and I figured I had reached a plateau.
I went on a months vacation with some friends and really didn't think much about what we ate and I put on some weight because I could feel it. Heck we all did LOL
Had a Dr appointment several months later and was shocked to see the scale say 315 lbs and I said there is no way I am that big.

The first 60 lbs I gained was out of spite (long story, cheating husband).
Years later after losing the spite weight I found I missed being a little chubby.
I guess it was more of a need for me because I never got into the fetish part of it.
The subsequent gains were on purpose until I was over 250 lbs.
As far as goals I think 250 ish was sort of a goal but when I hit 250 I just let go and didn't worry about how much I gained because I enjoyed getting heavier.

In reference to your first post: I am not sure why you wonder about something like this?
Also why make everything about skin color?

Members only so you actually pay to talk to someone?

Guess I was brought up different because seeking sex online is just creepy because you have no idea who you are dealing with.
At least a hooker on the street you know what she or he is all about you pay to play so to speak.
I know these days you have guys and girls that have never been out of the house figuratively speaking and never dated or experienced being in a relationship.
They want sex but have no idea how to go about it so they ask online because thats all they know ie get it online.
This fetish has so much of a fantasy aspect is hard for some to ascertain a genuine person from a scammer out to do them harm.
The problem for many I would think is they are so desperate and needy they think this person won't be like the last one that screwed them over and they fall for the scammer again.
I trust very few people online/ real life and learned my lesson a long time ago to stay away from online sex related stuff.

Very possible.
If you sound needy scammers will take advantage of you.

If you are online looking for sex maybe you shouldn't be doing it if there are so many scammers out there.
If something isn't working the way you want it too why keep doing it?

You should be aware there are people here that claim to be experts on gaining weight but they themselves aren't overweight.
I would be more apt to follow what a real overweight person or an active gainer suggests than someone that has no real world experience.