Point taken. It's just the term I've heard used. I guess I mean "celibate"?

Has anyone had a Platonic feedist relationship? That is, you meet in person, and the feeder feeds or provides food for the feedee but there is no sex?

If so (please put these questions in the past tense if appropriate):

1. How long has the relationship lasted?
2. How much has the feedee gained?
3. How many times have you met?
4. Do either or both of you have a significant other whom you DO have a sexual relationship with? Do they know about the feedist relationship?
5. How's that working out?

Yeah, I guess the good thing about numbers is if you're heavier or your measurements have increased, you KNOW you're fatter. Visually apparent gains can be thrown off by camera angle, context, what pose you're using, and what you're wearing.

I can't see any point in telling her unless she's worried or confused about your behaviour.

Numbers are just a poor proxy for visible gain.

In the case of women on Feabie, the straight non-feedees greatly outnumber the bi and lesbian ones.

Among feedees, there are slightly MORE bi-sexual women than straight (789 to 781).

The percentage of lesbians in both groups is a little under 10%.

My own pet theory is that feedees are their own objects of attraction and so for a lot of them the sex of the partner doesn't matter so much.

I could do the same analysis for men on Feabie but I think most gay male feedists are on grommr which would throw the numbers off.

Worked for this woman: growingcurves.blogspot.com/

Yes, people switch pretty often.

As I child I had both feedee and feeder fantasies, but after puberty was feeder only.

I think there's more acceptance of diversity in general, or at least I hope so!

How about the pros and cons of NOT gaining?

Pro: Trendy and superficial people will like you better.

Con: Going through life and never living your dream.