Munchies:
You don't have to if you don't want to. It's all about what makes you two happy.

Besides, you're already stepping outside of your comfort zone just by being a switch. I can't imagine doing that, even with my partner who has my complete trust. Simply not built for it.

MickRidem:
I get that. I think for us right now it's fun to stretch the limits *a little bit* at a time. We have lots of years to expand and pepper in a few new thing here and there. There's no rush, and as he enjoys it I'll learn to add a bit more that we would both enjoy.

But more than ever now, I'm looking forward to becoming the piggy/toy again soon. LOL!

MickRidem:

Munchies:
Ha ha! Nice. Kudos on the pool game.

What's your domination style?

MickRidem:
Ha! I don't think I have a "style" yet? Soft Dom? A little bondage, light spanking, teasing, ordering him to feed me and making him repeat what I say. Blindfold was a quick no. Using him as my charcuterie board was a yes. ☺😏🤣

Munchies:
Nice, nice. Very cute. Love the charcuterie board thing. Very sexy.

I switch between hard and soft domme. Depends on my mood.

MickRidem:
I think I would have to learn a LOT about being a hard dom, to make sure I'm playing safe and inside of his preferred zone. I'm not sure how much I'd enjoy it though, it's a stretch for me to think that way, as I've been a sub almost exclusively for so many years.

And, spreadable Brie cheese worked very nicely. Fattening and delicious, licky licky! LOL!

MickRidem:
Update!

The power switching has been interesting! We really had to keep up with open conversation as I didn't really know what he liked as a sub or where his limits were. I had to be okay with doing things "wrong" or trying something new and not getting it perfect. He had to be patient and guide me a bit more than usual. It's been a great learning experience. It's like getting to know him in a new way! 😁❤ Also, spanking is 🔥🤣

As for my weight? As "The Boss" and calling the shots... I only maintained my weight. No additional gain. I find that interesting. I didn't push myself as hard and only indulged when I was "in the mood" LOL!

Dec is my bday month, so I might ask him to switch back and see if that will put a little more poundage on me before the end of the year. I'm sure the holidays will help! I definitely want to be bigger and heavier, and the fact that he's into all of this with me now is just ...heavenly.

This Game has been so fun, and incredibly hot. And I'm starting to see people recently who haven't seen me in almost 6 months and it's so awesome. LOL! My friend (who happens to be a personal trainer) was really struggling not to look or say something. 🤣 I let her off the hook and brought up the elephant in the room. 😏 I thought she was going to gain when I jiggled it.

But I'm also noticing as I go out into the real world, that this is my reality, I don't go back to being skinny in public and fantasy-fat at home. Catching my reflection and knowing it's me, is wild. And I still don't know if I'd be seen as just chubby, or if people would see me as a fat guy yet? (At 5'4" and 183lbs I'm technically obese?)

We played pool a week ago, and ☺☺☺ I couldn't play the way I used to! I can't hover over the table to reach a shot, my belly moved the other balls! A few times I pinched my belly between the table and my belt OW! And other times my lower belly fell into the corner pocket. 🤣😝

I still beat him 3 games to 2. 😏

Munchies:
Ha ha! Nice. Kudos on the pool game.

What's your domination style?

MickRidem:
Ha! I don't think I have a "style" yet? Soft Dom? A little bondage, light spanking, teasing, ordering him to feed me and making him repeat what I say. Blindfold was a quick no. Using him as my charcuterie board was a yes. ☺😏🤣

Startnew:
Look Lora, I dont understand why this is warming you up so much. I never said I "solely wanted male attention" but even if I did, so what? Nothing wrong with that. That's not even what I said, however. I just said it would be interesting to get a male perspective too.

Second, you are the one deciding this "WILL hurt me" and that it will "prevent me from finding the right guy", when in fact I am not looking for any guy at all.

Third, you havent even read what he writes. How would you like people to judge your erotica novels without reading them, just because someone who judges so much cant have fun and erotica is supposed to be fun? Or telling yiu that, because of your negativity, you are just fooling yourself into believing you are happy with your size, which is what you claim on your profile?

Gee, you are giving this guy a lot more attention I do. I never thought it was his responsibility to validate my self-esteem. I dont even care what he thinks. I was just curious. Didnt think you would resent my curiosity so much. May I be blunt too? You sound jealous. I am not surprised tho, cause often girls are the ones bodyshaming other girls. It's no wonder people talk about "catty" behavior. Maybe you should write a novel about it.

Munchies:
Wow. The copium is strong. You took an internet stranger's earnest plea to check yourself before you wreck yourself, and you lash out and insult them. It's sad. She was being so nice and polite to you too.

You are a messy, messy person. You and the married dude deserve each other.

Startnew:
Girls, you make me laugh. Coupling to bully a girl for the sake of women's rights on a website like this, calling her a mess and the like. You are funnier than SNL. You are right, I get what I deserve: a beautiful guy whom I am getting naughty with. Wonder why that makes YOU feel uncomfortable

Munchies:
I'm just calling a spade a spade.

I am very curious as to why you don't want to leave Mr. Married and find someone else who's single. You never did explain that. The only reason that makes sense is that you are too scared to try and you've caught some kind of feelings for him.

Does his wife know about you? Have you two talked to each other?

Startnew:
The only reason, which btw doesnt concern you, is that it's harmless FUN. Why so curious anyway? Dont tell me you are developing a crash on me, babe

Munchies:
Why would I have a crush on you? I'm not gay, you're not much younger than my mother, and you clearly make bad life choices.

And judging by the fact that you are avoiding the question, she doesn't know about you.

You are the other woman. You are in an affair. This automatically makes it harmful because, at the very least, you are hurting his wife. And assuming you two are about the same age, there may be kids involved as well.

Is this really what you want?

Startnew:
Poor you. You think that age-shaming people will help you win an argument when, in fact, you are just jealous of all the attention another woman is getting. You dont even know the difference between real, Frantic phisical passion, the one that makes you feel like a happy heartquake and a few flirty messages here and there, which makes me think you are actually still a virgin. Which would be ok, except it's not your choice.

Munchies:
I am very confused. It almost sounds like you want a 27 year old to be sexually attracted to you.

You shame me for my singleness and virginity (not that there's any shame in that) but forgot about an earlier post I made in this thread where I clearly indicate that I have someone.

Most of all, you are still avoiding the meat of my statement. You are an in an affair. Your actions have consequences. You and your lover are actively hurting at least one person. Maybe more, if he has kids. And if he says he doesn't, can you really trust him on that?

If he'll lie to her, he'll lie to you.

But clearly, you get off on being disrespected and treated like trash. So more power to you, I guess.

Startnew:
FOLLOWING: Submission and humiliation section. So I really dont understand the concern.

FIFTH: IT's the Submission and Humiliation session. It's not the Holy Inquisition. So if you want to burn the witch, yiu are a few centuries late.

SIXTH: I am not in an affair, just exchanging a few flirty messages. Your obsession with judging women confirms your frustrated bigotry.

All in all, you are a very sad person. Best of luck, you are gonna need it.

Startnew:
Girls, you make me laugh. Coupling to bully a girl for the sake of women's rights on a website like this, calling her a mess and the like. You are funnier than SNL. You are right, I get what I deserve: a beautiful guy whom I am getting naughty with. Wonder why that makes YOU feel uncomfortable

Munchies:
I'm just calling a spade a spade.

I am very curious as to why you don't want to leave Mr. Married and find someone else who's single. You never did explain that. The only reason that makes sense is that you are too scared to try and you've caught some kind of feelings for him.

Does his wife know about you? Have you two talked to each other?

Startnew:
The only reason, which btw doesnt concern you, is that it's harmless FUN. Why so curious anyway? Dont tell me you are developing a crash on me, babe

Munchies:
Why would I have a crush on you? I'm not gay, you're not much younger than my mother, and you clearly make bad life choices.

And judging by the fact that you are avoiding the question, she doesn't know about you.

You are the other woman. You are in an affair. This automatically makes it harmful because, at the very least, you are hurting his wife. And assuming you two are about the same age, there may be kids involved as well.

Is this really what you want?

Startnew:
Poor you. You think that age-shaming people will help you win an argument when, in fact, you are just jealous of all the attention another woman is getting. You dont even know the difference between real, Frantic phisical passion, the one that makes you feel like a happy heartquake and a few flirty messages here and there, which makes me think you are actually still a virgin. Which would be ok, except it's not your choice.

Munchies:
I am very confused. It almost sounds like you want a 27 year old to be sexually attracted to you.

You shame me for my singleness and virginity (not that there's any shame in that) but forgot about an earlier post I made in this thread where I clearly indicate that I have someone.

Most of all, you are still avoiding the meat of my statement. You are an in an affair. Your actions have consequences. You and your lover are actively hurting at least one person. Maybe more, if he has kids. And if he says he doesn't, can you really trust him on that?

If he'll lie to her, he'll lie to you.

But clearly, you get off on being disrespected and treated like trash. So more power to you, I guess.

Startnew:
Omg, this is really so much better than SNL.

First of all, I dont care what you do with your pussy, but it's pretty obvious it doesnt make you happy. And if you have someone it's even worse, because your frustrated bigotry tells me that he cant really satsfy you.

Second: why the hell would I read your posts? What do I care about? Although you are so hilarious that I might actually become a subscriber.

Third: I dont need your attention, I like guys and lots of them are into the BBW/MILF type. Ask your mum, since you say I am only slightly younger than her. Although if she is like you she probably doesnt have a clue.

Fourth: I do get off on being humiliated and threated like trash, as long as I give consent. I even enjoy waterworks. Maybe I even enjoy getting a toilet brush stuck into my pussy, Although it wouldnt fit, since I am all thight down there.

MickRidem:
Update!

The power switching has been interesting! We really had to keep up with open conversation as I didn't really know what he liked as a sub or where his limits were. I had to be okay with doing things "wrong" or trying something new and not getting it perfect. He had to be patient and guide me a bit more than usual. It's been a great learning experience. It's like getting to know him in a new way! 😁❤ Also, spanking is 🔥🤣

As for my weight? As "The Boss" and calling the shots... I only maintained my weight. No additional gain. I find that interesting. I didn't push myself as hard and only indulged when I was "in the mood" LOL!

Dec is my bday month, so I might ask him to switch back and see if that will put a little more poundage on me before the end of the year. I'm sure the holidays will help! I definitely want to be bigger and heavier, and the fact that he's into all of this with me now is just ...heavenly.

This Game has been so fun, and incredibly hot. And I'm starting to see people recently who haven't seen me in almost 6 months and it's so awesome. LOL! My friend (who happens to be a personal trainer) was really struggling not to look or say something. 🤣 I let her off the hook and brought up the elephant in the room. 😏 I thought she was going to gain when I jiggled it.

But I'm also noticing as I go out into the real world, that this is my reality, I don't go back to being skinny in public and fantasy-fat at home. Catching my reflection and knowing it's me, is wild. And I still don't know if I'd be seen as just chubby, or if people would see me as a fat guy yet? (At 5'4" and 183lbs I'm technically obese?)

We played pool a week ago, and ☺☺☺ I couldn't play the way I used to! I can't hover over the table to reach a shot, my belly moved the other balls! A few times I pinched my belly between the table and my belt OW! And other times my lower belly fell into the corner pocket. 🤣😝

I still beat him 3 games to 2. 😏

MickRidem:
Ooooh. Are they like long underwear or do you have underwear beneath them? Do they help keep the shorts down, or you just have better coverage when they ride up?

Startnew:
Look Lora, I dont understand why this is warming you up so much. I never said I "solely wanted male attention" but even if I did, so what? Nothing wrong with that. That's not even what I said, however. I just said it would be interesting to get a male perspective too.

Second, you are the one deciding this "WILL hurt me" and that it will "prevent me from finding the right guy", when in fact I am not looking for any guy at all.

Third, you havent even read what he writes. How would you like people to judge your erotica novels without reading them, just because someone who judges so much cant have fun and erotica is supposed to be fun? Or telling yiu that, because of your negativity, you are just fooling yourself into believing you are happy with your size, which is what you claim on your profile?

Gee, you are giving this guy a lot more attention I do. I never thought it was his responsibility to validate my self-esteem. I dont even care what he thinks. I was just curious. Didnt think you would resent my curiosity so much. May I be blunt too? You sound jealous. I am not surprised tho, cause often girls are the ones bodyshaming other girls. It's no wonder people talk about "catty" behavior. Maybe you should write a novel about it.

Munchies:
Wow. The copium is strong. You took an internet stranger's earnest plea to check yourself before you wreck yourself, and you lash out and insult them. It's sad. She was being so nice and polite to you too.

You are a messy, messy person. You and the married dude deserve each other.

Startnew:
Girls, you make me laugh. Coupling to bully a girl for the sake of women's rights on a website like this, calling her a mess and the like. You are funnier than SNL. You are right, I get what I deserve: a beautiful guy whom I am getting naughty with. Wonder why that makes YOU feel uncomfortable

Munchies:
I'm just calling a spade a spade.

I am very curious as to why you don't want to leave Mr. Married and find someone else who's single. You never did explain that. The only reason that makes sense is that you are too scared to try and you've caught some kind of feelings for him.

Does his wife know about you? Have you two talked to each other?

Startnew:
The only reason, which btw doesnt concern you, is that it's harmless FUN. Why so curious anyway? Dont tell me you are developing a crash on me, babe

Munchies:
Why would I have a crush on you? I'm not gay, you're not much younger than my mother, and you clearly make bad life choices.

And judging by the fact that you are avoiding the question, she doesn't know about you.

You are the other woman. You are in an affair. This automatically makes it harmful because, at the very least, you are hurting his wife. And assuming you two are about the same age, there may be kids involved as well.

Is this really what you want?

Startnew:
Poor you. You think that age-shaming people will help you win an argument when, in fact, you are just jealous of all the attention another woman is getting. You dont even know the difference between real, Frantic phisical passion, the one that makes you feel like a happy heartquake and a few flirty messages here and there, which makes me think you are actually still a virgin. Which would be ok, except it's not your choice.

LoraDayton:
I'm going to be blunt: you are putting words into mouths that no one is saying and openly stating you solely want male attention, then coming here asking why a man is giving you half-assed attention. No one is "over reacting" eg there is no outward pouring of emotion here. You are placing your need for validation onto the shoulders of men who will not even validate themselves. This is bad for you, objectively.

I never said anything about anyone *having* to be in a relationsihp; I literally validated the fact that you don't have to be. But respect is STILL the foundation of *any* interaction with someone regardless of its depth and you WILL get hurt if you do not accept that standard for yourself.

You are hurting yourself now by refusing to listen to what people are telling you. You are still shouldering the responsibility for this married dude who is fatphobic and reading into actions and between lines for him and excusing his behavior. You are doing his emotional labor for him because that distracts you from doing yours for yourself. You asked for advice and you got it, but it's not hte advice you want. Because it's not advice you want, it's validation. They aren't the same thing.

Just because his behavior may have reasons, valid or not, doesn't excuse his actions and how they can and do harm you. It doesn't give him permission to treat you that way and yet that's exactly what you're doing.

That's your choice. I am just pointing out that it WILL harm you.

Startnew:
Look Lora, I dont understand why this is warming you up so much. I never said I "solely wanted male attention" but even if I did, so what? Nothing wrong with that. That's not even what I said, however. I just said it would be interesting to get a male perspective too.

Second, you are the one deciding this "WILL hurt me" and that it will "prevent me from finding the right guy", when in fact I am not looking for any guy at all.

Third, you havent even read what he writes. How would you like people to judge your erotica novels without reading them, just because someone who judges so much cant have fun and erotica is supposed to be fun? Or telling yiu that, because of your negativity, you are just fooling yourself into believing you are happy with your size, which is what you claim on your profile?

Gee, you are giving this guy a lot more attention I do. I never thought it was his responsibility to validate my self-esteem. I dont even care what he thinks. I was just curious. Didnt think you would resent my curiosity so much. May I be blunt too? You sound jealous. I am not surprised tho, cause often girls are the ones bodyshaming other girls. It's no wonder people talk about "catty" behavior. Maybe you should write a novel about it.

Munchies:
Wow. The copium is strong. You took an internet stranger's earnest plea to check yourself before you wreck yourself, and you lash out and insult them. It's sad. She was being so nice and polite to you too.

You are a messy, messy person. You and the married dude deserve each other.

Startnew:
Girls, you make me laugh. Coupling to bully a girl for the sake of women's rights on a website like this, calling her a mess and the like. You are funnier than SNL. You are right, I get what I deserve: a beautiful guy whom I am getting naughty with. Wonder why that makes YOU feel uncomfortable

Munchies:
I'm just calling a spade a spade.

I am very curious as to why you don't want to leave Mr. Married and find someone else who's single. You never did explain that. The only reason that makes sense is that you are too scared to try and you've caught some kind of feelings for him.

Does his wife know about you? Have you two talked to each other?

Startnew:
The only reason, which btw doesnt concern you, is that it's harmless FUN. Why so curious anyway? Dont tell me you are developing a crash on me, babe

MickRidem:
It seems I just can't walk with my legs apart enough to not have the shorts bunch up between my newly fat thighs. I was pushing/pulling the sled at the gym, and up they went. My boxer briefs stay down so that's OK. As I moved across the floor I thought, it's not like I can hide how fat I am anymore. I'm okay with people dismissing it as, oh-fat guy.

So, really, there's no "solution" for this I guess. If it gets more uncomfortable (as I get fatter?) I'm going to find sweatpants.