Startnew:
Thanks but really, I think you are overeacting. I was just curious about his attitude. I find sometimes people make mistakes in good faith and probably that's what he is doing. If you grow up in a world where they tell you that making fun of fat people is ok, a mild joke on fb will not seem like a big deal, so probably that's the place he is coming from. But he still likes curvy or even BBWs or he wouldnt talk to me.

As for me wasting my time. I dont want to be the one who is overeacting now, but why assuming I MUST find someone? Being a gf is not for everyone, it can be extremely boring. Some people are happy being single, whereas others just think it's better if it happens naturally rather than us (especially the girls) being on the lookout.

Thanks anyway for your time.

LoraDayton:
I'm going to be blunt: you are putting words into mouths that no one is saying and openly stating you solely want male attention, then coming here asking why a man is giving you half-assed attention. No one is "over reacting" eg there is no outward pouring of emotion here. You are placing your need for validation onto the shoulders of men who will not even validate themselves. This is bad for you, objectively.

I never said anything about anyone *having* to be in a relationsihp; I literally validated the fact that you don't have to be. But respect is STILL the foundation of *any* interaction with someone regardless of its depth and you WILL get hurt if you do not accept that standard for yourself.

You are hurting yourself now by refusing to listen to what people are telling you. You are still shouldering the responsibility for this married dude who is fatphobic and reading into actions and between lines for him and excusing his behavior. You are doing his emotional labor for him because that distracts you from doing yours for yourself. You asked for advice and you got it, but it's not hte advice you want. Because it's not advice you want, it's validation. They aren't the same thing.

Just because his behavior may have reasons, valid or not, doesn't excuse his actions and how they can and do harm you. It doesn't give him permission to treat you that way and yet that's exactly what you're doing.

That's your choice. I am just pointing out that it WILL harm you.

Startnew:
Look Lora, I dont understand why this is warming you up so much. I never said I "solely wanted male attention" but even if I did, so what? Nothing wrong with that. That's not even what I said, however. I just said it would be interesting to get a male perspective too.

Second, you are the one deciding this "WILL hurt me" and that it will "prevent me from finding the right guy", when in fact I am not looking for any guy at all.

Third, you havent even read what he writes. How would you like people to judge your erotica novels without reading them, just because someone who judges so much cant have fun and erotica is supposed to be fun? Or telling yiu that, because of your negativity, you are just fooling yourself into believing you are happy with your size, which is what you claim on your profile?

Gee, you are giving this guy a lot more attention I do. I never thought it was his responsibility to validate my self-esteem. I dont even care what he thinks. I was just curious. Didnt think you would resent my curiosity so much. May I be blunt too? You sound jealous. I am not surprised tho, cause often girls are the ones bodyshaming other girls. It's no wonder people talk about "catty" behavior. Maybe you should write a novel about it.

Fat Heidi:
Guys who are into humiliation etc won't give you a true answer. They would most likely use you to make fun of you and tease / make fun of you. Just read the threads here in this "domination and submission" section. They won't tell you their true feelings. Maybe anonymouslybut not under the names they are known here. Talking real talk would destroy the images 😉

And liking isn't always "liking".

Somebody proof me wrong.

Startnew:
There is this guy I am in touch with on fb, who is just gorgeous. And he seems to like me too: he always likes my pix and sometimes we even sext, although it's more about exchanging flirty messages. However, when commenting fb posts on random groups, he will crack the occasional fat joke, not about me or at anyone else 's expenses, just in general. Ofc, he is married to a really thin girl, but I dont resent him for that. People may fall in love for different reasons and anyway he lives abroad. I am just wondering what could motivate a guy to act with such a lack of consistency. Mind you, my pix are recent and unfiltered because I want people to see the real ME, so he certainly noticed I am a BBW. How can you like some characteristics and at the same time make fun of them? I have slight preference for short guys, but I am nit tempted to make fun of them

Munchies:
Girl. This man is traaaaaaash. Don't waste your precious time on him.

He's a married man stepping out on his wife with a woman he doesn't even respect.

Let it go. Let it ride. Find someone else who will love and respect you. Don't settle for the first guy who pays you attention, because not all attention is good. Love yourself, girl.

Startnew:
I dont know, maybe there is something about my post implying I have feelings for him, but it seems to me you guys are kinda overeacting. He is married and we exchanged a few flirty messages. Then I found out he made a few mild fat jokes. Not at my expense, just in general. I think you guys are seeing this under a very dramatic light. Hope I'll get less raged opinions.

As for him being married: I am not overjoyed about it, but it's just harmless fun

Startnew:
There is this guy I am in touch with on fb, who is just gorgeous. And he seems to like me too: he always likes my pix and sometimes we even sext, although it's more about exchanging flirty messages. However, when commenting fb posts on random groups, he will crack the occasional fat joke, not about me or at anyone else 's expenses, just in general. Ofc, he is married to a really thin girl, but I dont resent him for that. People may fall in love for different reasons and anyway he lives abroad. I am just wondering what could motivate a guy to act with such a lack of consistency. Mind you, my pix are recent and unfiltered because I want people to see the real ME, so he certainly noticed I am a BBW. How can you like some characteristics and at the same time make fun of them? I have slight preference for short guys, but I am nit tempted to make fun of them

Luciscool:
I’ve only recently began committing to the idea of letting go and fully gaining weight. I am currently 270 pounds, have the ability to stuff a ton of food, but I want to get back to my peak weight at 292 and get to 300 and beyond. I lost weight when I went to college and went down to 240 and slowly got back to 270 without trying. My main question is how effective is heavy cream and how much can I drink every day to gain as much as possible. I have heard it sits heavy in the stomach but what I eat or drink doesn’t really effect me, so how much could I drink per day for the rest of the year and how effective would it be. I have heard it is like magical weight gain substance for some and just a good way to soften up for others. What should I do to gain the most? By what I’ve seen it’s just eat a lot then drink heavy cream when I wake up and go to sleep, but I want some second opinions.

Ssbbwari:
Me personally as someone who’s 600+ lbs, I’ve taken to slowly become more in love with different parts of my body, while I love the fact my belly hangs and has tons of cellulite I also really enjoy the inside of my thighs & the backs of my legs. The amount of rolls and crevices between the fat is my favorite part. The softness, jello like cute cups of fat are always expanding into bigger rolls the more I grow. I absolutely adore my back fat and side boob, it’s just like one gigantic piece of meat hanging off my body. Either way, I’ve learned to love all of me even the parts I wish were fatter.

ShyFeeder:
Regardless of if they enjoy eating without regard or not, secret feeding isn’t generally respected in this space, nor do I believe it should be. There are so many great opportunities to indulge food wise, but I think consent should always be the first line or you’re only going to make things muddier down the line when navigating sexual communication.

CuppaJoe:
Hi, All-

Wanted to get some advice regarding skin care and weight gain. Any of you who know me on here are aware that I recently have switched from feeder to feedee and I'm enjoying the recent extra pounds that have found their way on me.

I'm not asking any of you to be a doctor, and I'll absolutely go to a dermatologist if anything gets worrisome, but i have two quick questions regarding skin care and weight gain. If any of you had any experience or feedback, I'd be thankful:

1. I don't have any stretchmarks yet, but I've noticed little red bumps - almost like a weak version of a prickly heat rash - have shown up on my love handles. They don't hurt and don't itch - they wouldn't bother me at all except I've never had chub on my body and I'm not sure if this is normal. I'm guessing that it is the result of increased contact with my shirt fabric as I've gotten fatter, but I thought I'd see if any of you have had this experience.

2. I've noticed that cuts take longer to heal. I have a few cuts and scratches from lawn care and outside work that seem like they're taking longer to resolve.

I appreciate any input!

Larpus98:
It’s not over the counter but I’m on mood stabilizers and they cause very rapid weight gain.